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tanthya

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Posted: 13 years ago

Hey All,

What was your thoughts on today's episode, to me it was a episode that left you asking for more !! ..More Garima- Arnav Scenes, More Garima-Buaji scenes, more Khushi-Arnav scenes, More Gupta-Arnav Scenes 😊

Let me begin my post by responding to the PM I got , Regular readers will remember that few REDUX back, watching Khushi's antics I had said This antics are nothing but Arnavification of Khushi !! ..Today I got a PM wondering whether we are seeing the 'Khushification ' of Arnav !! ..Let me emphatically state , NO !! we are not seeing the Khushification of Arnav Singh Raizada .

"The caterpillar turns to liquid before turning into a butterfly. Liquid. Thus washing away any speck of his caterpillar self as he lies completely vulnerable to his environment in his chrysalis shell.
Hippie, Snowflake Obsidian: Memoir of a Cutter

Chrysalis !! Metamorphosis !! Yes, Arnav Singh Raizada is facing a Young Life crisis , The caterpillar is on its way to becoming a butterfly but can Arnav Singh Raizada jump the gun and become a Butterfly straightaway, No, Isn't it.. He too must undergo all the birth pangs, all the pain, all the changes , He has to pupate , Morph and then out of the cocoon, tearing that hardened husk will emerge a vibrant Butterfly ...Arnav Singh Raizada is at Chrysalis stage and yet to get to Butterfly stage, Things will not be smooth, don't be lulled by the calmness of his demeanor, things will be rough, sometimes cruel, sometimes ruthless BUT Patience will yield its reward ..Patience will bring out Arnav from the cocoon named Arnav Singh Raizada !!

This episode was not about the 'Khushification ' of Arnav but rather the genesis of Arnav ,Agreed the birth is still at a nascent stage , one quick puff of wind, the fragile Arnav will shatter hence he has not yet let go of his cocoon yet, The changes are happening within the cocoon, his safety net but the cocoon by itself is thinning allowing us to see the outline of the new being .

Remember few moons ago, the scene where Anjali comes and speaks to Khushi, counsels Khushi on dealing with Arnav. Recollect What Anajli says,"Arnav does not know how to express his love but his heart is filled with love , he is the kind who withdraws into himself at the slightest touch of love , You have to draw him out " Then followed the famous mirror scene ..I had said that the answer to Khushi's question's lies with chotte and not with Arnav and that episode set the tone for emergence of chotte. ..

Chotte is a young boy who has a huge chott [wound] in his heart , a never healing wound , A wound which prevents him from expressing his love coz he has been scarred , hurt ,traumatized by events which was beyond his control, beyond his age, beyond his maturity ..over the years, The wound developed a scab , The scab hardened the outer shell and the wound festered inside always sending shooting pains ..The only antidote was Love without any expectations, Love without any strings attached, Love that accepts him with all his warts .. can it be bought , Can it be created , can it be produced ..Nay , Nope, Nada !!..Where can such a love be found ..It can be found only in the heart of a Mother ..there is a saying in my Tongue ' Kaakai-kku Than Kunju ponn Kunj '..meaning to a crow , its own offspring will be the most beautiful one , the golden one ...Arnav too was yearning for such a mother to whom he will be the golden boy , A mother who will accept him with defects and will not indulge in comparison . He could not find that heart in Raizada Mansion yet he did not complain, nor protest .. Arnav quietly took the responsibilities of running the house while inside, his heart begun to wilt, the flames of his hopes weakening, fading and he slowly begun to freeze , become lifeless .. When into his life came Khushi, bringing in the thaw but even Khushi could not erase the desolation , the coldness residing in his heart..She thawed him , making his heart malleable again, making him aware of the colorful world again but she could not get him to respond to the joys of the world.. That required quite another heart ..Khushi was the doorway to that heart and that heart belonged to Garima !!..When Arnav met with unconditional love, when he understood that this family does not have any expectation from him, when he realized that HIS happiness matters to them ..He begun to relax, the carefully built bastions begun to crumble, the shields were lowered ...chotte begin to peek out , yes, he has not emerged fully, he is still cowering in fear, * years of isolation does that * But Chotte has found sanctuary , he has started to take baby steps in the art of expressing , He has begun to disprove the prophecy of Anjali that Chotte cannot express love and at the same time is proving Anjali right when his love encompasses two lower class woman and he treats them with the same courtesy and deference that he reserves for his own!! Today we are seeing Arnav struggling to come out of Arnav Singh Raizada's shell & It most definitely is not 'Khushification of Arnav ' !!

The learning graph of Arnav rises steadily north as he begins to understand the working of the underbelly society ..He has begun to realize that the people might be starved for food but they make up for it in pride, they might be found wanting in Material wealth but are rich as Croesus in emotional wealth ..I loved the moment when Arnav authoritatively exercises his sadda haq , and brings in the rations..No fuss, no flowery speech, no appeal to their emotions..A matter of fact statement tinged with humor certainly a first for the brusque Mr.Raizada .

Unhe Amma Kahiyena ; Yes, Khushi has been nagging him about calling Garima Amma, in a way , this is a assurance she seeks , a security she is looking for but she fails to recognize the emotional upheaval this evokes in Arnav Singh Raizada ..As expected Arnav explodes .. What surprised me was not the explosion nor the bitter words thrown at Khushi but the very fact that he chose to explode so intensely about a private moment in front of people he is getting to know ..Arnav is intensely personal about his private life so how then can you explain this explosion that happened in front of everyone..??

