If hugging Shyam makes Khushi impure...Edited - Page 4

Originally posted by: tia.o

I'd like to make a few points here.

1. ASR was in a live-in relationship with La when he was this close to kissing Khushi on Diwali night. Promptly followed by his engagement announcement to La... In spite of that, he is considered having a character. So basically, according to some people, you only have to be faithful when one person puts his official stamp on someone, verbal commitment means nothing. A man is allowed to emotionally cheat a woman but a woman is not allowed to do so. That night ASR cheated La and Khushi within a matter of minutes.

2. When Khushi got engaged, ASR manhandled her like he has any right to do so when he was preparing for his own wedding. We were thrilled to watch his passion, but does he have a character or in any position to preach about it?

3. Shyam was married, but Khushi was not. So if Shyam hugs her, he should be called characterless, not Khushi. Yet, ASR bullies Khushi. Why? She is an orphan, powerless, a woman. Why not use your power on Shyam? Because he is man and your equal? As much as ASR looks hot when he is passionate, he is a bully. He is as manipulative as Shyam. The difference is their intentions. One is protecting his family, the other is aiming for something else. But bully nonetheless. And I have no respect for bullies.

4. After Khushi got married, ASR never saw her in Shyams arms, so the first logic does not apply anymore. If he can berate Khushi for her past relationships (which by the way is all in his head), then Khushi has a right to call him characterless for talking with La after marriage.

This is called double standard... Plain and simple...

Originally posted by: rima

i agree we are conservative in many asian countries. but to what level are they showing it in the show? the man can live in and be intimate with a girl while a girl is called characterless for a hug?

Originally posted by: ---Nisha---

Rima I have different standards of purity. I dont believe being pure means not doing the physical act of hugging or having sex or whatever it is you do. Being pure is a feeling that one gets about themselves. A man or woman can hug or make love to as many people as they want as still be pure. Purity is a social construct that is severely biased in favor of men because men who sleep around as known as studs and women who sleep around are known as s**ts. And it appears this forum is filled with socially conforming, hypocritical people as well. Glad to see you stand up against the injustice every single day. I may not always comment on your threads but I do take the time to read them because you bring some sanity into this hypocritical, judgmental, biased (always in arnav's favor even when he is clearly wrong) forum.

Originally posted by: rima

thank you. u know what i am a traditional and conservative person myself. but my hackles rise up when i see injustice to women and shows like this accentuate it. i did not know such a femnist streak exists in me till saw some views here and i saw how the cvs are packaging the show as a 'purity' issue. how i hate it. thanks for reading the posts. makes a difference.

Originally posted by: rima

you my dear friend get a sanding ovation from me for this.

i am questioning the double standards of people through this post especially of people who are making this show. why are they conveying this message?

yes asr may love khushi but he bullies her which makes his treatment more unbearable, whatever be the reasons

Originally posted by: rima

but when he was watching khushi draping the saree for la and taking off the lights and kissing her during diwali he was in a relationship with la right? why did he do it then? so a relationship is a relationship and he shouldn't have done it too right?

Originally posted by: rima

oh my mom was the same. my brother could do whatever but not me. i was not allowed night outs.

but in this show we are talking about a high flying tycoon who rules the fasion industry. and this is what he does to a poor little girl?

i agree he is hurt and not thinking logically but if she turned back and asked him what did you do with la and if you were with la why did you try to kiss me on diwali what will he say?