Sushpective:Remarriage 4 rituals/ legality? - Page 5

Originally posted by: .Mandy.

And Mandy, face it Nadz there is competition for Nandu's love 😳 😆

Originally posted by: spirit

I didn't realise how long my post was, until I posted it, it's a long story!!

Read at your own risk. This is embarrassingly long...and I suspect does not really make much sense...

ps. @NadzGirl, not so fast girl, 😈The road to NaanduBaandu is not as clear as you may think😍Here comes spirit.

Originally posted by: veeps

Hiyas Sush... the best part of this badi moti may be almost shaadi is the stories we are getting from everyone about their own weddings and yes, we might be here in the west and all that but in the end the traditions and the rituals do mean something to us and hold a place in our hearts...And most of it , honestly, is just about all the people you love ( and a heck of alot of them that you don' know at all) all being happy for you and celebrating for you and with you...

The people aspect makes up for a lot of my wedding memories...

A very nice write up...😛

Originally posted by: spirit

I'm glad two people brought back two things to everyone's attention.

Manorama, for all the inconsistencies in her character, does say some of the most sensible things at times. These two have been living as a man and wife with the family for six months crying out loud! Let's not make this a bigger joke than it already is. My views being a second wedding, assuming what arnie says is correct about the first being legalized and acceptable in the eyes of the law, is not really needed. But this is a fictional show on starplus, I suspect this big fat wedding is needed to let the leads do the deed😆..if nothing else..lol. Enuff said.😛 And yet another SR drama, it's a trp goldmine😆

And if no one bothered, the bride-to-be comes adorned with a managalsutra and a sindoor , someone show her a mirror already. See not even a hypocrisy personified dadi can tell her to take that one off! Tell me something, what is an incomplete marriage, either it is or it isn't? 🤔

If its legalized, I wish they had made her voice out her desire on the lines of wanting a traditional wedding not this chant of an incomplete one., which makes them both look like dimwits.🤔

Im curious, would she have dared to walk out on him on the grounds of this marriage being incomplete in her eyes, after the warning bells were raised in her head, even if dadi had not been privy to what transpired on the terrace that night? Pity we will never know, how she would gone about rectifying that now.

But trust him to show her a thing or two about what is real...very much beyond the tangible., a reality that not even she can deny but one that binds them already! And one that is key to their marriage. He makes her not only blurt out but realise what hez been saying all along. That she is already his. So my question is, what will these rituals significantly change, esp., in this context? Social acceptance!? Perhaps...and a growth in her, I see her transforming to mrs.asr even before these rituals are complete, it began when she dared to defy the dadi dictate to confess to her husband...and it is an ongoing process. May be this is all worth it for this alone, and our hopes of the female lead growing a backbone will be fulfilled. And it's not all about her but also him, who has to fully understand the ramifications of his wrong actions, and his redemption for the lack of a better word, this is yet another part of that ongoing process. But for them to start afresh, the contract bit has to come out. Yikes, if it means another round of khushi ridicule, I don't know if I can sit through it.

But I'm curious,

Will the completion of all of these wedding rituals change the perception, image and love the members of the Raizada family have for khushi from what they already know and feel for her?

Will these rituals change dadi's views, if at all about khushi? Will it really make any difference? If yes, brilliant,but if not, then what? For at this point, her singular objective seems to be breaking this alliance, in any way she can. What is her motive behind all her actions?

And for the sake of the story, I wish this dadi wasn't shown as one dimensional. Is she really that cold that there is not even one moment of tenderness or introspection anywhere? Even a Shyam was much more real than this lady has been shown to be so far. Not even in her interactions with Nani, do you get a sense of mutual respect from both sides, it's a one way street so far, and that's being gracious from a Nani. Dadi is taking a lot of liberties with her friend, and it threatens to destroy what Nani has painstakingly built up in the past fourteen years that she has been missing, how long before Nani takes a stand? Dadi has a long way to go. So much pride,...is that what messed up everything to begin with?

There is a subtle layering that's being done here, I like the creative team in that one, and how they are playing out that point...and connecting with the past. Do rituals and traditions make a marriage or is there something more? For two marriages at least in this family were probably carried out upholding all traditional rituals and beliefs, but were they successful? where and why did those individuals err? Why did Anjali's first to be wedding fall apart on that fateful day?

Arnie's parents and Anjali/Shyam marriage...what made them fall apart? what was the missing chip that even all the rituals in the world couldn't bind them together happily? What was that missing ingredient? Are multiple families paying a price for dadi's inability to recognize truth and understand the reality behind human emotions, when it mattered, or her son's weakness, maybe?

Forward next to Arnav/Khushi marriage, one that was seemingly at odds with all things traditional, but it has withstood all kinds of tests., what holds it together that not even the seeming absence of rituals cannot tear them apart? In a way, they are more married than most others. But I do understand this need for social acceptance and having to pay for your mistakes, but then again, my grudge being if was legalized, then this chant of incompleteness does not make much sense. I'm going by the assumption, that it is legalized, and the Harvard educated business tycoon took care of that legality to begin with.., especially given what he said a few episodes back, 'my legally wedded wife'. May be this is just creative liberty😳

So what does this remarriage achieve, imo, it will give dadi one less but crucial ammunition to attack khushi with., and let everyone else enjoy that moment that they felt was robbed six months back, when arnav/khushi married in haste.. If nothing else, this should allow everyone to let go of that grudge...and move on. That and some happier memories to replace the doom nd gloom of that night., and yet in weird way nothing can change what happened that night six months back.,and what has transpired in these six months. That will remain in essence their true wedding.

I'm sure no one minds, seeing a happy Arnav khushi being blessed by their respective families, they deserve that much. despite the ticking time bomb that travels with them like a constant companion...in the form of that clouded past.

I thought, arnie barging in like that wasn't at odds with who he is, he does what he does. Can you see an aakash barging in like that and seeking out Payal?

Originally posted by: -Sush-

Hi Veeps! Good to see you here😊!

Weddings...and rituals are related so much to the emotional aspect of ones being that many times logical explanations fail to rationalize them completely...but we are irrationally predictable human beings...aren't we?

Nice post there Sush! The great Indian wedding, now if that's not a TRP puller I don't know what is. I think I shared before on the Sushpective that I am a sucker for all things festive; weddings included. I do not necessarily understand the significance of every ritual but most of them are quite fun.

Originally posted by: nrao77

Hi Sush,
I have been a silent participant so far, but did want to write to you. I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts and look forward to them. Your thoughts and views are very mature, balanced and make a lot of sense. Everything you say is so bang on. Thank you for sharing with us.