Garima and Buaji are happily cooking their damaad some tasty food when they are disconcerted by Arnav's absence..they begin to forsee some dire happening when Arnav walks in carrying his peace offering ..without beating about the bush, he admits that he cannot call anyone as 'Mom'n that he admits that he was wrong in blowing a valve ..A Man who had stood very proudly at the very doorstep arrogantly claiming"Arnav Singh Raizada Kabhi Sorry nahi boltha " on a dark night is now apologizing for his actions not once but twice !! Look at the change in reaction, earlier his arrogance was met with anger , today his candor is met with acceptance and he is embraced with whole heart by the family who are not interested in the tagging but are only concerned with emotions invested in a relationship ..he is accepted despite his refusal to kow tow their lines, he is loved despite him acknowledging that his love prolly may not match up to their's..Arnav Singh Raizada finally is intromitted into the world of Gupta's where there is no value for Money cos it is worthless , where there is no value for love since it is priceless !!..Arnav Singh Raizada begins to bloom in such a vibrant, caring, affectionate environment ..In the above para I had asked why then did Arnav blow up in front of everyone ..Arnav could blow up bec he has accepted Gupta House as his Home !!

We finally had the much needed conversation between Arnav And Khushi ..each outing their angst , If Arnav bituwa was not so sunk in his own pain, he shud and could have latched on to the fact that Khushi said that she will never lash out in anger against his family members ..He could have pondered why will she not lash out against Anjali, obviously the roadblock keeping Shyam away from her, why not against Shyam, who is not leaving his wife..but that then is reserved for another track *Sigh* ..we see Arnav rushing out to mollify his wife by getting her some golgappe ..He does not force her, coax her , pamper her the way Shyam did, he gently places it on the table, allowing everybody to partake from the snacks, does not volunteer to help them out but sits back and enjoys the sight of his family snacking on something he bought with relish !! If y'day it was the taste of his world, today a wiser Arnav gets them their world and watches them enjoying it with a small smile on his lips ...I am sure that Arnav would be reminded of Carlisle song," Heaven is a place on earth" and thinking that this must be that place !!

I also loved the small scene that happens just before Arnav ..Buaji and garima are at the table, Garima solicitously enquiring whether Buaji needs half cup of Chai to tide over the time , Buaji firmly refusing and waiting for the Damaad to come ..This was a typical Middle class attitude where first prefernce is given to the guest and if he also happens to be the Damaad then the respect and courtesy just increases , contrast this with RM where the members did not wait up for the family and did their own thing when they wanted or when they pleased ..members were called if they were present but there was no waiting up for his arrival.

Another fav Moment when Khushi wants to eat the Golgappe which Arnav bought for her but pride prevents her and at the same time she understands that if she did not eat, Arnav will get angry again...That was a sweet,teekha moment where her pride and her greed was at work ..Also loved how Arnav watches each display of emotions with interest, mirth, suppressing guffaw, getting entranced , amused but never able to tear his eyes away from her ..

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Damn the episode. I informed Tant that I will be not making any analysis and she said, "fine but ' reserve kar ke rakh le and if you feel like writing then pen down". I said yup, will do that. Believe me for the first time I was happy that - "Chalo, today there is actually no need for me to write as all I have explained in the previous Reduxes and everyone practically knows what has happened and what's supposed to happen and I started to concentrate on my work and completely tried to forget the episode". But, could I??? NO. There is 1 thing that clicked my mind since yesterday and I wanted to touch base on that today and then 2 things added on to that.

1. Mother's Day is on May 6^th

2. "Ghatiya" ghar - Freudian slip by Arnav

3. Baad mein hum "Rasoi" mein jagah bana lenge.

The relation between Mother with Kitchen. The difference between calling one "Mother" and making a place in your "Mother's Heart". The importance of calling one "Beta" vis-a-vis allowing him to be as "One". Yeah, all these are dealt with subtlety. I will not go into details of the episode with Class v/s Heart and Shyaam v/s ASR but what I will touch upon is going to be the next mini track for IPKKND. Yes, this track is called - "ASR and Garimaji".

I hope you all remembered how I have spoken about Garimaji and her character earlier but today I will not get into the details of that, rather a much more complicated analysis related to this track. Let's start.

What does "Kitchen" stand for??? What is the significance of a "Kitchen"???

Kitchen is the heart of the house. Kitchen is mostly emphasized as the center and the most active place of the home; kitchen is where you will find most Mothers working; kitchen is the heart and soul of any mother for she believes in nurturing her children through food prepared by her; kitchen is the place where you can be creative and this is the most active place in the house. This is the significance of "kitchen" in a literal sense.

Let's see what kitchen stands for in Metaphoric way:-

The kitchen symbolizes the emotional life of a person; it reflects the need to work through your current situation using your heart rather than your head. For most families, the kitchen is a place of warmth and nourishment (emotional as well as physical).

Yes, when Arnav said - "baad mein hum rasoi mein jagah bana lenge", he actually meant he will earn a place in Garimaji's heart. Now, the most important question here is - "If it is tough for Arnav to accept Garimaji as his Mom then is it equally easy for Garimaji to accept Arnav as her son"??? Tell me??? My answer simply is "NO". Just because he is married to Khushi doesn't allow him to call Garimaji as "Amma".

First Arnav has to earn that "Authority" and then he can call her "Amma". Otherwise it will hold no importance. Period.

"Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother" ~ Oprah Winfrey

In the words of Osho - "To be motherly is a totally different phenomenon. It is something absolutely human; it transcends animosity. It has nothing to do with biology. It is love, pure love and unconditional love. When a mother loves unconditionally -- and only a mother can love unconditionally -- the child learns the joy of unconditional love. The child becomes capable of loving unconditionally. And to be able to love unconditionally is to be religious. And it is the easiest thing for a woman to do. It is easy for her because naturally she is ready for it".

Today's episode made me revisit all the characteristics of a "Mother" and the unconditional love of a Mother. When Garimaji, became the Mother of Khushi and Payal, they were at their tender ages and then she stretched her arms towards them and embraced them with joy, love and happiness. For kids like Khushi, Payal or even Bubbli, it is easy to accept one as their Mother but for a grown up man like Arnav is it so easy??? Can that be??? Can he place someone in his Mom's place when day after day he had burnt himself with the memories he weaved with his Mom. Till date, he regrets for not saving his Mom and bring her out of "Death". Arnav was a teenager when he lost his Mom and by this age one never forgets the loss of one's Mother for the entire life. He simply can't.

