Adi's restless search for answers - Page 17

Originally posted by: MuteButton

Pata nahin logon ko loose commitment kahaan dikh jaathi hai iss show main.

Paapi Dev bhi itna committed hai ki pyaar ko chhodke AC ke saath aaram ki zindagi jee raha hai. Imlie beti hai janthe hue bhi, bus ticket ke paise nahin deta, college ke fees nahin bharne ki sochta aur naa hi apne ghar main jagah dene ke liye ladtha hai.

Imlie ko chhath bhi KANK ka SRK samajhnewala hi ne diya hai kyunki usski loose morals ne hi use samjhaya tha ki woh bechari sheher me safe nahin reh sakti. Malini ke pair pakadnewala bhi yeh relationships ko thodne wala insaan hi hai

I am still stuck ki yeh KANK ke SRK samajnewale ke paas itna time aur energy hain that he can think about other women when he already has two wives.🤣... . Isnt he totally restless because his wife has left him? Now thinking about your wife also makes you a loose morale person😆...ajeeb log hain

Originally posted by: pamk06

I am still stuck ki yeh KANK ke SRK samajnewale ke paas itna time aur energy hain that he can think about other women when he already has two wives.🤣... . Isnt he totally restless because his wife has left him? Now thinking about your wife also makes you a loose morale person😆...ajeeb log hain

Aditya ne galtiyan ki hain. Lekin woh abhi KANK wala SRK nahin bana hai. Bina wajah hum forumwasis bhi Aditya ko nahin daant lagate. Daant lagaana ho toh dhang ki lagao 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: The challenge with ITV is that the definition of "interesting" does not always align between the writers and the viewers. For the writers, they are more interested in keeping the "mystery" of a problem going than in solving it.

No one is saying that they don't want the problem solved here.....some of us are simply saying that we need to be aware of how ITV works.....showing anyone actively solving the biggest problem rarely happens....they just keeping solving "smaller" problems like saving each other's lives...lol

As others here like Pam have mentioned, Adi realizing his feelings for Imlie at this point will open up problems that he isn't yet ready to solve....especially vis a vis Malini. He is not in the emotional/mental state yet to realize that Malini is not the grand love of his life. Confessing anything to Imlie and then coming back to resume his relationship with Malini will be a bigger dent on his character.....so it's easier to keep him dumb and oblivious about his feelings.....lol

Yeah - I'm hoping for a deviation away from usual ITV types - and get a hero - who realizes he made a big mistake and tries to rectify immediately because the intensity of his feelings is too much to control. That's what they are showing now right? - stay with it to the right conclusion. Few hours without Imlie and Adi is beside himself. And promises or not- his mantra is truth triumphs everything. Would not the truth of his feelings and marriage to Imli then eclipse every promise of lifelong devotion to Mun? Truth over loyalty or promises...isnt that what he believes Satyama Jeyate..

And no need to worry about Adi putting a dent in his character wrt Mun :).... the Moon jap act will not end shortly - the mantle will just get passed from Adi to Imli...whyever else did they focus so much on all the favors Malini showered on Imli. Even if Adi acknowledges his love for Imli - she will not let him let go of Moon didi for a long time. This unfortunately is also a ITV staple. If they do both Adi postponing his introspection and then Imli mahanatha display - we will be waiting for a long time for Adi Imlie love story.

Also I wonder if the makers want to start making the Adi-Imlie jodi stronger for show promotion purposes. Right now with the storyline - Adilie is not yet ready for couple promos. Will the makers consider moving focus to Adilie romance simply to get the TRP boost?

They seem to be trying to keep stuff under wraps...no hint of upcoming story - they even did not introduce the PRakash character. Nishant got such a big hype and this Prakash guy acts a whole load better than the Nishant actor.

Originally posted by: MuteButton

I guess it takes a different kind of naïveté to ignore what your only son is going through. Even taking Imlie out of the equation, which obviously no one is aware of, not giving his state a second thought thinking it will resolve on its own is bizarre. They let it fester so much that he chewed his wife’s head off and only then did Papa T decide to give him some advice. Some weird dysfunction this is.

Malini’s delusion rankles me only because she is central to the story and they are turning her into this petulant character because they do not want to turn her into a villain?

