# CAN'T HANDLE IT..... - Page 3

Originally posted by: _AmyChoco_

I didn't justify his actions..I said I prefer to see him try ..than stay in the corner in his lala world..(What I am implying..try & then fall flat on your face.. Pataak.. bada maza aayega) 😆 Point to be noted, milord 😆 Why did he propose marriage? Dude skipped many steps..and came Tadaa..mujhse shaadi Karoge. (Between you and me..me not likey that lopsided half smile permanently plastered on the face, hence do something else..give some other expression) 😎

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Zyada karega tabhi toh zyada BEIZAATI hogi (mentally attributing this word to one of my favourite characters in another show 😃) woh dekhe humein Jo Khushi milti haina ki boloon 🥳

He lives in a delusional world jahan pe Imlie is ready to marry him and everything is hunky dory 😕

How I wish we all had the ability to be like this

Originally posted by: SundariP

@bold: ok when you put it like that, then it makes a clear parallel between akt and asr....

I mean both are in same boat, let me marry first by hook or crook and get the forgiveness later?

(If i ignore malini-baby angle in akt situation per @amy)

Yes!! That's AKT's thoughts...Start karo..then sambhaalo..Dude, it doesn't work that way. And thats why Aryan you ought to get a grip on yourself. There is no guarantee that all will be well later on( at least that is so in the real world). Why create unnecessary MUs which can be cleared simply? One thing that has been often shown in ITV..Make the boy do shit...much , much later the girl worships the boy..oh he is so good..saved me..Uh Uh..no girl..that's sweeping everything under the rug. Call out for what's wrong. You have to try to save yourself too

Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

This. I don't get it. He feels bad that he is being high handed but uske liye kuch kar bhi nahi Raha hai 🤷🏻‍♀️

He is simply forcing her hand and that's never his behavior. It seems like some stupid intruder has taken his place!

He is behaving like an ass and if Imlie is calling out on the same, he feels distressed!

Oh Bhai, aap chahte kya hain? Woh aapko aarthi utaare! She feels betrayed and she is right!

Imlie ki savior complex has now got passed on Aryan and he is behaving like a madcap tbh

And force feeding kis liye Bhai, to "establish" that you are villain ?😡 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Arrghh 🤡

The first time, it was cute..aww the bandha is hurt.

Now when he feels hurt, I am like..Dude, you asked for it..It is not anyone else's responsibility to understand us, if we don't make ourselves clear. I mean..simple example..our parents make decisions on our behalf, deep down we know they are looking out for us..and yet when we see something forced upon us without any proper reasoning, we rebel.

Originally posted by: SundariP

We're talking about the force feeding scene right?

Well it made no sense for one... Neither story wise nor narrative wise ..

I can find a symbolism that it represents their marriage like the ladies whom she loves/can't hurt holding her captive while he force food to her mouth same way with the marriage, but frankly while the marriage does serve some purpose this feeding thing was pointless as she wasn't hungry or anything and he knew she was faking the feint too...

I mean it was like i will force you just because i can 🤷

Simply pointless.

I think that was some sort of a badla from Aryan's end maybe. Because he was enjoying her expense. If you notice there is that amused smile on his face while feeding her. So I think since she ruined his promise moment so he was like ok? Kamzori horhi hai? Lou Khao wo Jo acha nae lagta😆

I mean it wasn't that base less. We scrutinize everything too much😆

Originally posted by: _AmyChoco_

Dear Mili, what have we gotten ourselves into? 😆😆I watch the episode quite late at night and hence it is with amusement that I see all the ranting & the analysis. So I will be much 'prepared' when I actually get to watch 😆

My thoughts on the clips that I have watched..

- I will be honest, the pictures on the wall did not get any reaction from me. On the contrary, I thought it is a heightened reaction that all are giving to it. He is still holding on to (false) hope. Call him delusional at best. I mean, it's his house , his room. And this isn't any girl we are talking about. This is ex which he hopes to be his current (before anyone comes at me..in my head , I have kept the Malini angle aside for the time beinf) I never criticized him goung after Imlie just cuz he wasnt divorced. For me, it was the pursuing without any reflection on his own actions for which a mere sorry wouldn't redeem. And if anything, if anyone sees it..it reflects on him..and not on Imlie. What was his intention behind it..dunno..was it shown? Aryan should have anticipated that Adi would do something. I fault Aparna for even suggesting this maika thingy..Even if sly, I want Adi to make a move instead of moping around waiting for Imlie to come running to him.

- I will criticize him for being so smug and overconfident in front of Meethi about Imlie's vishwas. Have you done anything to gain back Meethi trust? Apologize? Anything?