The same way Garimaji is a gem in terms of "Humanity". She will embrace anyone with open arms like she embraced Shyaam Manohar Jha too but really did she place Shyaam in her heart??? After what Shyaam did to her daughter did she ever try to defend him like a son??? No. Never and why will she do that??? This is the difference between Motherly love and Humanity. She is a good human being but Shyaam failed to enter her heart and make a place for himself in her heart. How many of you want Arnav to turn out like Shyaam later on??? No one right??? Yes. This is why the innuendo came - "baad mein hum rasoi mein jagah bana lenge". This meant Arnav will make a place for himself in Garimaji's heart. Let me take you all through that process. How???

Arnav has to mend all the wrong doings first and then, only he can make a place for himself in Garimaji's heart. This is the message of today's episode.

I. Khushi's Fashion Show Footage Release:-

This is one place where his ill reputation started to make a foundation with the Guptas. That day when Khushi came back empty handed with the file and witnessed that Payal was left alone in the Holy Mandap, she faced the wrath of a "Mother". That day Garimaji was devastated as a Mother but still was calm and composed while handling the situation. The next morning they had visit the money lender for they had to repay the loan. While coming back on the way they witnessed the "Footage" of Khushi falling in the arms of an unknown man that was being telecasted across all the news channels. It was in the middle of the street and then faced with the goons who started taking advances on Khushi. That was the moment when Khushi's "Adopted" Parents felt helpless and needy of help and support from the humankind. Then, entered the real "Devil" in their lives ' Shyaam Manohar Jha. Now the question is who had put them in this CROSS ROADS??? Who??? Yes, the mighty Mr. Arnav Singh Raizada. This was the "First" mistake by ASR but did Garimaji point any fingers towards him yet??? No.

II. The Guest House Incident:-

Then Khushi entered AR Designs and one day with not much of ASR's fault, Khushi was trapped in the distressed building. ASR rescued her but he was smacked that day by Payal and Buaji. This news reached the ears of her parents - Bauji and Garimaji. They strictly instructed her not to resume office and resign from there. That was the first time they were shown a little agitated with the "Pride" of Arnav Singh Raizada and his actions. This was the "Second" mistake by ASR and did Garimaji and Bauji point any fingers towards him yet again??? No.

III. ASR throwing money in advance for the Trainer job offer:-

Arnav when Anjali appointed Khushi to be Lavanya's Trainer, ordered her to leave this job immediately. Then upon insisting to bring her back by Anjali, Arnav once again came at the doorstep of the Guptas' slammed the advance money on the face of Khushi. Ignoring Buaji and Payal's advice Khushi accepted the offer to save her Bauji's Sweet Shop that was completely unknown to these three. Khushi had to start working again for the Raizadas in need of some money. But, that day, ASR's pride of being Rich and his remark on Khushi doing anything for money became a reality for him. This was the "Third" mistake by ASR and he brought himself down in the eyes of the Guptas and especially Garimaji. Did Garimaji still point any fingers towards him??? No.

IV. Bauji's Medical Bill:-

By this time Khushi and Arnav has built an equation but the ill reputation of ASR was still the same in the eyes of the Guptas. Then Bauji had a paralytic attack and ASR paid the entire medical bill. It was Diwali then and ASR was greeted well by the family not because he paid the medical bill but because he was Khushi's Boss and he was respected like one. That was the "First" good encounter ASR had with Garimaji and Bauji. Did she still show any kind of displeasure towards him for his actions??? No.

V. Shyam's Reality:-

Then came the moment when the entire Gupta family once again been pushed to the edge with Shyaam's true identity. Did they ever back track why that happened since Shyaam was related to ASR??? No. they didn't as that moment they only thought about the deception and Payal's future in the Raizada family. Garima is also a mother of Payal and because of one daughter she cannot sabotage the happiness of the other. I know that was not a right decision but somewhere it's the Mother's heart also we need to understand. Like Ronald Reagan said ~ "No mother would ever willingly sacrifice her sons for territorial gain, for economic advantage, for ideology".No one. Garimaji was just being a mother there to Payal as for the sake of one daughter how will she sabotage the life of the other, that too for the second time. The moment she will know that ASR paved the way for Shyaam to enter GH, then that day Arnav will definitely see a Mother protecting her daughter. This was all due to ASR and his "Fourth" mistake which is still unknown to Garimaji. What will happen when she will come to know that Shyaam is the reason for her husband's paralysis??? Just wait and watch.

VI. Khushi-Arnav Wedding:-

When Khushi and Arnav appeared in front of the family after being wedded, then it was Garimaji who slapped Khushi for this immaturity and sudden decisions and not even informing them. We all know why she did that 'coz as a Mother it was a hard blow to Garimaji. She didn't say anything to Arnav because what Arnav did was his upbringing but she had all the rights to scold and be angry with Khushi for she toiled day and night, year after year just to raise the little girl she adopted and brought her home. Hell yeah, she had every right to scold Khushi that day and be angry with her. This was the "Fifth" mistake and still Garimaji didn't point any fingers towards Arnav as she still have no idea that the marriage is "Contract Based". How will she react when she will know that this man who is claiming himself as her "Damad" is just a faade and an illusion??? What will she do and how will she react then??? Any guesses??? Oh yeah, we all know.

These are all the mistakes ASR will have to correct one by one in order to "EARN" a place for himself in Garimaji's heart. The same way as Garimaji is earning respect for herself in ASR's heart, he will also have to work towards absolution and then, only then both of them can understand each other. When ASR will understand Garimaji and her unconditional motherly love, her patience, her empathy, her caring for her children, her generosity, her mental strength and stability and her choice for absolution, he will definitely make this "Ghatiya" ghar as his home for as I say - "Home is like a haven in a heartless world" and make a place for himself in her heart (Rasoi) for as Marion C. Garretty quoted ~ "Mother's love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible".

P.S.:- I sincerely wish that this track doesn't end during Mother's Day weekend but rather during Father's Day weekend in June as we need much more time for this and don't rush on this 4 Lions.

