Originally posted by: laksh
Warning : A lengthy post
Can I request not to bash any character please. The intent is to just share my understanding. I can understand if some do not agree with me, obviously, our views can vary.
Before you read the below, I think quite a lot pf people know that I support and also criticise the actions of both the characters. I usually try to look into any situation from both the character's point of view.
I was unhappy with the way Virat's tone had changed with Pakhi and I didn't know how to react to it. Have a mixed feeling about it though, after I had tried to understand his position.
I have shared whatever I have felt or analysed , some me might be true and some need not.
Firstly we all know how his nature is. Like how we say Sai is impulsive and that is why she does this or that, he is this guy who likes peace, doesn’t like to fight or make issues, likes to solve things diplomatically. Yes, he behaves differently when it comes to Sai, even if that means that his anger is only reserved for his loved ones, it is still wrong. It cannot be like that always, where his extremes comes out only with Sai or sometimes his mom too.
I have said this in some other post too that he has started to be himself with Sai, he has realised that he need not think like how he thinks before acting like how he does with others. So I believe that during his anger with Sai , he is like a lost child who doesn't know how exactly to behave. This whole thing that he is experiencing with Sai is quite new, she brings out various characteristics that were within him, both good and bad.
And as much as the good comes out generously, they are so full of emotions that he himself has o control over.
He cries when Devi gets hurt too or when he has hurt his mom too but he doesn't get affected by his family member's words as much as Sai's.
Her indifference or harsh words hurts him much much more than anyone else since he has all the expectations that he should have had from everyone else on Sai.
One could say that it is burdened on her or could say that he has found her to be the one whom he wants to live with, he loves her and hence expects her to understand him, expects her to acknowledge what he feels and reciprocate his feelings. In the process of expecting these, he has forgotten that it was him who built a bridge once and even if his actions speaks otherwise, even if he showers love on her, it could all be comprehended as his goodness, as his generosity and not exactly love. Even if she thinks that he probably has feelings, there is another person in their life who acts as a constant reminder that she is here only for a short while and he probably doesn't want her in his lie forever.
Coming back to his expectations from Sai and the hurt he feels. He gets really emotional only with her, cries when he gets misunderstood, when he is unable to express what he feels for her or what he wants from her. He gets overwhelmed so much sometimes that even when he has answers to her questions, he fails to express it like on the day of the Ladakh trip. He could have easily cleared the misunderstanding but he was scared as how to explain it without ruining their relationship, without Sai misunderstanding him. There were chances for Sai to even question him and his integrity if she comes to know that he broke his promise and he would have had no answers to it. At that time, I guess he was also afraid if Sai might ask, "so are you saying that you fell in love with Pakhi and then fell out of love from her too". He was afraid that she could ask "are you saying that you now want to give us a chance, do you have feelings for me then? How do I believe that you will fall out of love from me too?" I think he also didn't expect her to confront him with his past which he didn't even know she would be aware of. He didn't know how to tell her in a way that Sai won't misunderstand him. He was already insecured that Sai doesn't like him and didn't get married to him out of her will, wants to walk out of the marriage one day, but it is the same girl he wanted to be with, who he wanted to understand his changed feelings and he was worried if things will become impossible with Sai, the girl even before loving him will hate him for what he was doing or will not like to consider him as a prospective partner if she comes to know that he did have feelings for someone else.
Basically what I am trying to say is, even though he had answers to her questions, he got overwhelmed and couldn't even open his mouth to defend himself. This is one extreme of his with Sai when he gets hurt.
This same lost person who doesn't exactly know how to actually react to her when she does something wrong too. He doesn't go out of character, his true self comes out with Sai but it comes out in extremes because it is all new to him, he just reacts without thinking. He need not think as much he thinks when he reacts with other people, he need not act restrained like with his family members but he also needs to learn to control his emotions while reacting when Sai does something. I think since it is all new to him, he will have to learn and will slowly learn that it can come out as him taking her alone for granted. I guess, he will eventually realise or has to learn that it will not come out as him expressing his hurt of disappointment when it is expressed in extemes with her.
So now let me talk about his reaction with others. As I have already mentioned, he is a guy who likes peace, doesn’t like to fight or make issues and likes to solve things diplomatically usually.
What is happening is that he is following the same with Pakhi too, that is why many of us don’t like it, obviously because he now knows what Pakhi thinks of him and it is time for him to act stricter and not his usual soft natured behavior, not with her atleast.
My analysis of Virat's behavior in the episode where Pakhi had barged in their room.
