Sai and Atrangi re (spoilers inside)

Disclaimer: not comparing sai and rinku here. Rinku has a clear medical condition and a deeper trauma. I am just comparing the psychology in general.

Happened to see Atrangi re today and I liked it for several reasons but the main point I liked is how a trauma changes the perspective of people. So much so that it creates your own set of beliefs on which you base your judgement on!

Strangely I related this to sai today. What she faced immediately after the death of her father is fear and trauma. When she thought she found a person she can trust, she faced with dilemnas and confusion constantly in the form of Pakhi. To avoid another heartbreak she found comfort in ‘deal’ word. Whenever virat Distances her, she found more closer to deal. Whenever he showered her with love, she forgets it. Just like rinku finds sajjad, under distress or confusion.

What rinku and sai needs is unconditional love! Just like a father’s love. The love which is heroic, possessive but not judgemental. Once you get that kind of love, there is no fear of mistakes or shame because you know the other person will understand you. Virat’s love is heroic and possessive. But not yet understanding. From her point of view. He needs to see Pakhi first from her point of view, then he will understand why sai is insecure. Unless he understands her fears, he can’t understand her comfort with deal word. He has to be unconditional in love for Sai for her to open up to him.

ps: in the last climax scene of Atrangi re, I saw the deal disappear, and sai and virat embracing each other. It is very coincidental but Anand L Rai brought it out much more clearer in more beautiful way.

Beautiful❤️

P.S. I haven't seen Atrangi Re

Missed a main point above. How sai expects unconditional love from virat can be understood in this scene from last episode where she asks him to forget what she said on the stage about him. She asks him to forget it why? Because it is not what she felt genuinely. She is asking him to see her beyond the words. Irrespective of her words, sai expects him to be there for her. But can a spouse provide her that?!

He has his own set of expectations from her: to believe him, listen to him and play along with him when he wants her support. His love looks selfish because of his expectations.

PS: sorry Atrangi re showed love like father’s can be found in a husband. And virat had a chance at it I felt, going forward.

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Beautiful❤️

P.S. I haven't seen Atrangi Re

watch it! It’s kind of crazy story but the director tried to show something very sensitive.

I agree with this post so much👏
Rinku and Sai can’t be compared, as you said, but after reading your post, even I see Sai as the girl who faced the trauma of her father’s death and likes living in a world of imagination and comfort. Once she overcomes her trauma, she will come out of the bubble and embrace the reality.

But Virat’ love cannot be compared to Vishu’s selfless love , infact he himself can never be compared to Vishu 🤣 Sorry, sorry, I know you know it🤣

PS- Even I liked most parts of Atrangi Re but did not fall in love with it. Dhanush and Rait Zara Si won me though😳

I saw some clip instgram beautifully Sai joshi journey they show ❤️👏

Originally posted by: Flying_High

I agree with this post so much👏
Rinku and Sai can’t be compared, as you said, but after reading your post, even I see Sai as the girl who faced the trauma of her father’s death and likes living in a world of imagination and comfort. Once she overcomes her trauma, she will come out of the bubble and embrace the reality.

But Virat’ love cannot be compared to Vishu’s selfless love , infact he himself can never be compared to Vishu 🤣 Sorry, sorry, I know you know it🤣

PS- Even I liked most parts of Atrangi Re but did not fall in love with it. Dhanush and Rait Zara Si won me though😳

agreee! I am more focused on how people seek comfort in certain things to avoid pain. To the extent that they believe that the comfort object is real not anything else.
And sais words yesterday asking him to forget what she said on stage is so heartbreaking to see. Her father would never have suspected her love listening to those words.! She wanted that understanding from virat. Virat could be that if he sees things from her perspective. He has potential to be Vishu.

Love the way you have related the two. The deep rooted insecurity of losing someone you love, the saviour who always protects her, the conflict between the saviour and the lover, the sheer loneliness of living without 2 people who love you unconditionally, never being able to find anyone who will love unconditionally..Rinku and Sai.

Originally posted by: sadiltl

agreee! I am more focused on how people seek comfort in certain things to avoid pain.

I loved this line. This is true of 99% of people. Each of us seek comfort in certain things to avoid pain - it could vary in degree.

We are all more similiar than we know :-)

Watched Atrangi re yesterday, and I loved it. Ofcourse, Rinku's trauma runs way deeper than Sai's. But the grief is almost the same, both of them lost their parents in front of their eyes, and then they landed in a house where they were only berated.

Rinku fortunately found uncinditional love and she could finally free herself from the shackles of her past trauma. Sai is yet to find the unconditional love and acceptance to bring her walls down and see others in a new light.

I loved the post so much❤️