Ego vs Insecurity - Page 6

Ye Raman toh Chaman nikla.

Not really... my interpretation is different.

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Originally posted by: Moor278

Not really... my interpretation is different.

Will PM you if you interested👍🏼

Always interested!

As usual a very interesting read ❤️

It has been ego and insecurity that has played a crucial role in all their conflicts. Ironically, as their love grew so did their ego and insecurity. And so did expectations and their need for each other, to be with each other. Wanting the other to themselves

On similar lines something that I touched upon in a post on Conceptualisation. Him being a victim of institutionalisation. When his succumbed to the CN ideologies and learning from what she saw..most importantly his own parents' relationship. It was later that he found a match to his contracting views through KJ and later Sai. But he has always been in conflict between the two and trying to find a middle path. Again a trait..a coping mechanism he developed as he grew up. With P he found an easy way, no conflict companion who would fit in completely into CN. More aligned with his character. But with Sai he found there is more to life and he found the excitement beyond that monotony.

I'm not sure if you will resonate with this. But what we seek outside is what is lacking/missing in us. For example - I love to be around water bodies. Even an image of a sea/ocean gives me immense peace. And I'm someone who drinks very less water. I have always struggled with that. So my body lacks water with heat element way too high in me. So I'm seeking out water outside subconsciously.

This example applies universally, to mostly everything.

Sai and V's relationship has evolved, but there is a long way to go. Sai and V's relationship under the constant threat from P. Love always under the spell of ego and insecurity. We have stretched enough on the lack of proper communication between the two. They have had serious discussions, but t he burning issues were never addressed. They always kept it under cover always emphasising on just the love. Not wanting to unearth the skeletons and bring out the ugliness. But it had to come out toppling one day. Jabaa hata to batsoorati dikh gayi.

Like you mentioned, Sai had been giving in since a while and this got V over confident. He started to take Sai for granted. He felt that even if he goes against her wishes she will eventually succumb to him. V expecting to be sacrosanct to Sai. But what he didn’t realise was that it was the wife who was compromising. The day he took the baby from her and gave to P, she switched completely into a mother.

Just like have put this. The conflict was between a husband and mother. And the mother had to win.If it was the wife she would have still considered, but here a mother was challenged. And she retaliated.

For the initial days of Sai in CN, she had started to find the one thing that she lacked in her life. Even though she had a complete family with KJ, she did feel happy to be part of a family again and have a mother in Ashwini. All her conflicts for Chavans (Devi, Mohit) were because she saw them as family. So was V..he being the her link to the family as well. Love came later for her.