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Posted: 13 years ago

Tanthya,

What a sweet episode!!! For me, today was all about Arnav and the small boy who still lives within him, who misses his mother and who was deeply hurt by her actions. We are seeing Arnav coming out of ASR, we are seeing him trusting again, we are seeing him opening up but last time we saw this, his world came crashing down on his head. I am afraid history is going to repeat itself but will we see the rise of ASR again or will we see a strong Arnav searching for truth? I guess we will know soon enough.

Loved everything that you have written till now!! **Will wait for your complete update**

Below is my analysis:

"Meri koi maa nahi hain...mar chuki hain meri maa"

Arnav is not a person who loves easily. He is a big-hearted man but there are very few people who are very close to his heart and one of those had been his mother. He was very close to her and he loved her a lot. His mother was his world and he thought that the sun rose and set at her feet. He trusted her like he trusted nobody. She was the only person on whom he was a dependent. Thus when she committed suicide, it was big shock for him. Something inside him broke and he became a lost boy, a broken person.

In a space of few hours, he not only lost the family he knew but he also lost his home, the place where he was born, the place where he grew up. He was thrown out of his house with only the clothes on his back and a photo frame. All the things he had known became unreachable for him. The only person he had for support was a sister, who was broken herself, who had not only lost her house, her parents but also had received a stigma of a broken marriage that broke on the wedding day itself. Thus, both this broken souls started on a journey, trusting no one but each other, each healing itself in their own ways, each taking the place of a parent in the other's life. Arnav became the father, the bread-winner for the family, Anjali became the mother providing him with all the love and support that he required but never asked. Thus, Anjali became the most important person in his world, she took the place of that women in his life who he loved more than life itself.

For anyone a mother is the most important thing in the world and it was true for Arnav too. Thus when he lost his mother, his sister, his only family became one of the most essential things in his life because he had already experienced the pain of losing one. Her happiness became his only goal. Hence, when he realized that his sister's life, his sister's happiness, that person's happiness who has taken the place of the mother in his life, in his heart is in jeopardy, he started taking steps against it. He did not want any pain, any hurt to reach her and for that, he could go to any lengths. Circumstances showed him only one path and using his survival instincts that have always helped him, he walked on it without a hitch in his step, achieving his goal in the process. He did not think about anyone or anything. He only thought about his sister, the mother and ended up hurting each and every person connected to his life and his new wife's life. But did he feel guilty, YES , did he care, did he think he had done wrong, NO and even today he does not and hence he has not apologized, yet, for his that action

Saying all this, now he has come to stay with people, whom he has given hurt, whom he has caused pain. For them, he is a hard hearted man, he is an angry young man, an emotionless person. He is a person who has always caused them problems, who married their daughter without seeking their permission and who has yet not given an explanation for his that action. They have these prejudices against him but their values, their big heart, their culture will not allow them to show their displeasure to their son in law and hence in-spite of their misgivings, they welcomed him with a big heart, with all the love and respect that was due to him. In return,were they surprised? Yes, because they are not seeing the angry, hard hearted man. They are seeing this big-hearted man, who has his own way of showing love and care. They are seeing a man who feels guilty and who cannot bear that anyone feels even a twinge of worry because of him. They are seeing a man who will never compromise his comfort but will also ensure that everyone around him do not have even a small amount of discomfort. They are seeing a man who if he thinks his action is wrong will go an extra mile to ensure that the hurt is eased, the pain diminished. Not only Guptas but even Khushi is seeing that person, of whom she had seen glimpses before but who was lost to her from so many days, who she knew existed but had disappeared since that fateful day.

But would all this be enough for them to understand his action against Khushi, the big sin that he committed against their daughter. IMO, NO. For them to really understand the "why" of his action, they need to understand the pain he had felt due to his mother's deception, her suicide and today was all about that. Today, they got a glimpse of the gap his mother has left in his life and what a big contribution she has in making him the cynical man he is today. They realized how much pain his mother's untimely death has caused him and how much hurt is buried deep inside of him. Today was important because only by understanding this, they will be able understand the place Anjali has in life, they will understand the importance of Anjali in his life, the value of her happiness in his life.

Khushi has seen his care, his love, his protectiveness for Anjali many times, but she really does not understand the "Why". Today, she got the glimpse of his vast amount of sadness for his mother and when the truth comes out, today will help Guptas and Khushi to understand his actions against her because they will realize that Anjali has taken his mother's place in his heart. This will help them understand why Arnav kept Anjali above everyone else and why he can go to any lengths to ensure that not even a speck of pain reaches his sister. Today, they saw the boy who still misses his mother, they saw the boy who still begs for her love and care, who needs it as much as the next person and that time they will see and understand the action of the man who sacrificed his own happiness, who shifted everyone's world connected to him on its axis, who did not think for a second before toppling his whole world for that one person who is his mother in all sense but in name. They will understand, they will accept but will they be able to forgive, only time will tell.

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Posted: 13 years ago

Riston ki dor jude dil se,

Paraye bante hain apne, pyaar-mohabbat se...

"Ma" ko jis tarah khoya maine,

Uksi tees abhi tak hai mere man mein...

Jo bichad gaye

Unki bas yaadein hi hain reh jaati.

Woh hain jis makam par,

Woh jagah kisi ko nahin di jaa sakti.

Chot pahuchaane ka na tha irada,

Tum mujhse main tumse jaroor hain khafaa...

Par parivaar ko na bharna pade iska khamiyazaa.

Har kisi ka apna jeene ka tareeka,

Rang jayein har rang mein yehi hai humne seekha.

Apne gusse mein hum aisa kuch bol jaate,

Us ghaav ko bharne mein lagati hain kai barsaatein...

Phir bhi sachhe dil baat ban jaati hai marham,

Door kar deti hai woh dil ki har uljhan!