Even I found his reaction when Pakhi said "tum hi toh ho jise main nomineee bana sakthi hoon" to be annoying. I was like what kind of a thanda and a reaction was that? It is like a friend giving another friend a look saying why are you like this, why do you think this way. As much as I didn't like his reaction, I tried to look as why he should be acting like this with Pakhi again.
It was like he has no issues with Pakhi at all. He grew angry on her in the hospital and at home too then why should he become the same old soff person again. It is his nature but he needs to be stern with Pakhi atleast after he knows that she has feelings for him and she is suggesting such unacceptable things.
From what I tried to always understand, many of you already might have known too, for him Pakhi is also the bahu of the house, she is also his brothers wife, is also a girl, so he thinks twice before insulting or questioning because it could be taken into some other direction.
He is also aware that she is a person who has a big support in his house especially his Kaku, the eldest of the house.
He saw how some of his bade had sympathised with Pakhi after he returned from the hospital.
He saw how the they treated as if she was some victim, they were so drowned in her misery that they failed to grow happy for him who had returned home safely and that too with his whom he had thought he had lost, with whom he had parted ways just 2 days back.
Pakhi right now seems to be a chaheethi bahu and he has clearly understood her position and also that even his position is weaker compared to hers.
Also, Sai is his wife but Pakhi is no one on whom he can take liberty on.
Another thing that I can see is that due to the kind of person that he is, doesn’t want Pakhi's image to get tarnished, not out of a soft corner but because she is another human being, a girl whom he thinks needs to be given a chance and time to change and correct.
He himself gave a chance to a guy who was harassing a girl in the college. This is why I am highly upset and won't be able to trust him completelt as I used to since he failed to give a chance to Sai and acted inhumanly with her by ousting her and Usha Maushi.
Anyway, coming back to this scene, when he spoke to Pakhi that she could even add Samrat's name as nominee, when he said "jab Samrat lautega" he actually looked at Pakhi and said "aur woh lautega" , continued saying "jab woh lautega tum uska naam de dena".
When he looked at her and said "aur woh lautega", it was an assurance that he will return and also a reminder or a way to let Pakhi know that Samrat will return and that she is his wife. He even now wants to believe that if Pakhi is corrected, given proper guidance or advice, she would do the right thing, she has a chance to change, can move on in her life if she tries and can lead a happy marital life.
I believe that by confronting her or by fighting with her in front of everyone, like the way he did when they were alone in his room or hospital, he will ruin her chance to get accepted as a wife and as the bahu of this house. She is not just his brother's wife, he is also seeing her as a girl whose future should not get spoilt by one mistake of his. He would have done this irrespective of whether he was guilty for the state that Pakhi is in or not.
He could have continued to be stern with her like how he was in the hospital but I think after they all started to live together in the house, he has let it go and again started to respect her as another family member.
I think he thought that he has already communicated whatever he had to in his room, at the hospital and also after returning home.
He is a person who deals with matters as and when he faces it and that is where he is going wrong in the matters of Pakhi.
He has still not realised how serious the issue is surprisingly even after her continous interference in his life (like not letting Sai meet him, fighting with Sai to leave the hospital, trying to act a victim at home and playing games to make Sai leave the house again, asking him how he can accept Sai after she had refused to return with him, the latest being wanting to add him as a nominee) 
. I have always been telling, looks like he is only going to learn by paying a big price by not taking Pakhi's advances seriously.
Anyway, if he shouts at Pakhi, there are chances that she might make it a big hungama involving Kaku. She is also capable of blaming Sai for this and even if he denies or support Sai, it is ckearly seen that some people at his home won’t accept to what he says since they already hate Sai.
Also, when he is about to start a relationship with Sai, may be he didn’t want to do anything to get cursed by her like how she had cursed last time.
I was also wondering, though not fully convinced if he is also afraid that Pakhi might blame Virat in any other way or if things get complicated, his chances to fix issues with Sai would then get reduced because at the end of everything Sai will only misunderstand him.
At the beginning of the episode, I felt that what Sai spoke was wrong and even I didn’t like it. Yes, Pakhi barged in their room and no one can tolerate such things but for the kind hearted person Sai is, such words coming from her was shocking. She is not a person who would want to hurt a person, she could have even asked her if she doesn't have sense to barge in like this. However, talking about her marriage or pointing out a girl even if it was Pakhi that she has never lived with her husband was just not right.
I know many of you might not agree with me on this but this is just my view. As much as I love the character Sai, support her or defend her, what she spoke was wrong. I like her for a reason and such words from her mouth doesn't sound good or right. I am not saying that she has to let them do whatever they want but she can be mindful of what she talks.
