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Originally posted by: Lurvebooks

Totally gratifying to see so many strong, opinionated women on this forum.

Originally posted by: pgm7

@ SJ : Before I post my views I like to ask you if I can post a spoiler here?

Originally posted by: CDlove

I have writen a lot on this topic but one thing I have seen among a lot of posts that commends ASR's actions is that he does it out of passion. I must say this show is taking the theme of 'love' to a whole different level.

I keep on reading posts after posts with TM's claiming that he loves her and therefore what he does to her is justifiable. Lot of the TMs are younger girls and seem to have already formed a deluded frame of mind regarding how your lover must behave around them. They almost mention what ASR did with reverence. They LOOK for men like ASR who will treat them like ASR. This is what's troubling me.

Is the show really moulding the impressionable minds of younger girls in to thinking that physical abuseshould be toleratedif higher levels of passion is generated afterwards?

I blame the CVs for this. I specifically remember a scene when ASR had left bruises on Kushi's forearm and she was touching the bruises softly almost reverently while rabba ve was playing in the back ground.

I was CRINGING! WTH! Seeing bruises made by a man is in no way a form of romanticizing the feelings you have for him or he has for you. You should be revolted and Angry. Instead kushi was all dreamy running a fluttering hand over her bruises!

What does this really imply? That you should cherish the marks left on you by your man? That abuse is alright as long as he do a couple of rabba ves with you???

I find this VERY disturbing.

Originally posted by: CDlove

I keep on reading posts after posts with TM's claiming that he loves her and therefore what he does to her is justifiable. Lot of the TMs are younger girls and seem to have already formed a deluded frame of mind regarding how your lover must behave around them. They almost mention what ASR did with reverence. They LOOK for men like ASR who will treat them like ASR. This is what's troubling me.

Is the show really moulding the impressionable minds of younger girls in to thinking that physical abuse should be tolerated if higher levels of passion is generated afterwards?

What does this really imply? That you should cherish the marks left on you by your man? That abuse is alright as long as he do a couple of rabba ves with you???

I find this VERY disturbing.

I don't know why anyone is surprised. sadistic violence against women is the default position of too much television drama. No show is complete without at least one story involving a shrieking woman in a dungeon.

What upsets me is the pervading sense that none of this matters. That, somehow, just because it's a drama, it shouldn't be taken seriously, Or, worse, that the consequences of a violent act are of reel life and are only being depicted as some inviting storyline for a show, which makes it OK?No that does not make it okay.And ironic enough, we claim to live in the new age and have moved beyond the stone age, yet our mentalities continue to grown on the same vine as the past. And no just because it is being done in a show does it make it all right, infact what message are we sending to the youth of today just for the sake of a favorable track for the leads, its okay to shown voilent acts?

amazing post and I'm really glad you brought this issue to the upfront because we tend to avoid such things putting if off claiming it to be reel and not real... or just because you love someone you have the right to such acts by default.

Originally posted by: trina2010

Agree completely Hiru. I wanted to comment earlier but the topic was closed. I found ASRs behaviour quite disturbing yesterday . What I disliked most is his behaviour when Anji came knocking in his door and he started acting all normal with Khushi as if nothing happened. I understand he loves Anji . Shyamu got a second chance because Arnavs Di loves him where Khushi did not even get a single chance of explanation. Even murderers gets to defend themselves in the court , but Khushi was condemned without a single chance to justify herself. What kind of love is this ASR?

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

For the bold parts, hiru, here is some supporting article...
Read the following article on how a biased, unrealistic, and uninformed reading of romance novels can indeed ruin how you look at relationships. Don't let unrealistic expectations skew your reality.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2012071/The-Mills--Boon-effect-Why-romantic-read-harm-love-lives.html

Of course, I am categorically and unequivocally NOT proposing NOT reading them, sure read them, enjoy them, spice up your romantic life, and have a blast,but, but, but keep your feet FIRMLY grounded to reality.

Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence or other repercussions if you don't do what they want.

You may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since physical violence can send you to the hospital and leave you with scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse'sometimes even more so. Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behavior on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse. Your abusive partner may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred. He or she will commonly shift the responsibility on to you: Somehow, his or her violent and abusive behavior is your fault.