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Resonance Effect!!! :

Yes.. today that vault opened. It opens only once in a blue moon and we are the forunate few who got to witness it open. He is very vulnerable now. He is seeing raw emotions. He is actually very faint at heart when it comes to family. He is seeing pure love. He is witnessing it after long time. Its said that you get effected by the energy emitted by people around you. Positive energy filled with love and care is filled in Gupta house. He is under the influence of this vibration. Resonance effect at its best!!! Buaji's and ammaji's unconditional love has taken a toll on this young man. He is cracking now. All the memories etched in his vault is making a come back.

Khushi after a long time you told him what needs to be told... This will have wide impact. For me this episode is a keepsake..

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@Tants: I'm already in love with your update... the title is perfect, the few paras that you have written are making me wait impatiently for you to complete your analysis!!!

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't being said.

An episode that has opened new learnings, new relationships, developments, new characteristics and new outlooks. The center point of all this was 'Communication' - both said and unsaid.

A relationship needs a good dose of healthy conversation at regular intervals. Communication is extremely important to maintain a relationship - be it mother-daughter, father-son, brother-sister, friends, lovers... Even the best of soul-mates who float on the same wave length need to communicate their thoughts with one another to ensure there is clarity, and awareness of each others feelings in matters. Appropriate Communication is an important aspect in a relationship as it helps provide a medium to stay on the same page as the other, it provides an insight into the others thoughts and feelings, it gives a chance to discuss matters and helps build a relationship.

Today we see, communication peeking its head in the relationships between Arnav-Khushi, Arnav-Garima-Buaji-Shashiji.

Till now, Khushi and Arnav haven't had a decent conversation after marriage. Either they were arguing fiercely, or sabotaging each others lives, or being a plain nuisance to one another. But, today we see the two of them expressing how they feel about the situations that prick them the most.

Arnav admits that he is the 'Daamad of Gupta Household' when he purchases the month's (or year's) food ration for them. Khushi, on an overdrive of emotion, requests Aranv to call Garima as 'Amma', something that Arnav is unable to do as the pain of losing his mother is still as fresh it was as it was years back. Evidently, his mother meant a lot for him to harbour the loss for so many years - or is it because of the lack of a caring, loving, warm mother figure in his life that makes him hold this memory so close to his heart?

UNSAID COMMUNICATION: Arnav feels guilty for the Gupta's running out of money due to paying his restaurant bill, and who now are unable to pay for the rations. His actions show that he considers himself a part of their family. Hid ease and openness with them show that he has discovered a comfortable spot for himself here. His cute attempt at humor with Buaji "Toh kya hua buaji, main khaata bhi toh bahot hun, aur aap khilati bhi toh bahot hain!" drives the aspect of familiarity formed between him and the Gupta household. Shashiji enjoying the joke too was a good touch - Arnav is adored by all the members here.

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Khushi oblivious to the hurt she's causing him, repeatedly asks him to address Garima as Amma, when Arnav blasts at her and storms off into the room. Khushi realizes that she has touched a raw nerve and immediately approaches him to apologize for her carelessness in bringing up the topic of 'Ma'. And here we have a much needed clear communication between the two.

Arnav tells her that she doesn't know the amount of hurt she has caused him, and that she wouldn't even understand it. In his anger, when his dimaagh shuts down completely, he spouts out that he hates living in her ghatiya house... but he regrets the words the instant he says them. This is again 'classic ASR reverse technique'. He doesn't mean more than half the things that he says in anger. A marked improvement in this area is that he realizes much faster now that he doesn't mean what he says in a rage.

Khushi taken aback by this outburst clarifies in a bout of tears that this is the way people of her level live. They learn to adjust with the circumstances, they plan their budget for every little thing, and make do with what they have quite happily. Besides this, she teaches him about respecting families, honoring relationships, and maintaining the family bonds even in the face of extreme hurt, pain, frustration and anger.

Arnav is humbled by her talk. Khushi is sensitized now toward what hurts him the most.

UNSAID COMMUNICATION: Khushi and Arnav have, over the months, come to realize when they are in the wrong, and when the other needs to be attended to when hurt. They are still learning about each others boundaries, the limits, the extent to which they can push the other or make up to each other. What is worth noticing is that both immediately set about to rectify any known mistakes that they commit unintentionally. Both can't see the other hurt, both work toward clearing up the mess they create, both strive to make it up to the other.

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Khushi overcome with tears rushes out of the room even as Arnav tries to stop her. She goes out with Shashiji while Buaji and Garima are busy preparing food for Arnav. Arnav's request to them in the morning to cook normal food and not healthy bland food is taken into consideration as they worry about whether he will like their normal food or not. They soon find that he isn't in his room and boil their heads with worry a bit more, until Arnav arrives with a food package that contains eehrrm ehhhrmm - Khushi's favourite - Gol Gappe!

But before that, he says sorry, not once but twice to Garima and Buaji for losing his temper in the morning. Buaji and Garima soothe him saying that it's alright, that he can Garima by whichever name he likes, after all a name doesn't change the relationship they share.

Khushi enters at this point with Shashiji and squeals in excitement on seeing the gol gappe. She immediately sets herself to task and opens the packet to gulp some down when she is stumped on hearing that Arnav bought them. She sits down grumpily, un-willing to take a bite of it since it was Arnav who bought them. Two of the seven deadly sins are busy at tug of war: Pride and Gluttony. Pride at first makes her sit back sullenly and watch Buaji and Garima relishing the gol gappe. The foodie that she is she gazes at the gol gappe longingly and mutters 'thoda khatta, thoda meetha, thoda teekha...' Primarily ruled by gluttony, Khushi throws Pride right out of her mind and indulges in satisfying her gluttony call. Arnav sits there all the while, calmly sipping his tea (another first in the history of this man's nature) and watches as his wife dilly-dallies about eating his apology. When she does dig into it, he gives an amused-she's-gone-mad expression, mixed with amusement-amazement-and-lovement 😉 at this crazy child-woman!

UNSAID COMMUNICATION: Arnav, the man who since all these months needed a bit of rehearsals before saying 'Sorry' to anyone, who said sorry with distinct unease and self-consciousness, now says it so naturally with genuine feeling that it is simply amazing to note the transformation in this area.

