Narrow Minded - Page 3

Originally posted by: Nja91

Exactly. Its not narrow minded but a natural reaction of a wife who feels hurt/insecure/affected by her husbands closeness to another woman. She is doing her best to move past it, she keeps trying and everytime she gets her hopes up they come crashing down.

And theres is absolutely no comparison of Sais reaction to pp vs Virats jealousy to random college friend of Sais. Pp is Virats ex lover, lives in the same house as them n hurls taunts/abuses at Sai.

Exactly That!

Sai was so close to those feelings that he was hoping for, but the scene she saw on Harinees Birthday turned everything in its axis and it brought back everything that she had forgot. On top of that him protecting Pakhis honour above his wife’s when he knows that Pakhi is wrong has made her close herself to any of those feelings.

Like she had said herself, she hasn’t allowed herself to feel those things and why would she when she can’t guarantee her heart wouldn’t break.

There is absolutely no comparison at all between their jealousy. Virat has portrayed some real toxic behaviour in his jealousy and right now he is no different to Pakhi.

Any woman sharing a roof with her husband's ex and seeing them in a cafe holding hands would have suspected them. Especially when she knows that the ex hasn't moved on and her husband refuses to answer why they met in the cafe and why he was holding her hands. It's normal human behaviour, not narrow mindedness.

Originally posted by: msin

I don’t think audience took Sai as narrow minded .. right now they know she has reasons to be angry … she saw the wrong moments … anybody will be suspicious..

as of now virat has not cleared any doubts in her mind .. in fact he brazenly told her to believe what You want .. so now why is he complaining .. I have told her so many times ..

It appeared to me as being narrow minded because she thinks holding hands means loving each other .

Originally posted by: -Yaz-

Call me narrow minded and maybe I am, but I would have reacted the same way in Sai’s shoes. Everyone is telling me that my husband loves me, however my husband hasn’t said anything and then I catch him holding the hands of his ex lover, who he had promised to never let anyone else in his heart, who also told his own wife not to expect anything of him, in the initial stage of the marriage called his lover a pyaari cheez, who even now defends that women regardless of the embarrassment his own wife would face.

it’s hard to see his love when his behaviour doesn’t reflect it.

We as an audience know he loves her and we can see it in his actions because he’s used his words to tell us. However Sai didn’t have the luxury of hearing it so she has only his actions to go by, which if we didn’t know the truth it could have been described as zimmedari or from a place of care or even familial love, it doesn’t necessarily have to be romantic love.

I know people say Action speak louder than words and agree with it, but his actions aren’t consistent, it’s marred with accusations, anger, jealousy, judgement so I can’t blame Sai for not understanding it, for still thinking that he has feeling for Pakhi, because all his actions in her eyes have pointed towards that.

Originally posted by: -Yaz-

Exactly That!

Sai was so close to those feelings that he was hoping for, but the scene she saw on Harinees Birthday turned everything in its axis and it brought back everything that she had forgot. On top of that him protecting Pakhis honour above his wife’s when he knows that Pakhi is wrong has made her close herself to any of those feelings.

Like she had said herself, she hasn’t allowed herself to feel those things and why would she when she can’t guarantee her heart wouldn’t break.

There is absolutely no comparison at all between their jealousy. Virat has portrayed some real toxic behaviour in his jealousy and right now he is no different to Pakhi.

There are some toxic behaviors from Sai as well . If she truly believes he is two timing her then she needs to take a stand for herself and not associate with him anyway . She is ok to be romancing , taking care of the two timer but when she is angry then she again accuses him of one . Why is he not a two timer when she is calm ? It clearly shows that when she is angry or jealous she questions his character not otherwise . She believes he cannot cheat his brother but why does she say he does sometimes . Isn’t this toxic behavior. Well it is . What Virat did was suspect her once and he apologized as supposed to Sai doing it everytime she is angry and being normal when things have settled down . The pattern repeats

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

the same husband has clarified that he is no longer committed to this women . She has seen how he treats Pakhi . She has seen him choose her over his love every single time . None of his recent actions show he is in love with Pakhi but indicate that he has something for her . Despite this if she still believes he loves Pakhi then there is something lacking from her side to trust her husband. He hasn’t explicitly told her that he loves Pakhi but it’s the opposite yet she feels he does . Then there is lack of effort from her side

But then she sees him in a cafe with that women, when he’s meant to be at home ill, holding her hands and when she asks what was said, he doesn’t tell her anything, leaving her to make her own assumptions, which will be that he still has feelings for Pakhi but putting a stem to it for his family and brothers sake. He has sided with Sai, I agree but at the same time when his ex has blatantly insulted his wife in front of him, he hasn’t said a word to stop her viciousness, so what is she meant to think, because that to me doesn’t shout “I love Sai”. She trust him to take care of her as his zimmedari but that’s as far as it goes in her eyes, and from what she has experienced in her stay there, I don’t blame her feeling that way.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

That’s the crux of the problem. She sees Pakhi’s actions and assumes it to be the sane for Birat as well . She heard Pakhi version during Harini’s birthday and assumed Virat would feel the same . She thinks Pakhi hasn’t moved on so Virat won’t as well .

There are some toxic behaviors from Sai as well . If she truly believes he is two timing her then she needs to take a stand for herself and not associate with him anyway . She is ok to be romancing , taking care of the two timer but when she is angry then she again accuses him of one . Why is he not a two timer when she is calm ? It clearly shows that when she is angry or jealous she questions his character not otherwise . She believes he cannot cheat his brother but why does she say he does sometimes . Isn’t this toxic behavior. Well it is . What Virat did was suspect her once and he apologized as supposed to Sai doing it everytime she is angry and being normal when things have settled down . The pattern repeats

In relation to her accusing him of two timing, I have always maintained that she was wrong and should apologise.

I am in no way blind to Sai’s fault, but Virat has many faults of his own that are being ignored and Sai’s faults are being broadcasted and that to me is unfair.

Originally posted by: -Yaz-

But then she sees him in a cafe with that women, when he’s meant to be at home ill, holding her hands and when she asks what was said, he doesn’t tell her anything, leaving her to make her own assumptions, which will be that he still has feelings for Pakhi but putting a stem to it for his family and brothers sake. He has sided with Sai, I agree but at the same time when his ex has blatantly insulted his wife in front of him, he hasn’t said a word to stop her viciousness, so what is she meant to think, because that to me doesn’t shout “I love Sai”. She trust him to take care of her as his zimmedari but that’s as far as it goes in her eyes, and from what she has experienced in her stay there, I don’t blame her feeling that way.

Originally posted by: -Yaz-

In relation to her accusing him of two timing, I have always maintained that she was wrong and should apologise.

I am in no way blind to Sai’s fault, but Virat has many faults of his own that are being ignored and Sai’s faults are being broadcasted and that to me is unfair.

I have to admit that I didn't like the hand holding and all. Knowing Pakhi's intentions Virat needs to stay away from her. Even though I inderstand that he was just trying to calm her down in a place where everyone was watching them but still as a partner I would have definitely felt bad and jealous.

But I also agree that this kind of dialogues are not discussed because it's Sai who says them. She is bachchi and immature. She also is suffering from this whole third angle thing so we tend not to find it ugly. Koi aur bolta toh people would have bashed that person. In fact if Virat had said the same thing then he would have been bashed left right center. 😆