I totally get what you are saying, but I am hoping you'll understand its not abuse per se, but actually a species of hero we arent used to very much here in the west. First, a bit of history if you will.
In the late 80s and early 90s, a genre of romance novels that basically were all over the charts (new york best sellers list, the UK top charts, etc) were a species called "bodice rippers" where the hero was extremely chauvinistic, almost a misogynist and definitely not your typical romantic lead.
This was your anti-hero, who sneered at all regular romantic trappings, and was in fact emotionally stunted through some form of family situation/social stigma and pretty anti social as a result. The anti- hero was often ugly, very often damaged in some way, but always virile and compelling, even though he was brutal in his treatment of most characters around him, and especially his heroine. In ASR we have all those elements, tempered by the fact hes as hot as one can humanly be without spontaneous combustion.
The concept of the love of a good woman taming the beast is, as you know, very popular, but to get to that taming, in those books of the 80s, it took the woman a lot of effort and she was basically almost an abuse victim by the end of the story. I think while we have a modified anti-hero here, the fact that Khushi is allowing him these physical liberties, shows that the CVs are huge 80s romance fans.