Anyway, as well all know Virat has not been consistent with his behavior. He has corrected Sai all the times but not Pakhi in the same kind of tone. But this time, I felt it was different.
It looked to me like he corrected because what she spoke was wrong. The same way that Sai had corrected Virat when he was wrong while talking to Ashwini on the Amay's visit day.
My first response in EDT was, let him correct her but why couldn't he have used any other word, why should he say that she insulted Pakhi. I gave it a thought after my friend asked the same again. What I understood was that, that was the only way to stop Sai, only way for her not to speak anything further in the lines of what she spoke. One thing was that she spoke something wrong and another thing is that he had promised to Pakhi, the bahu of the house to return to the house assuring her that no one will insult her. Sai had also agreed to this, so he just reminded Sai by telling that so that Sai stops.
Just like many of you, even I feel that he had assured Sai too once or a few times that he will not let any of his family members insult her and he himself had not just insulted her but humiliated her too. He had done something even more cruel. Anyway, at the moment he has repented, apologised and brought Sai back home, so let us see what he does in the future. Let us wait and watch if he takes Sai for granted.
Coming back to the episode again,
Sai and Pakhi were in a conversation when Pakhi said khudgarz, he let Sai reply to her since they were already in a conversation.
One more thing is either he should speak to Pakhi or Sai should, things will go out of control.
Pakhi could do anything if both Sai and Virat attack her like how they confronted her at the hospital. He has already seen what all she did after they returned from the hospital, so if he also speaks something when Sai was already handling her, things will only get worse.
I also felt that he didn’t even see them as any insults hurled at Sai, he knows that Pakhi is wantedly trying to rile them up, trying to create issues speaking that way. It was Pakhi’s way of fighting as per him, by always speaking venomous things and he also knows that his wife can retaliate better than him.
He knows that Pakhi will steer the conversation to some other unwanted direction and it will keep going in circles. He has confidence that Sai is more than enough to handle Pakhi so he let it be. If Sai was a weak person, he would have stepped in, if she was a weak person, he would have turned strong automatically.
I am only trying to understand him and his behaviour. That doesn’t mean that what he is doing is how it should be done but he has only learnt to live like this and knows to deal with things only like this. He doesn’t even think that this attitude needs correction I guess. Again, just like how a few behavior in Sai were not corrected by her Aaba, such behavior of his was also not corrected.
In fact these qualities actually helped him survive in CN, it only helped him live peacefully and hence no one even thought it to be wrong, he himself has no clue that it is wrong in a way and needs to change. It did more good than harm until Sai came into their house who challenged everyone to everything that they follow.
Change is needed in him to either support Ashwini or Sai and mainly Sai the most since she gets targeted more often. Don't think that be has even realised that he needs to bring in some changes in him to act stern, raise voice or be more strict when needed. I wouldn't say that he always needs to fight, he can continue to be the way he has been but has to learn when to step in to stop someone from insulting his wife or his mom than letting it go or letting them handle it. Some people do it naturally, people like him like to avoid fights and arguments, so he thinks thats the best solution to it. As I have said that is how he has survived in this house.
Anyway since Sai is capable of handling it herself, I feel that he doesn't find it necessary to step in or defend her🤣.
I could see that Sai and Virat were acting like a team, looking at each other and speaking with an unsaid understanding in the episode.
When Sai was about to leave the room, he ensured that she doesn’t leave and also assured her that she need not be leaving saying there is nothing personal between him and Pakhi which cannot be spoken in front of her. This meant a lot for Sai. It gave her confidence to speak to Pakhi on behalf of him too actually. The way he spoke to Sai that he would want to be part of her sorrows or her pain also meant a lot to her.
I would still want to see how he behaves in the future. I can try to understand his nature or why he behaves this way but even I would want to see a Virat who learns to stop people from insulting his wife or mom in the way he should without fearing anything. It is not like he has not stood up for them before, then why not stand up at times that are needed. Sometimes, we can understand his position thinking about the damages it could cause if he fights. It would be good to see if he doesn't follow double standards, whatever be the reason behind it. He needs to realise that whatever be the reasons he has, he cannot shout at Sai or turn very harsh with Sai but act consciously or speaks being mindful with Pakhi alone. This time it made sense to have stopped Sai from speaking that to Pakhi, but he always cannot expect Sai to not retort to Pakhi and especially when he is himself not taking any strict action or is not acting stern with Pakhi. Just my view.
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