- Oats thing..I don't see romance. I see high handedness. Again, I just saw the clip. My first thought.. she asked for namkeen food right..why forcefully feed her that? Maybe I am reading the scene all wrong.

- This is what warranted my attention. Aryan barging into the room and accusing Adi of having done something. Aryan jumped to the conclusion that Adi was manipulating Imlie. Adi didn't even have to lift a finger. His smug expression Said it all. Why , Aryan..do you feel the need to blame Adi? You never thoughts your actions itself might make Imlie run away from all the buffoons? Still thinking your actions are right? Tsk tsk. She told you today she is missing her friend. What are you gonna do about it?

Amy, my dear, you are confusing me even more🤗😭 I am now doing a deep dive into my own value systems with your note above. Thank you for pulling me back onto mother earth❤️, my friend. I will write out what I felt after reading your perspective.

1. The pictures on the wall grossed me out. As a mother, if I imagine myself in Meethi's place, I would be sooo maad, creeped out and scared for my child. That is creepy as hell😡It is very obvious I am unable to put myself in his place as I said the above things, unfortunately, I am still not able to put myself in his place😒. As an ASR (let us just take out that ASR being a fake spouse out of the equation ) in the role of a prospective spouse, that would gross me out and enrage me to no end😡. As parents, both Aparna and Pankaj should have made sure these stunts are not pulled. Let us just face it, even in normal circumstances, this would leave such a bad taste in the mouth. GROSS😡 If it is really my daughter, who is looking at a second chance for a happy life, I will do everything in my power to ensure that her path is paved with roses😭 I know we are talking from two different perspectives🤗If I am objective, I understand what you are saying is not soo out of the way if you have a delusional ex. But what to do, I am stuck with my blindspot......😭

2. The oats thing is useless. He knows she is feigning weakness, so this feeding is not out of concern. He doesn't need to show her who the boss is, time and again. There is no romance whatsoever🤢This is also out of character for an ASR, who doesn't indulge in public display of anything, concern, love or whatever else when it is not needed. There is simply no point👎🏼 didn't like it at all.

3. I felt really bad for Imlie losing a friend. If you look at her life, he was the only true advocate she ever had who could make things happen for her. She lost that advocate😭I am hopeful that this and Meethi's trust in him will weigh heavily on his conscience to back off from this forceful, " real wedding". Please Seetha maiyaa iss admi ko apne budhi waapis karlo😭.

4. As far as ASR accusing Adi guy, again I feel it is a combination of that rage/possessiveness upon seeing those pictures and his conscience weighing heavily on him. He knows in his heart of hearts that Imlie will bolt not because of what Adi guy is claiming, but because of his own( ASR's) actions frightening and disappointing her. Like when he says to himself that "I can lie to everyone of these people, but I know, I have to face your reality". So, he feels that she will hold on to any straws before she gets washed away by ASR. He also feels that Imlie is not totally over the ex-guy💔, as do we. The writers left this ambiguous, does she care for the T family or the ex +T family? He wonders if his actions are pushing her in that ex's direction?😭

Thank you so much for a different perspective❤️. I now understand that my reaction is likely a hyper one from my vantage point and not objective as if I am looking at it as an onlooker😒I feel better.... maybeLet me know what you think. My head is all messed up....🤢Thank Goodness for the time off now....

Originally posted by: Shabia1

I think that was some sort of a badla from Aryan's end maybe. Because he was enjoying her expense. If you notice there is that amused smile on his face while feeding her. So I think since she ruined his promise moment so he was like ok? Kamzori horhi hai? Lou Khao wo Jo acha nae lagta😆

I mean it wasn't that base less. We scrutinize everything too much😆

Thanks that makes it better if i trivialise it like that... Much love dear 🤗

Originally posted by: ampm06

you hit the nail in the head ! 😆 This is typical husband behavior- he is being territorial ever since the dream in hospital and has taken Imli under the same wing as his mom and sister, he almost says as much too !

He is head over heels in love with her but does not want to accept that - wildlife se pyaar and all you see . Duffer at this point if he actually conveys that to Imli , she may be awkward but at least she will try to understand him.

But deep down it’s his insecurities that’s playing him too , she cannot accept any other man in her life as love interest. AKT’s she is always going to be mine … that’s why so violent reaction after seeing the pictures ( which I agree we’re super creepy ) it’s his woman now and this man will manipulate her again some way and take her away. Hence the urgency to get married for real too.

Because for now he is thinking let me just get through with wedding by hook or crook .. I will get everything back to the way it was (between him & Imli) soon .

Least does he know Imli is not gonna make it that easy for him even they end up married for real .

