I have so much to say! Firstly, i cannot believe what i just read!!! The tag lines we got( and i say WE because i am upset with how Kabir's character is developing and I do feel its taking a huge turn), how we fans are described as 'hormonal fans' and 'feminist brigade'; that is down right rude and pathetic. Sorry if i sound crazy, i do apologize, but i find that very low and disrespectful.
Kabir's character development have not yet begun. His layers are being peeled off slowly and we are getting to see how deep rooted s his backward thinking. And about saying those words, i am not sorry cos thats what i have been seeing on SM. Feminism is most misunderstood word. Here people think that wife walking away from her marriage is feminism😕 If your marriage n husband are being difficult and mistreating you, yes walk away but for a small thing like opinions differ and husband is being not very affectionate so walk away from marriage do not mean feminism.
I agree, I am one, of lets describe it as "Anti-Kabir" at the moment. When this serial first started, I enjoyed watching a fresh new ML who i felt didn't hesitate to stand up for women, or stand up to say how he fully feels no matter the situation, regardlesss of if it was his father or whoever, what he thought was wrong was wrong. He had always made a stand for what he felt was right. Be it their first encounter in the train, then standing up, well basically shielding Siddique's respect> or let me say Zara- a woman's respect in front of the media. The playful Kabir who came back after his madressa who was in the kitchen cooking for his family. Or the Kabir who actually looked at his wife lovingly. WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM ???? every since he returned from Kashmir he is a changed individual. Doesn't smile as often and barely cares to show any care or RESPECT for his wife. The truth is, maybe Kabir is not so vocal about his feelings, but before expressions were there na?
Even I am Anti Kabir 😆 I am not liking his old school thinking but that is what is his basic characterization so I wont complain that he "Changed". I have been seeing this kabir only - who loves n adores his family, who is softie, who respect women with these good qualities he have bad qualities too - for him his POV matters most, what opinion he have over something is the only opinion that matters and that is what will have to change to show progress in him 😳 How can he show care and respect? I am asking genuinely. From where I am seeing, he have both for Zaara. He is not respecting her thoughts and views and I agree to this one
As quoted, "Kabir cannot turn into some lover boy just within a month of marriage. Strong relationships are build brick by brick.". this is very true. I personally do not expect him to just fall in love with her like that. She has not done anything superior as yet for him to fall in love with her anyhow, however He has, he saved her and as you said he perform his duties, but within these duties where is the RESPECT. NO ONE wants him to be a 'joru ka gulam'. It is just his thinking that changed and lack of respect. I understand the show is about women's rights and how she and Kabir adjust and live thier life. But in any relationship, the foundation of any relationship in my opinion is respect. Respect comes first. And, i am not sure if Kabir even realizes it, but he is belittling Zara in so many ways. He threw the papers she wrote away, he was ready to show his affection by holding her hands when he wanted the Mahr's cheque and without fully listening to her, he made an assumption and then quarrels her out. For a newly married couple, that is not healthy at all.
Yes he is being idiot by not taking zaara's help. There is no harm in taking help and I have pointed it out in my post. Kabir dont want any interference from anyone in his project and zaara tops the list as he believes they cant work together cos of nazariya.
Another issue, I agree Kabir is opening up to Zara with his dream project and investors and trials and what not. BUT its all about him. His dream, his issues and his problems. Kabir is not being fair at all. But when Zara says she wants to come to the meetings and join back work, he has an issue and tells her to stay home!! WHY???? Where are her rights then? Her dreams? Kabir is being sick selfish!
All in All, i loved Kabir's character and so as Zara's. I mean come on, Kabir has good ways. He doesn't talk to her in a loud tone, and when he did he immediately apologized, and the other stuff in Kashmir, like calling her parents and what not. So even though i am venting I am still going to watch the show to see how it unfolds for us. But Lack of RESPECT is my issue. If that makes me a feminist brigade so be it!! Another thing, if we women sit down and take bullshit from men, because we grew up seeing men put crap on the table and the woman silently conforms because this is how 'typical men' are then something is wrong with us!! We as women need to teach men, that both men and women are valuable in their own ways, and women can do the same as men, visa versa. Men must realize just because you married the woman does not mean you own her. She stills has all rights she previously had. The only thing that comes to her is her responsibilities towards her husband. What Kabir is doing, or what it is portrayed to me as, is Kabir believes that Zara must stay at home because he said so. But the next morning he tells her come and Zara jumps and goes!! See, this is why i am annoyed. LACK OF RESPECT!!!!!
No women should take crap from men but yahan abhi shuruat huyi bhi nahi and ppl are like zaara give divorce and go 🤣 Zaara is strong enuf to walk away. Right now she is just trying to work out this relationship and she is giving everything to it 😳 The day she realizes that she is being subdued wrongly, she will take a stand for herself firmly.
Anyways, i hope i didn't come across rude, because seriously, that was not my intention. I support strong healthy discussions. Hope there is no hard feelings!! Btw good posts!! Opens more discussion😆
Anupamaa