The comfortable bond between the Gupta household and Arnav is growing steadily. There is mutual respect, fondness, and compatibility between them. Arnav, who in his own house seems slightly cut of from the RM members, is one of the integral members here at GH. The warmth and cordiality extended to him here has seeped so gently into him that being ASR, he still does things without reporting it to anyone until the work is done, but he is also taking the likes/dislikes of the family members into consideration.

Arnav, after realizing that he has been harsh with Khushi, and wrong in his actions makes amends to apologize for his behaviour by bringing one of her favourite dishes. I love the way this guy's method of apology worked - he vocalizes his apology to the ladies of GH, but acts out his apology by means of the gol gappe to Khushi. He definitely knows that Khushi won't really be in a mood to listen to what he has to say - and if his comfort is 'plants' then Khushi's comfort is 'food'. 😆 Just thinking about these two adorable-mad kids brings a grin to my face.

Khushi at first refuses to be part of the pro-Arnav movement happening at her home, her pride halts her from giving in so easily to the Shaitan. But, like I've said before, this girl can't hold a grudge for long (even if she does she takes it out by the way of pranks). She likes the small joy's of life, the tiny moments of happiness, the little bit of 'special' in the day - and she doesn't let the dark clouds dampen her spirit for too long.

This is exactly the girl Arnav feel in love with in the beginning. If yesterday it was Khushi falling yet in love again with the man who showed his thoughtful side toward her family, then today Arnav again fell in love with the girl who enjoyed and made merry with the small things in life.

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POINTS TO BE NOTED (Since I've written a lot already, will just put down a few important points)

1. Khushi during the communication with Arnav says a very important line - that she will never hurt his family members even by mistake. (Arnav should have caught on to this, but well in the heat of the moment it slipped by - another hint lost, hope it is revived for the MU)

2. Garima-Buaji and Arnav bonding: I am beginning to love the trio scenes more than the Khushi-Arnav scenes. There is a touch of genuineness, humility, understanding and comfort between them that sets up a whole new level of chemistry altogether!

3. During Khushi-Arnav communication, there is a family photograph right behind Arnav, and his head is clearly in line with it, and is positioned right next to Khushi's face in the photo. (Will soon be a part of the family forever - after the MU and repentance?)

4. Bubbly's evident jealousy toward Payal. Refuses to see Payal as part of the Raizada family.

5. Thoda khatta, thoda meetha, thoda teekha: Fits perfectly for "Arnav's nature", and "Their relationship so far".

Absolutely loved the episode!! I hope there are a lot more bonding scenes between GH household and Arnav, though with the spoilers saying that he will tell Khushi that he is aware about her and Shyam, makes me wonder what's in store.

🤗 to everyone! Enjoy...

-- Nia 😊

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Hola people 🤗

Sathya, Love the title and definitely agree that it is not "Khushification" of Arnav - It is the growth of Arnav from ASR and it is indeed in its nascent stage - it will take time - it will happen slowly and steadily. Waiting to read the rest.

Coming to the episode - Just Brilliant! 👏 👏 Everything was just perfect today and loved everyone - Arnav, Khushi , Garima and Buaji. When this track started all I wanted from this track was for Arnav to know who Khushi is and Khushi to know who Arnav actually is. Moreso to see the understanding develop between Arnav and the Gupta families. The past couple of days - it was all about Khushi's antics to annoy Arnav and tid-bits of Arnav seeing how a lower middle class family operates. However today's episode was the first blow up of Arnav to Khushi's antics.

Guilt and Regret and the Bonding

Today it was all about Arnav and the Gupta ladies bonding and I just loved it. This was what I wanted to see in this track and it was in abundance.

Arnav sees the financial trouble he has unintentionally caused the Gupta's - he feels their hurt and understands their situation and straightaway feels guilty. He knows he has done wrong by ordering the food and by getting the AC put - and more importantly he realizes how accomodating Garima and Buaji have been - how they have accepted him just the way he is. He regrets his actions and he falls in his own eyes for bringing them in this situation. Okay - if he feels this much for putting the Gupta ladies in such a situation - then I cannot even imagine how low he will feel when he knows about the blunder he has done with Khushi. True - in a misunderstanding - nevertheless for him it would nearly kill him to realize that he has wronged the person he loves the most.

And just like Khushi said to him once - 'Aap pehle cheezein bigadte hain and phir unhe sudharte hain' - That is what he goes out to do. He realizes his mistake and regret his actions and moves asap to correct it in the way he knows. He brings in the ration of the house - not for one month but if I am to believe for the whole year - (my sis went like - kar kya raha hai ye and I said he is Arnav Singh Raizada - everything is extreme) - That is what I like about him - he is not pretentious - he does what he wants to do - maybe even more and extreme than what is required - yet he does correct his mistakes.

The master of the house

Khushi and the Gupta Ladies were again a bit taken aback by his actions and except Shashi, who had a genuine smile playing on his lips - the other ladies were unhappy - and especially Khushi. But the moment he is questioned on what was the need of it - he promptly replies that he did it for them - for his family as he is the damaad. Generally it is the male member of the family who is the bread winner - who brings in the ration of the house and today unknowingly Arnav again assumes the role of the head of the family. I was expecting a 'beta' but with Arnav a 'damaad' is good enough. The journey of Arnav from 'son-In-law' to 'son' will definitely happen but it will take time. Just like one day Arnav will find it right to call Garima 'Amma'. Also when he is asked on what he would like to eat - he clearly says what he does not want to eat - no pretenses - straight and clear.

What I loved is Arnav's reply to the ladies - his acceptance of being the son-in-law and that he has the right to do anything for them if he feels the need to do so. He does not seek permission - he does not ask - he does it - not caring what his actions might be interpreted as. Then Khushi - the change of expression from unhappy to surprise and then to a slight smile when she hears Arnav accept himself as the son-in-law was adorable.