And honestly I hope she gives it back to him … the nookh jookh will be very entertaining to witness 😆

Oh my God! So, so accurate❤️👍🏼 Thanks for articulating this soo well, my friend. I wrote a page to say just this👍🏼 He knows his actions and partly him may be responsible for Imlie fleeing. He probably can accept this, but won't accept that Adi guy has any part in it😔

Originally posted by: mili9

Amy, my dear, you are confusing me even more🤗😭 I am now doing a deep dive into my own value systems with your note above. Thank you for pulling me back onto mother earth❤️, my friend. I will write out what I felt after reading your perspective.

1. The pictures on the wall grossed me out. As a mother, if I imagine myself in Meethi's place, I would be sooo maad, creeped out and scared for my child. That is creepy as hell😡It is very obvious I am unable to put myself in his place as I said the above things, unfortunately, I am still not able to put myself in his place😒. As an ASR (let us just take out that ASR being a fake spouse out of the equation ) in the role of a prospective spouse, that would gross me out and enrage me to no end😡. As parents, both Aparna and Pankaj should have made sure these stunts are not pulled. Let us just face it, even in normal circumstances, this would leave such a bad taste in the mouth. GROSS😡 If it is really my daughter, who is looking at a second chance for a happy life, I will do everything in my power to ensure that her path is paved with roses😭 I know we are talking from two different perspectives🤗If I am objective, I understand what you are saying is not soo out of the way if you have a delusional ex. But what to do, I am stuck with my blindspot......😭

2. The oats thing is useless. He knows she is feigning weakness, so this feeding is not out of concern. He doesn't need to show her who the boss is, time and again. There is no romance whatsoever🤢This is also out of character for an ASR, who doesn't indulge in public display of anything, concern, love or whatever else when it is not needed. There is simply no point👎🏼 didn't like it at all.

3. I felt really bad for Imlie losing a friend. If you look at her life, he was the only true advocate she ever had who could make things happen for her. She lost that advocate😭I am hopeful that this and Meethi's trust in him will weigh heavily on his conscience to back off from this forceful, " real wedding". Please Seetha maiyaa iss admi ko apne budhi waapis karlo😭.

4. As far as ASR accusing Adi guy, again I feel it is a combination of that rage/possessiveness upon seeing those pictures and his conscience weighing heavily on him. He knows in his heart of hearts that Imlie will jump not because of what Adi guy is claiming, but because of his own( ASR's) actions frightening and disappointing her. Like when he says to himself that "I can lie to everyone of these people, but I know, I have to face your reality". So, he feels that she will hold on to any straws before she gets washed away by ASR. He also feels that Imlie is not totally over the ex-guy💔, as do we. The writers left this ambivalent, does she care for the T family or the ex +T family? He wonders if his actions are pushing her in that ex's direction?😭

Thank you so much for a different perspective❤️. I now understand that my reaction is likely a hyper one from my vantage point and not objective as if I am looking at it as an onlooker😒I feel better.... maybeLet me know what you think. My head is all messed up....🤢Thank Goodness for the time off now....

The laughing emoji meant no disregard to your perspective. I wanted a heart + laughing emoji. 😆

Let's move that away..

When I view characters, I tend to keep myself in their shoes and try to understand them. I may not agree with them. But I can understand if their pov is valid. It's quite simple.. I can be quite diplomatic in real life..and that extends to onscreen characters. Do I call out if its wrong? I do.. but you won't get a reaction from me just cuz everyone is reaxting to it.

Adi putting up the photos..my thought was "Silly Boi ( in Bolly villain Ajit Khan's voice 😆). Delusional ladka..kuch bhi ..upar se, I found those pics really funny 😆😆 See, pehle se hi I diffused the situation with humor. And as I said, it was his room. If it was the hall/ billboard/ R mansion, I would have called him psycho

From a Meethi POV, he was wrong. I am not disputing that. He claims to know Imlie. He doesn't. Meethi was much more calmer. If I knew how to whistle, I would have 😆Withiut an iota of consideration for Imlie, he wants to move on..start afresh without considering the bare minimum

Again, it circles back to Imlie. She is the one suffering. She should (try to) save herself. Be it Aryan or Adi, no matter who bullies het, she has to stand against it. Slowly, ASR's conscience is eating at him. Hope he turns this round. As for Round 2 of Adi delusions, it isn't for ASR to hammer anything into his bheja..that responsibility lies on Imlie.

Originally posted by: SundariP

Thanks that makes it better if i trivialise it like that... Much love dear 🤗

See..this is it. We don't have to react to each and everything. We can..We need not. People will have different perspectives. If we can see their point, so be it. Ignore if it doesn't make sense. At least here, there isn't as much polarization as it is on Twitter.

Coming to the feeding scene, some saw it in jest..good for them..I found it mleh. 😆

sis your feelings are on point. Lmao, A LOT of us got the same vibes going on rn.