Zara...Please WALK AWAY!!

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sajni786

@sajni786

Stunner

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Posted: 7 years ago

Yes and this comes from a woman who has been married for 17yrs now.

I agree a marriage is a constant "Work in Progress" and both parties involved should be equally contributing into this "work".

I have been reading various topics on this forum on how Zara should give Kabir time and space so that he will come around, that Zara should teach him or will teach him etc etc. I was basically in no man's land till today's epi happened and the last frame is where I draw the line!

I ask WHY? Why should Zara even bother to work on this project "Sudharo Kabir". Just coz she is married to him? He is nothing but a walkie talkie 'Disaster Recovery Management' and just coz Zara is married to him does not give her an automatic license to begin working on his recovery. Does anyone realize how emotionally and mentally draining it can get to deal with a person like Kabir for a lifetime?? I mean we are not talking about just a guy who has slight differences in viewpoint. They are rigid, conservative and add to that he apparently does not believe in a healthy argument. He actually is getting physical and no woman should tolerate this behavior even for once neither should be thinking about giving him chances.

I am sorry, but if in a marriage, you are already dealing with emotional and mental torture (which Zara already is - through Ruksaar and Kabir both) and you add physical torture to that, I absolutely do not think its worth even a breath coz trust me when I say this, you end up losing yourself in trying to not only 'sudharo' your partner but make this marriage work!

Getting physical in an argument/disagreement is simply a NO!

I rest my case!!

Edited by sajni786 - 7 years ago

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Anniiee

@Anniiee

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Posted: 7 years ago

This post right here...is bang on! 👏👏

I get that Kabeer would change down the line... infact he would even look down at his own orthodox ways in the future...
But in the mean time why should Zara put up with this man in the hopes that one day he would change...? Why should Zara have to fight for rights each damn day? Not only that she but she has to also fight a peeping tom (ruks) and a crazy bhabhi on daily basis...

Looking at the precap...zara somehwhere does try to justify Kabeer's behaviour and move forward with "HIS" project...He will lash out yet again..That might be the last straw for her...and she would finally come out of this infatuation.

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Sudha

@Sudharies

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+ 8

Posted: 7 years ago

Totally agree with you. And I'm a married woman too for over a decade , and understand quite well what it takes to sustain a marriage relationship when it is not reciprocated and adjusted by the men. Would never be able to live with a guy like the present Kabir, who thinks only he is right all the time and doesn't give Zara the respect she deserves..

If ny husband was this way, I'd have divorced him right away. Can't tolerate MCPs like him.

And what's surprises me is that Zara is so blinded in her infatuation for her Shohar just coz he saved her from Siraj. But what transformation has taken place now in his behavior she fails to see ... I wanna see her waking up from this soon and put her foot down once and for all in front of kabir, and never bow to his wishes !!!

Hope cvs and Zara don't disappoint?!

Edited by Luv_PaRiAnSh - 7 years ago

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Anjali

@AnjuRish

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 7 years ago

Like i said have commented in a another thread post here it from someone who has seen a lot of life ,,,do not make ABUSE romantic, Any abuse is abuse please do not put up with it, if u dont raise u r voice it will continue

Looks like i have to watch only YPNTKH now on sony at 11 till all this stops in ISA

i cant tolerate abuse

Edited by AnjuRish - 7 years ago

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MsChanadlerBong

@MsChanadlerBong

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Posted: 7 years ago

I agree. Kabir's actions can not be justified anymore. People should stop imagining and expecting the bad boy turns good for his love kinda love story. In reality, it doesn't happen!

Will Kabir change his views? Maybe some after a lot of effort and time. Will he change? No he wouldn't. Kabir's principles, his conservative opinions are a part of him. It can not be changed in a day or two. And honestly Zara can not change Kabir despite her efforts cause Kabir can not be changed unless he himself wants to change. It should come from him. He should be the one to take the first step and maybe then Zara can help him. Till then, Zara should really back off.

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JazzyM

@JazzyM

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Posted: 7 years ago

@sajni786

Getting physical in an argument/disagreement is simply a NO!

I rest my case!!

Well said... In my country, this could be deemed as abuse case...

What kind of marriage is it, if within weeks of marriage there is mental and physical abuse. I would say that Zara was in better shape when she didn't fall for Kabir. Then, at least she had backbone to stand for her rights. Where else Kabir was also more careful. Now that Zara is walking around with lovey dovey look, Kabir is behaving deplorably.

How can a would be Qazi be in so abusive... Is this what they thought him in his Madrasah.. To disrespect woman. Manhandle woman. I wonder ...

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abinaya98

@abinaya98

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Posted: 7 years ago

Wow bang on post.

Completely agree

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Arohi

@made-in-charms

Rocker

Posted: 7 years ago

This 👏

You can be mad/angry atleast i would have accepted if he talked to Zara for spoiling his work after taking her into their room ! But what he did yesterday CANNOT be justified.

Looking into both the sides , Zara is a victim and Kabeer is an abuser and I will say that as many times as someone tries to justify it.

Its not just a " push & pull show " where ML drags the FL w/o are consent , treats her like trash I didnt sign up for this , ISA is becoming just like other regressive shows where the ML has every right to abuse a woman , and to some it is romantic maybe ( not judging ) but i am against it.

And the way this " difference of nazariya " was handled yesterday , it was unpleasant to watch , they are showing physical abuse on tv ? And in the precap Zara is trying to help kabeer ?

Ruks can poison his mind , do whatever she wants to do that dosent justify his behavior.

Edited by ItsArohi - 7 years ago