The first outburst

Khushi's antics have been annoying and pushing Arnav to the edge - yet he has been strangely been very patient about it. Infact I myself am left surprised by his behavior when I saw him taking in all of Khushi's antics. However - his bubble is burst when Khushi forces him to call Garima as 'amma'. He has tolerated of everything but one reminder of a relationship called 'mother' - and he bellows out. One thing is there - Arnav Singh Raizada however strong he may be in front of everyone, deep down in his heart - he has still kept that one relationship alive that means a lot to any child - the bond between a mother and the child. He is an emotional wreck when it comes to his past - he deals with it in his way - his anger is what he hides his pain behind - but otherwise that one thought of the day when he lost his mother - sends him scurrying.

And this is what Khushi saw today - she has seen it before and she saw it again today and she realizes that she has hurt him and she goes behind him to apologize not before hearing an earful from Garima and Buaji. Chalo - atleast they have been noticing that Khushi was being a pain to him all the while.

She goes - he is sitting seething in anger and remembrance of his past - when she apologizes and he stops her. He says that he does not want to stay with her family and her in this 'ghatiya' house and stops and immediately regrets his words. That is who he is - Did he mean it!? Absolutely not - whenever he is angry he says things that he does not mean. Similarly Khushi begins to tell him that she knows about how he feels and how middle-class families live and how she is the one who is seeking answers and he has hurt her but never has she hurt his family and never will she do it.

I loved this scene - Loved because after so many days I could feel Khushi's pain and hurt and the fact that she is actually seeking answers from him. So this one thing made this brilliant. ⭐️

The RM and GH difference

Very well portrayed. While the RM is busy in photo shoots - the GH ladies are busy in cooking food for Arnav - keeping him in mind and keeping his tastes and preferences as the first priority. He has a problem with sugar - they add honey. Frankly the RM ladies are a disappointment - even if it is Anjali. Now that I have seen the GH ladies - why do I feel every lady of RM is superficial. Arnav has been brought up in that house - yet never I have seen the concern from them - unless Arnav gets ill. That love, concern, and family support is missing in the RM while Arnav gets it all from GH.

Significance ; Arnav's life has practically been lifeless. If I have to see the environment he has been brought up in - Anjali clings to him, Mami and Mama somewhere depend on him and Nani - she loves him yes - but not the way he should have been. Everyone depends on his one way or the other but does not give him that genuine love, comfort and companionship that he actually seeks - they do not wait for him at dinner, they never cook anything especially for him, they manipulate him time and again using Anjali or emotionally leaving his life void of any sweetness in it. And then comes the GH with their own brand of sweetness - Honey - and they are giving him what he wants - they are showing him what genuine love and care is and worse Arnav is not even fighting it - instead he is a part of it.

The change in Arnav Singh Raizada

Is he the same man who would practice saying sorry!? Is he the same man who would rather drink his tea alone!? Nope. He is a changed man! So easily he realized that he has hurt Khushi and Garima with his words. He again does it the way he knows best - get something for them. And this sent me off to one of the previous episodes ;

When Arnav and Khushi were bringing Akash and Payal together :

'Main aisa karta hoon - Akash ko tumhare ghar Payal keliye khoob saare expensive guests ke saath bhej deta hoon...'

That time Khushi had told him that matters of the heart were not dependent on expensive gifts and today Arnav implemented it. He could have gotten anything - and yet - what he got was Gol gappe! A very small thing that every middle class family loves to have. He has to say sorry - he does not know how to - yet he does tell them - opening upto them and telling him his reasons and his reasons are accepted with love. Who said this man cringes when love is expressed to him - He does not! When Garima touches him - he does not cringe - he accepts it with his eyes lowered.

The gol gappe I guess were especially brought for Khushi for he knew she was angry. Nevertheless forgetting the rabba ve here and Arnav's expressions (which were adorable) what was noticeable was that he actually sat with them comfortably and drank the tea. I was shocked to say the least. Whenever I have seen him drink tea in the RM - he is either edgy or in his room alone - and yet here he sat with them - drank his tea - looked at the Gupta ladies satisfied while they ate. That is the change and growth he has gone through from ASR to just Arnav.

Pointers

1) I want monologues from both Arnav and Khushi now - it is hard to realize that they are indeed in an MU.

2) I missed Shyam again! Just show him making one move and I shall be glad.

3) Thank god no stripping today. Phew - It was just getting on my nerves

4) Body doubles very apparent - has sanaya already left for London!? And BS needs a break - he looks ill!

5) Khushi and Shashi ji's interaction needs to be shown - since he was the only one she was close to

Favorite character :

Arnav, Khushi, Garima and Buaji - Loved all of them today and I guess my analysis says why.

A must watch episode for all those who have wanted to see less of Khushi's annoying antics and more of Arnav and the Gupta ladies bonding.

Love :))

P.S : Big Thanks to the everyone who likes my analysis! Do not get to thank you separately - so putting in it here. Love you all 🤗🤗

In a hurry gotta drop my sister to the station. 😉

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Posted: 13 years ago

After a looong time, i'm back with few words and made it to the first page!!!

Fantastic Analysis tanthya! Always a pleasure to read well constructed response for the episode!

Doods, i loved how you pinpointed the mistakes committed by Arnav!!

Coming to the episode, it was again mixture of emotions. There was laughter in the ned, anger and intensity build-up in between, caring and gentleness of relationship explored and the realization of love from his in-laws by Arnav. A fruitful combination! I won't go too deep concerning the time issues i have with my schedule but here it goes:

The start with Arnav getting a flashback of blaming Khushi was brilliant. The expressions on Khushi's face were of utter disbelief that he, Arnav thought her of as a thief. Just imagine the response when she'll find out that he thought she, Khushi as a home wrecker!! It's going to more than intense as I predict.

Moving on, we came to the main track again. ASR vs. Class! The pampered 'daamad ji' witnessed how the Guptas are sacrificing there basic necessities just for his happiness. Arnav have always found a supporter in his sister who loved him unconditionally but with his whole family, there hasn't been such connection. He's formal with everybody in his house but over here, the formality is decreasing! He's embracing the warmth unintentionally. He genuinely developed respect for them. Loved that scene for it's simplicity.