@bold: Yup😆....they don't want to do cliched villains so delusion it is😆. They will try to justify her and paint her a victim in many ways without addressing her obliviousness I think.....mainly cuz Adi's "crime" of lying to her/hiding the first marriage, in a sense has superseded all of Malini's obliviousness....lol

As for the Tripathi family....haha they are a unique piece, man. Till a few days back, their daughter in law was missing and they were just busy praying in at home😆.....now Imlie was missing, toh they were ALL willing to travel to her village to find her 🤣.

Their own ghar ka beta is someone they dote on but don't really make much effort to look past the surface with....that's just how the Tripathis are in general.....well-intentioned people but clueless about complicated things/relationships😆. It suits the purpose of the story cuz otherwise no one could hide two biwis in a regular household like this😆.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

LOL to me, the bigger hurdle is still Adi himself accepting that he loves Imlie over Malini.....Imlie ko convince karne ka time toh jab aayega, tab aayega.....Adi has told bigger lies to himself than to Imlie😆.....pehle khud ko toh convince kar le ki 7 saal ka pyar khokhla nikla.....Imlie bechaari ko toh no one can blame also for not believing him.....heck, I will find it hard to believe too.....he's not only said it over and over again, he's also gone out of his way to act like he's some majnu deewana of Malini with the Valentine's day PDA, then the recent PDA after the bridge incident....toh kyun maane Imlie? 😆

Adi has himself damaged his credibility.....so it will always be in doubt that was his love for Malini ever real or he just fell out of love with her after a point?😆

Which one do you think it is?

Originally posted by: pamk06

Word on everything you saiid but especially the bold parts!!

Totally agree that they were not ready for marriage I think in her mind, her marriage would be bed of roses as long as she is very understanding about his work and does not interfere with it. But there is more to a relationship than romance right? Your life can't be just divided into work and romance.

Chalo man liya ki marriage is a very different ball game. In this seven years they did not spend enough time together for her to learn how to handle his anger, when to step back, when to step in, But then, Imlie and Malini got married him almost at the same time😛. If she has taken the effort to know him, understand him, get where he is coming from, what ticks him, what calms him down then why cant Malini do it? Because she is still stuck in the past about this so called 7 year perfect relationship. She just cannot digest that there are disagreements between them or difference of opinion and hence she just wants to go back to the perfect bliss world. But then how will the relationship evolve if you are reluctant to move forward, it will always stay in this stagnant state.

Aditya is all Ok to make it about Malini but not when there is a whirlwind going within him which everyone is understanding except Malini. He needs space to come in terms with his problem and find a resolution. His mother told her that (which she should have totally known) but Malini's problem, as you said, is that if the storm is not about work then it has to be because of her. She thought its about Imlie, but he dissuade her (and she believed him) so now she is at a loss and now wants to make it all about herself.

@bold: Word....but I think Adi-Malini both didn't get that mainly cuz they compartmentalized their lives for 7 years into precisely that - work and romance😆.....like there are only two modes and nothing in between in any relationship. This shows a shortsightedness and lack of understanding of relationships despite being grown/mature people.

Any relationship needs communication and honesty to work.....and marriage needs it the most. But these two didn't get that basic/simple point when there was still time....now they are already in the marriage and thrashing around cluelessly, unable to understand the basic problem. When you spend 7 years running away from the problem and not understanding what marriage actually is, toh phir yehi hoga.

Re: Imlie....yeah that's the thing na....she also got thrown into marriage with Adi all of a sudden but her basic personality and values as a person helped her navigate it better and over time, understanding developed and deepened over time. This is not about her being some perfect sanskaari bahu/biwi acing some "ideal standard" for being a wife.....no, Imlie got proven as the right partner for Adi because she understood him even as he was battling the worst parts of his personality....she understood what his honor and ideals actually meant to him....she connected to the person beyond the anger and frustration and gave him compassion/understanding even when he wasn't giving it to her....that is how you build a bridge to another person, not through 7 years of dating and shopping for the same things.

Originally posted by: mayuri099

Which one do you think it is?

LOL oh if you ask for my opinion, I'm going to pick the first option😆.....I think it was never love to begin with if it had such little honest understanding....it was a convenience, an aadat that was hyped up into being "love" to keep the fantasy going.

I actually think Adi has no real understanding of what love means to him.....he has created an image of it and fit Malini into it....that image is false because it does not factor in Adi's true nature. That is part of the problem....when Adi is not even in touch with his true nature, how will he know what love means to him? The relationship he built with Malini was a relationship between two images, not two people. He presented a facade to her, she bought into that facade and then built a corresponding facade which kept feeding the fantasy from both sides.

