Wasn’t she the same girl? What changed now? - Page 5

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

True. Like I am excited to travel even a day before my exams😆

But, you have put out well how Sai has shown a change. Sai ki acchai , her morals, uski soch abhi bhi zinda hai, but shayad Sai Joshi marr rahi hai roz .😭

Okay, I have a vile another perception as well, You know, when you are always questioned for something ,even when lawfully you hold your right on it, then I guess a person naturally begins to get irritated with that thing and then question themselves that why on earth they have associated themselves with the thing. Maybe that is what might be happening with Sai now. She is not able to put it through in words, but everyday, she is definitely growing fond of the person, she is getting fond of Virat, but the fact that Virat is hers, yet she has no rights over him, is making her out of place, doubt herself, irritate her maybe🤔🤔 Yes, Sai is guilty for sure, but I want to know whether sometimes, like very few times, Sai also feels chained somewhere🤔🤔

A vile example, but it's like, when your parents deny you things saying you are too old or too young for that. We feel why can't we grow fast or why did we grow fast. Toh, yeh bhi hosakta hai kya. Okay I am blabbering and not making sense, but just came up my mind as a thought. 😆

Cuz, This is how I feel when I am in Sai's position when it comes to some things 🥺

Interesting theory!

I was thinking about something yesterday....may be slightly different from yours ..but yet similar too

I recall Sai's monologues a couple of times...when she tells herself that she doesn't even like Virat..😆

So it's possible she deliberately focuses on his negatives (in her mind) to tell herself that she doesn't have any special feelings towards him...that she just respects him and has gratitude for him...

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Interesting theory!

I was thinking about something yesterday....may be slightly different from yours ..but yet similar too

I recall Sai's monologues a couple of times...when she tells herself that she doesn't even like Virat..😆

So it's possible she deliberately focuses on his negatives (in her mind) to tell herself that she doesn't have any special feelings towards him...that she just respects him and has gratitude for him...

🤣 Interesting , that is Virats complaint against her aswell that she only remembers the things she wants to and anything good he does she forgets 😂.

How she mellowed instantly knowing the kids name was Virat and was more focused on his pain. I am sure if someone points this out she will just brush it aside and list out actual Virats negatives and why she doesn't care for him 😂

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Interesting theory!

I was thinking about something yesterday....may be slightly different from yours ..but yet similar too

I recall Sai's monologues a couple of times...when she tells herself that she doesn't even like Virat..😆

So it's possible she deliberately focuses on his negatives (in her mind) to tell herself that she doesn't have any special feelings towards him...that she just respects him and has gratitude for him...

I agree that she definitely deliberately tries to convince herself that she doesn’t have feelings for Virat. As for her focusing on the negatives, she can’t even hold a grudge against Virat for kicking her out of the house or shaming her character or grabbing her arm. Every time he tells her to forget about it and requests that they don’t bring it up again, she gladly accepts. She compares him to abba, calls him the closest and most important person in her life…I don’t think this girl could focus on the negatives even if she tried to 🤣

Originally posted by: tptwi

I agree that she definitely deliberately tries to convince herself that she doesn’t have feelings for Virat. As for her focusing on the negatives, she can’t even hold a grudge against Virat for kicking her out of the house or shaming her character or grabbing her arm. Every time he tells her to forget about it and requests that they don’t bring it up again, she gladly accepts. She compares him to abba, calls him the closest and most important person in her life…I don’t think this girl could focus on the negatives even if she tried to 🤣

@bold this it's ok she forgave him but she should have really kicked him a couple of times before forgiving him so he remembers next time. I would have done it 🤣🤣

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

You know Lakshmi , when the showed the video snap of the flight , followed by the car, I was actually expecting them to talk about their first flight together and Sai's flight as well.. This child woman was so excited when she was to go to Ladakh trip.. about her first flight , followed by her dreams of going to Mumbai together with her aaba..WHat has she turned into..

Thats why I mentioned yesterday Lakshmi that before she witnessed the confrontation between Virat and Pakhi on Harini's birthday , even though she knew they shared something in the past and even though then there was this deal and vaada between them , she always always claimed Virat her husband infront of everyone , his family ,Pakhi with full HAQ. She fought with them calling him her Pati.. And she stopped after the witnessing that confrontation.. We dont get what goes in her head, something that I always crib about, but what I understood from the minimal that I got was that she might have thought by this time that there is not more to Pakhi in Virat's heart and just wanted him to call the deal off or may be she did not know they shared dreams of love, marriage and togetherness. She knew they loved each other but to know that is one thing and to witness all that and more is another..This is when she realise however how many times she claims to be his wife, she is NOT is wife..And from then on she clearly stopped calling him so if you see the episodes.. Then when he stops her from going away with the right of a husband , she is overwhelmed, happy and speechless.. But still in dilemma..The final nail in the coffin was the Saree kaand after which, in her mind she gave up those rights thoroughly and stopped showing her haq as a wife on him infront of the family. She even called Virat's preparation for her birthday as something he did for an orphan.. Even when she felt like a wife at times she blocked those emotions and started trying to build a different relationship with.