I remember that once, we had to stay back at our grandma's house since our father was out of the country and when he came back, there were things that were needed n house. My father volunteered to help but was held back by my grandma, but later he enforced himself as a son of this house and he can be approached easily. It was the first time I had witnessed such a conversation in my family and today witnessing the same thing on my laptop screen just struck me, that such events are not just made up but come out realistically from any individual. The caring and hospitality Arnav is getting unconditionally is helping creating a better foundation for future with the Guptas.

Him considering their needs and their choices today would help then understand his steps of life. Even the part where he lashed out on Khushi for bringing up the word mother itself was witnessed by the ladies of Gupta household. Isn't it evident that these two would understand the gravity of the situation their daughter was forced into.

Doods have already mentioned that this track is for the mere purpose of Arnav understanding Guptas but not just that it's also for Guptas to understand the Arnav Singh Raizada. Bua Ji had already commented on how Arnav is always working few episodes back.

The relation with Arnav not calling Garima 'Amma' is well described by Tanthya, Doods and Anna so I won't go into details. I fully agree to the fact that to call Garima 'Amma', Arnav will not jut have to earn her respect but also a place in her heart. Garima nad Bua ji have accepted Arnav as their son-in law but when the flood will break that it's nothing but an illusion that's going to break in 3 more months, they will shattered equally. The person they thought as a part of their family is actually in a process of disrupting the life of the 'Khushi' of the house.

Bua ji had twice emphasized that there will be some kind of 'toofan' coming up with Khushi around.

Apart with the family interactions i loved the Arnav-Khushi interactions!

The duo are still confused about their love lives to be honest! They utter total gibberish at each other in anger and then realize. Well, i won't call them fools because i do the same thing usually landing up in a big ugly mess!

The conversation however was much needed. Khushi had made it clear that never she did or never intent to in future as well to lash out on his family because of him. She made it clear to him that she has a respect for his family and that wouldn't be crushed because of him! Doesn't that ring a bell!!!!

Probably after the truth is out, Khushi will be same with interacting the people in family. Her initial response will towards him and even in separation, she would be leaving HIM, not his family! The hints have always been dropped that after the separation, they both will be joined back either with the help of Anjali or Nani, whom had been constantly playing cupid in one form or other! Is it possible to Khushi steeping back in Arnav;s life will be because of the pressure from his family?

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Coming to Akash and Payal, i know they sound boring to many of you but they still have a major role in everything. Akash claims to love Payal more than anything!! When Bubbly came to take the picture, she purposely put Payal out of the picture causing a GAP between the couple which went unnoticed by Aakash. Payal however gave a small glimpse at their gap and smiled at the camera! So, when the truth will be out, will Akash be angry at Payal for hiding so much from him? It looks clear from not just this scenario but also the materialistic exchange of gifts on the anniversary that Akash and Payal do not have a strong relationship!

thats it from me today!

Areeba xx

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Doodle, Sathya, Pam, Nia, Anna...so far I just read all yours...absolute beautiful writing...

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Yeh dil maange more...

What an episode...it was like the gol gappa- thoda meeta,thoda chatphata,thoda kararre ...
Arnav in the ASR is slowly surfacing again 😊 It is the time for memories to be stored for the later turbulent times.

FAMILY-what is it's true meaning,
HOME-is it only about the four walls that envelopes us?
RELATIONSHIPS-are the only ones we are born with or are they some bonds we value more than the blood ties.what we call " DIL ka RISTHA"

ASR is relearning the meaning of all the above and also acknowledging that he has been carrying some mistaken notions about them all.Khushi on the hand gave him a glimpse of her values -.that she never hurt a family member of his even when she was angry...

Loved arnav finding out the real culprit or the car thief like he will find Shyam.
Loved the fact that he was regretting the accusation he threw at Khushi like he would regret later .
Loved the fact that Arnav realized that Gupta value relationships and affection more than money.that they would be flexible to ensure his happiness
Loved the fact that Khushi got a dressing down from haji and garima for annoying Arnav
Loved Khushi getting an earful from Arnav and later apologizing
Loved Khushi revealed her hurt in front of Arnav and giving him an insight of her values.
Loved the difference shown between the two families...
Loved that they showed the importance of love,affection and trust in

the
growth of relationships.
Loved the fact that garima buaji gave Arnav the space and put
him
to
ease...very much required for the strenghening of the bond.
Loved the fact that Khushi was
spending

time with her dad taking him out
Loved the fact that bubbly was trying exclude
payal from the family tree which just shows that people cling to relationships who sow them some
affection.they fight for every inch when they feel that their affections are shared.
Loved the
Nautanki Khushi trying to ingore the gol gappas as it was brought by Arnav.
Loved Arnav enjoying
his time with familly and the real affections he gets there.
Lastly not the least ,enjoyed Arnav 's
delight in Khushi enjoying the gol gappas,enjoyed the passion in the rabba ve .

Oops...how long
is this going to last...?

Loved

Doods,satya,nia,Anna-all of u wonderful writers... A big hug for the fabulous post ...
Doods 👏 for explaining the episode through garima's perspective... The way to a mother's heart...

Satya-"kaakaiku than kunju " was an oft repeated saying in my house. mom often me told this when somebody compared my sister and myself...nostalgia ... 👏

Nia -till now arhi's communication channels have been filled with noise so the rectification is what 's happening right
Anna-hope u are little less frustrated with khushi now

"Life is about following the values instilled by a mother... It is with that a man learns to deal with his surrounding society" -Gandhiji

"Finding a place in a mother's heart is heavenly..."-Charlotte bronte
"mistake are like roadblocks...I deny being a visionary...I do not claim saintliness...I am of the earth..I am prone to many weaknesss as you are...but am not a quick despairer ...will remove all the hurdles...-Joseph levyland
These three statements sum up the essence of today's episode to me

- 😆 😆 😆

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