I don't know if the show will ever go that deep into Adi's psyche as they address the unraveling of his relationship with Malini but this is how I see it....he is a passionate man at his core who hasn't expressed even 1% of that passion in the one long term relationship he's had in life with Malini😆....so how can it ever be love for Adi without passion? Love is an extension of your core nature....which Adi has mostly repressed for very long.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: Yup😆....they don't want to do cliched villains so delusion it is😆. They will try to justify her and paint her a victim in many ways without addressing her obliviousness I think.....mainly cuz Adi's "crime" of lying to her/hiding the first marriage, in a sense has superseded all of Malini's obliviousness....lol

As for the Tripathi family....haha they are a unique piece, man. Till a few days back, their daughter in law was missing and they were just busy praying in at home😆.....now Imlie was missing, toh they were ALL willing to travel to her village to find her 🤣.

Their own ghar ka beta is someone they dote on but don't really make much effort to look past the surface with....that's just how the Tripathis are in general.....well-intentioned people but clueless about complicated things/relationships😆. It suits the purpose of the story cuz otherwise no one could hide two biwis in a regular household like this😆.

Despite all their bewakoofis and extreme delusions too they work for the most part due to this.. they are endearing people at core who can find joys in small things .. they'd rather be in their bubble too than actively scheming and being losers .. so when they do.bewakoofis like chal9 picnic pe jaake imli ko dhiindte hain they make me go awww.. caz as silly as it is ...it does show how much they care and how much impact imlie had made. Practical nope but full of heart yes.. and adi has taken that from them

Rest I agree with your recent discussions ladies

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

Despite all their bewakoofis and extreme delusions too they work for the most part due to this.. they are endearing people at core who can find joys in small things .. they'd rather be in their bubble too than actively scheming and being losers .. so when they do.bewakoofis like chal9 picnic pe jaake imli ko dhiindte hain they make me go awww.. caz as silly as it is ...it does show how much they care and how much impact imlie had made. Practical nope but full of heart yes.. and adi has taken that from them

Rest I agree with your recent discussions ladies

Yep silly as the Tripathis are, I still value the fact that they aren’t the typical scheming/negativity waali family that is a staple in every show. They are an endearing lot overall :)

Originally posted by: AreYaar

LOL oh if you ask for my opinion, I'm going to pick the first option😆.....I think it was never love to begin with if it had such little honest understanding....it was a convenience, an aadat that was hyped up into being "love" to keep the fantasy going.

I actually think Adi has no real understanding of what love means to him.....he has created an image of it and fit Malini into it....that image is false because it does not factor in Adi's true nature. That is part of the problem....when Adi is not even in touch with his true nature, how will he know what love means to him? The relationship he built with Malini was a relationship between two images, not two people. He presented a facade to her, she bought into that facade and then built a corresponding facade which kept feeding the fantasy from both sides.

I don't know if the show will ever go that deep into Adi's psyche as they address the unraveling of his relationship with Malini but this is how I see it....he is a passionate man at his core who hasn't expressed even 1% of that passion in the one long term relationship he's had in life with Malini😆....so how can it ever be love for Adi without passion? Love is an extension of your core nature....which Adi has mostly repressed for very long.

This is what it is.. these guys really doesn't know what love actually is.. given how he has been shown to us always preoccupied with work.. he never got to experience any real.attachment or love..he went with the things the society tell you as love checking boxes and when the list was completed he went ok cool it's a match love it is let's marry.. how would he know what love is when he won't share a thing or well they in this case..

With her too it wasn't like she was looking for any true love either or had seen it so this felt too good all she wanted was glossy perfection that is unlike the reality of her parents and as soon as she got it she never bothered to look or find any more compatibility they both just kept pleasing each other by haan aap theek aap theek and thought ke yeh toh ideal hi gaya na koi sawaal jawaab na kuch aur isse better kya life nikal jaayegi this is the bestest love story ever. Lol

Little did they know ke ek image bana ke.rakhne main and ek asal nature ka nikal ke aana are different things.. one can't keep pretending whole life time aaj nahi toh kal eventually their real personalities would've peaked out imlie bina hi.. also one can't be always actively try to be impressing the other again it is easier on dates thode time ka naatak hi toh hai but when you are living ek saath you can hardly keep the mask on and wohi ho raha hai malini is seeing the different shades now and because she has no idea what is under that wrapping she can't understand what to do and she isn't liking rh gift underneath as such caz uske parameters ke mutabik nahi hai