SHe no more feels worth of it.. Her insecurity is so so strong that now she has accepted that insecurity and feels she does not deserve any of it.. You know you keep drinking and you know you need to stop since its detrimental for you and yet you cant , that's her case when it comes to Virat..

I agree Asmi. Beautifully put.

@bold They didn’t think of adding that too. I too expected they would show or talk about it, but nothing at all 🤦‍♀️.

@bold very true. That is why she had even said that she forgot. She was disturbed by them even before she left the house after she was ousted from the house but after seeing how Virat has been with her and Pakhi, after how he was getting close to her, she had forgotten about Pakhi and his waada. She was woken up from her dreams after the pool encounter and she was shattered to witness it.

The way Pakhi spoke, the things Pakhi spoke was too big of a thing, their dreams, their togetherness and all that made her feel or think what kind of a life they had planned to live together which got spoilt. And later every time when Pakhi kept accusing Virat to be cheating her, accusing Sai that she has snatched away her love, she started to withdraw into her shell even more. The way with which Pakhi expresses her jealousy, her anguish can make anyone get upset or make anyone think if they are the reason for her misery.

Yes, exactly, knowing is different from actually witnessing it, hearing everything from their mouth and that is even more painful. Virat had never accepted that it was Pakhi before even when she had asked about it but she could see it and she understood it too. But the information that she had got from what she witnessed was enough for her to detach herself from him. Whatever the yoga instructor spoke only justified whatever Pakhi had claimed and she could understand how close they would have been and that they had dreamt to live together. Virat’s story at the lovers point, him accepting that he didn’t stop that person because it was the truth we’re all too painful for her to even hear.

@green Right.

Originally posted by: scarlett22

Absolutely! Sai is not the confident young girl she was before the birthday incident. I remember the evening Aai got her ready...she cried saying she cannot control her anger and why was like that? It was heart breaking. Such scenes come and go...we never take her seriously.

And ironically, Virat is the only person she is free enough to talk with.

I felt terrible for Virat even today when he almost collapsed with worry about Sai.

But I feel terrible even for Sai. She was rude to Virat and I'm getting ready to see her get even more rude when Samrat comes with his story. All these things corroborate what she thinks she senses about the relationship between Virat and Pakhi.

😭 two idiots!!

@bold That is the problem for people like her. Often their hard exterior doesn’t allow people to always remember who they actually are as a person deep within. Some do not hesitate to express, they don’t hesitate to pour their heart but some prefer to act harsh or bitter to stop themselves from drowning into their misery, to protect their heart. Virat cannot express in words always and Sai cannot express her hurt always by crying, she seldom cries.

True, Virat is the only person she wants to talk to too. She could share about his family with him, like after the saree kaand because they are his own family but she tries to hide her pain and issues from her own friends from college. She told Virat that she shares everything with Ajinkya but that everything is something that is not about herself.

True, there is going to be more misunderstanding 😞 in the upcoming episodes.

Originally posted by: laksh

So sweet Shristhi, I get what you are saying and I have also thought if this could be the case 😀.

I had written another write up, a small kind of story to show Sai’s state of mind, Sai’s way to deal with her deal marriage actually. It more or less shows the theory you have said but not the same one.

As I have mentioned above, I have given it a thought where Sai thinks or curses herself to have got linked to Virat but I don’t think that she is irritated as why on earth she is associated with him or is liking him but instead chooses to give a solution to the problem to maintain distance from him, to push him away too if needed.

Actually, I am going to write a post about this, will tag you in it. It is one way to look at her internal conflicts actually.

Would be eagerly waiting for your post 😳

Do tag me👍🏼❤️

Originally posted by: Shaome

Excellent post...

Even I have been thinking the same.. She is not her in usual self..

That happy go girl some where missing.. I used to love her brashness earlier now it turned out rude..

I loved her unapologetic attitude which is turning arrogance..

A lot a has happened since then. She has been targeted many times for things she was never responsible.. Especially after ousting there are lot of changes in her attitude..Still she was going back to her old self then again she was harassed by PP and Kaku gang for no apparent reason....

