My 2 cents on the Shivika argument today - Page 5

Originally posted by: AreYaar

The Goa trip hasn't started yet...this "fight" today was about the mess at the memorial service...remains to be seen how the fallout from the "fight" is managed during the Goa trip...I didn't even take this as a heavy duty "fight' personally so I don't think it's a big jump from here to comedy anyways.

Originally posted by: Michmichi

I think this is the first time Daadi is witnessing Anika's anger 😆 , she got really worried, hence the advice from Daadi 😆

Originally posted by: charismatic-gem

Dadi...I felt they just placed Dadi there after that fight so they could continue the mahaan bahu dialogues. Dadi was way too emotional over a simple disagreement between Billu and Anika 😆

Originally posted by: Maitri_B

@bold: I too agree with that. Annika almost immediately moved on promising that she won't let this argument have impact on her marriage and Shivaay gave his & Annika's example to Om while talking about how he used to misunderstand her. I am sure they both might show some "tadi" for a while but they both know that they can't stay away from each other. One way or the other they will figure out a way to be together 😉

Originally posted by: AreYaar

The Goa trip hasn't started yet...this "fight" today was about the mess at the memorial service...remains to be seen how the fallout from the "fight" is managed during the Goa trip...I didn't even take this as a heavy duty "fight' personally so I don't think it's a big jump from here to comedy anyways.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

From Shivaay's POV, the Tia and Ragini third angle tracks happened when there were MUs b/w him and Anika and they hadn't yet fully acknowledged how much they love each other...he thinks they are in a secure place now where even the idea of another person b/w them is preposterous. He is not realizing that it's not about whether there is a REAL third angle b/w them, it's the fact that no spouse would tolerate someone prancing around as a fake wife with their husband.

It seems to be typical Shivaay compartmentalizing at work...he's compartmentalized Tanya as just a cog in the machine of this blackmailer that he's dealing with and his entire focus being there, he doesn't see why Anika would find it distasteful to deal with a fake wife. He thinks he's zoned out Tanya so Anika should too. That's the way he "operates" in "plan" mode and I suppose he expects the same from Anika if she wants to partner on this.

@bold subh, I realized this after watching and I lost it completely ... 😆😆... A chotu realization today might have worked! I really have no issues with any other Shivaay reaction today except this one.. How easily he disregarded when she said mujhe farak nahi padna chahiye...😕

And I don't think it is typical.. Even when he did any crap or compartmentalized intentionally - including the forced wedding, all the previous blackmails, separation, Ragini-VAT, NT track, Anika's orphanage, Chip scenes.. you name the track... He does understand(ek basic understanding) and is well aware of how his 'SSO' action will affect the person on receiving end... Aisa complete discard nahi karta hai... He accepts the collateral damage(be it his Family, Anika, Obros) upfront hoke... that Person X ko iss decision se problem hoga but when I weigh the situation this collateral damage is acceptable! And this is one of the main reason why I was able to accept and frankly relate to many of his flaws...Aur Yahan toh Anika ne khud se bola aaj.. So, no IMO, this was not in-character...

I even recalled Mallika track, Tia saw Him and Mallika together and then questioned them.. He was angry that how could Tia could even have an opinion like this about him... said SSO is not answerable to anyone and for him trust is the most important thing but he did understand/acknowledge what Tia was talking about and told her aake baat karni chahiye thi.. and Yahan toh beginning se koi samjh hi nahi hai.. 😕

On one hand I loved Anika today for at least bringing this 3rd angle issue up, even if timing was off she deserved a reaction.. BUT On the other hand,mere sabar ka baandh toot gaya hai with this 3rd angle - Shivaay's reaction because I did not even get ittu sa bhi reaction - instant' or 'delayed' realization EVEN TODAY... For me, This irreverence has crossed its limit.. Inka rishta kisika mohtaj nahi hai but ek basic respect ka hai, which is lacking at this moment IMO and agar abhi tak nahi seekha hai Shivaay(writers...😕) ne toh sorry it is not something that can be taught... If they ever sort this out or fix this somehow.. Toh I'll binge-watch. But Abhi toh I have no patience for this B.S. *sigh*

Sorry last rant hai ye wali.. Breath in.. Breathe Out...😆😆 Off to watch something else... I have challenged myself I won't cry today after I watch the latest episode of this is us... Let's see what happens...😆😆

Chalo.. I'll catch up with you after an hour or so!

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Thanks, Manisha :)

@bold: Great points you've made here!

Yes, Anika's over accommodating nature does many times lead to him not GETTING something...lol he needs for it to be explicitly stated or for her to show explicit hurt for him to really get it...he himself considers Tanya such a non-entity and Anika herself gave him a free pass that she is happy as long as he is with her that it's led to this situation...

Anika brushed aside her own Michmichi over Tanya cuz she was trying to help Shivaay and be there for him...but even a saint's patience can be tested...lol and that's what happened today...Shivaay is so caught up about the raaz mission that he isn't getting the simple fact that any wife would find it distasteful to have to see a fake wife hanging around her husband even if it's all just for show.

Anika uses humor to deal with a lot of situations in her life, even the painful ones...and sometimes she shortchanges herself that way cuz the humor smokescreen even throws Shivaay off and he doesn't realize how much she's actually hurt by something.

200% with you on this one...And i blame her for this...

its only practical to be explicit and not expect others to read your emotions...especially in case of Shivaay jo abhi abhi hi sikha hai dil ki baatein samajhna...😆😆

But that's ANika...she needs to go through her learning journey as well...😆

And yes, agreed...she needs to explain this to Shivaay when he's in a better frame of mind and maybe this ghonchu can get it then...they need to stop taking third angles so callously in their life now that they are finally beyond those stupid MUs...

LOl third angles...this has become so normal in their life...soon it will be a trivial or non existent issue for both...

it will be like a husband being upset with wife's shopping bills and wife being upset about husband spending long hours at work...

in their case even this is not a problem...Anika na shopping karti hai...and Shivaay doesnt go to office...

no wonder writer mam introduces third angles to present domestic issues...creativity ceases to exist beyond this point...😆