The journey to a new land, with a complete stranger, always begins slow because it is an unknown path being taken with an equally unknown partner. So we proceed with due caution and diligence so as not to make mistakes in our haste and hurry to reach the destination. There are stages that we must finish before we reach the next stage and ShivIka is on the romance, dating and courtship phase as far as I can see.
These two are honestly making an effort to get to know about each other, only now, after the marriage was publicly accepted. They have only now committed that they will spend their entire lives together whereas earlier they were unsure about how this was going to play out. Don't get me wrong, they would have stayed married but it would have been out of a sense of responsibility and a duty towards each other not because they saw a future with each other. I hope that I make sense.
If I may explain it, it is like this...
When ShivIka got married it was more like an arranged marriage between strangers than between a couple. They had so much bad blood and hate between them that it was more like two enemy countries in a relationship... 😆
Then it took a few weeks to settle the MU and post MU Annika needed time to adjust to why Shivvay treated her the way he did. Shivvay needed time to recover from Daksh's lies and adjust to what crime he had committed in his anger and while all this was happening Tia announced she was pregnant.
That started the other drama where we saw, for the first time, ShivIka as a team working on the same side. Shivvay started building his faith and trust in her as a well wisher, which must have been pretty hard for this man who never relies on anyone but himself.
There was character growth for Shivvay there and those were very beautiful episodes.
During Tia pregnancy and post pregnancy, we saw the attraction between the two. This was acknowledged by Shivvay that it was on both sides and not just one sided. We also saw Annika realize her love for him and her fear of abandonment was brought to the fore.
Again, so much growth even with all that was going on around them. It was as if the problems drove them to seek each other, rather than apart. They reached a point where one would take a leap of faith, literally, from the top floor for the other while the other would take a bullet for the first, without a thought for his own life.
Massive ... massive growth. Partners for life through thick and thin. Each absolutely sure and certain that the other has his/her back. "Do you trust me?? - Khud sey bhi ziyada!!"
The crucial phase after that was when he announced that she was his wife. That was the only thing that truly launched Shivika into the space where they were now taking this marriage seriously and both completely committed to it.
Till then they were best friends, buddies, partners or whatever else you may call it and kept their distance as such. There was no life long commitment mentioned or accepted. So to be more than that would have been awkward and wrong for both.
Remember Shivvay has always been a man given to 'Propriety' if nothing else. If he had not committed to his marriage he would have stayed the old Shivvay with just the 'blush' games which his wife was comfortable with. He would not have started the 'dard' and 'FPH' ones. He had to be sure that he was not forcing his decision and attentions on Annika and that she felt the same for him as he did about physical intimacy.
Time and again he had the proof and that built his confidence to move forward.
He may have manhandled and physically hurt Annika on the wedding day but he never crossed the line of decency by taking advantage of her even if he may have been tempted to do so.
It is only after that acceptance of their marriage we see Shivvay physically and verbally comfortable with his wife. He is truly a very unique man and I have seen only a handful of people, quite like him. In the sense that he takes every relationship he makes and commits to very seriously once he has committed to it. You might say that he kind of guy who just flips a switch and turns it on or off!!!
When he married Annika (no matter it was by force or temporary even in his head) he started distancing himself unknowingly from Tia, kind of like reducing the flow in a current, till that relationship was resolved (ie. Divorce) and then, when he found out about Tia lying about her pregnancy he seemed to just flip a switch to turn that whole relationship off!!
I have seen very few people so organized and disciplined in their relationships.
It was the same with Annika. When he doubted Tia's pregnancy he increased the flow towards Annika while he reduced the one towards Tia. He did not need to increase that flow towards Annika unless he was already having thoughts about his marriage having some meaning in his life. That means he had been contemplating this marriage and its merits since that time. He does think everything through before he decides ...lol But even with that increased flow he never crossed a line - he did not flip that switch.
That switch was flipped only the day he accepted her publicly and it was the day he truly became and committed to being her husband. The next day he even teased Annika about not being able to say the word 'Patni' while it just flowed from his tongue like it was the most natural thing to do. It was because all this while when Annika said 'Mein Unki Patni Hun' she never meant it, it was more to keep Tia away. But now that that word had meaning she was finding it difficult to say because, she is well aware, that it had a completely new meaning now with a completely new role. There is more that is going to be asked of her as 'His Patni' but she is not ready for that yet.
She has not progressed - only he has.
As a husband we saw a change in him almost overnight!!! He flipped the switch from 'Bestie' to 'Hubby' because he had prepared for it all this while, but unfortunately, did not give Annika forewarning when he did that. She, the poor girl, is still stuck at the 'Bestie' level waiting for her buddy and friend, who she used to hang out with and chill with, to turn up again. She knows in her heart that he is never going to return to play because he has grown up now but she obstinately keeps calling for him to show up.
She wants to play house again - the 'Gudda-Guddi' shaadi, the childish games and the no strings attached with no pressure kind of relationship. But to her bad luck she wished for a Pati and here he is now!!! Flesh and Blood with real needs and Bhook 🤣 🤣
The Jism Ki Bhook scene where she says, "Aap key muah sey aise baatey sunkar muje mich-miche hoti hai Shivvay", proves it... lol She wants the Pati but who is a Dost. The one she plans wars with, the one she plans the Memory Loss with, the one who she is just a 'Jassos' with ... the one she basically can play with 😃
Bhai Annika! Pati aur kaisey batey kartey hai??? Who kya recipes share kartey hai apney Patni sey??!!
Little does she know that he has moved on to the next level and is now taunting her to catch up with him or else he is going to have to force her up there, to join him. If she keeps dragging her heels I am certain he is going to get desperate enough to just come out and say or do it...lol 😳
She has still not adjusted to this NEW Shivvay because of how he changed from one role to the next like quicksilver. He now hugs freely and even asks for hugs back without any reservations or embarrassment, kisses her forehead more passionately like a husband than affectionately like a friend, he pulls her onto his lap and wraps her in his arms while he kisses her pain and tears away as she sits awkward on his lap wondering how to get out of this situation.
He picks her up in public and bodily drags her back home with him while she is indignant that he can do that to her (as a friend) - the look that Shivvay gave to the question 'Pati hai yeh Tera?' was hilarious. He was like, 'Emm.. Hmm??!! What do you have to say to that now Pannika??'
He flirts with her and takes liberties to talk dirty even when he knows that she is not ready for that level of intimacy yet because he is trying to get her to come out of her comfort zone of being just a Bestie.
ShivIka can be likened to be at the dating and flirting stage right now not only because they are working through the NKK on Shivvay's side but also because they are working through the Best Friend' and Doost' part from Annika's side. She has not caught up to her role and commitment to the marriage as yet and that is why to a certain extent still does not feel like the Bahu in that house even with Shivvay accepting her.
Shivvay has shown considerable growth and needs to only overcome the last road block (mother of my children) now but Annika is still where she was after the MU was cleared. She has to grow and understand that this IS her husband now even if he is her Bestie'.
It is the day he will not need to say, "Tum meri Patni ho. Mujhe hug kar sakti ho. Mujhe lagta hai tumhe hug karna chahiye. Come on Annika??!!"
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