She hardly has any friends who can counsel her. Ashwini would blast Pakhi only but she should at least try to understand Sai and Virat. I found mohit useless yesterday..

She is mere clueless teen who is going through a lots everyday. She is that orphan who's earth below shattered and she knows this family is for the namesake just like her husband..That very thought breaks her everyday and doesn't let her enjoy ..

I watched few old episodes post their marriage she was treated like mere doormat.. Virat constantly made her feel like he is doing some ahsan on her.. Ashwini ,Devi and shivani have been there with her like rock..

I was eager to samrat and Sai bond but today Samrat seemed a weirdo .

@bold Yeah, that’s the biggest problem. They do say that circumstances can change people and that has what has happened to her too. All the bitterness, the hatred that she was receiving and no one with whom she can share all of her worries, her insecurities, has made her go into a shell. We can sense how lonely she must have been feeling all the while.

True, Ashwini used to talk to her but she too is of no help later. I am not surprised with Mohit actually. He is a person who got confidence from Sai. He may be loyal to her, can support her but I really doubt if he has that good understanding about relationships. He has not interacted with Sai much to know or understand what her problem could be. He could have tried to understand but he started to feel sorry for his brother and that caused a mental block from looking at things from Sai’s perspective. I found Sunny to be a little better in that aspect while he was talking to Virat.

@green That’s the sad part.

When one is constantly made to feel that they are only their responsibility or they are doing a favour, even if she can sense that apnapan, she wouldn’t be confident about it, she wouldn’t be able to trust that it is love for her, especially when she was told that there is someone else which was still not clarified.

@blue I am sorry to say but they all look like people who wallow in self pity. They feel too sorry for themselves actually. That is why I like Sai better in this aspect because she tries to move on, she brings in some strength within her which makes her move forward and not cry or get stuck at any point of time. Her hard exterior is a survival mechanism, otherwise she would also be crying and would be feeling for her state and fate. She has always tried to accept her fate, the reality and even if she is struggling, has been living what life threw at her.

Originally posted by: laksh

@bold Yeah, that’s the biggest problem. They do say that circumstances can change people and that has what has happened to her too. All the bitterness, the hatred that she was receiving and no one with whom she can share all of her worries, her insecurities, has made her go into a shell. We can sense how lonely she must have been feeling all the while.

True, Ashwini used to talk to her but she too is of no help later. I am not surprised with Mohit actually. He is a person who got confidence from Sai. He may be loyal to her, can support her but I really doubt if he has that good understanding about relationships. He has not interacted with Sai much to know or understand what her problem could be. He could have tried to understand but he started to feel sorry for his brother and that caused a mental block from looking at things from Sai’s perspective. I found Sunny to be a little better in that aspect while he was talking to Virat.

@green That’s the sad part.

When one is constantly made to feel that they are only their responsibility or they are doing a favour, even if she can sense that apnapan, she wouldn’t be confident about it, she wouldn’t be able to trust that it is love for her, especially when she was told that there is someone else which was still not clarified.

@blue I am sorry to say but they all look like people who wallow in self pity. They feel too sorry for themselves actually. That is why I like Sai better in this aspect because she tries to move on, she brings in some strength within her which makes her move forward and not cry or get stuck at any point of time. Her hard exterior is a survival mechanism, otherwise she would also be crying and would be feeling for her state and fate. She has always tried to accept her fate, the reality and even if she is struggling, has been living what life threw at her.

@ bold very well said 👏👏. Sai inspite of all the hardships she faced in GC and after coming to chavan nivas has always held her head high and never once wallowed in self-pity. She rises like a phoenix after every major blow which is the beauty and curse of the character. Be it Sonali, Karishma, Pakhi who are always in self pity mode or even aai and Virat to some extent have wallowed about their sorrow's in general onetime or the other. With sai the only incident I recall where she broke down not in self pity but because she couldnt understand their hatred for her is saree fiasco😢.

Originally posted by: Rdigest

@ bold very well said 👏👏. Sai inspite of all the hardships she faced in GC and after coming to chavan nivas has always held her head high and never once wallowed in self-pity. She rises like a phoenix after every major blow which is the beauty and curse of the character. Be it Sonali, Karishma, Pakhi who are always in self pity mode or even aai and Virat to some extent have wallowed about their sorrow's in general onetime or the other. With sai the only incident I recall where she broke down not in self pity but because she couldnt understand their hatred for her is saree fiasco😢.

@bold Yeah 😀❤️