Analysis of Virat's behavior (episode 200) - Page 3

Laksh thank you for tagging me. I love reading your posts especially the lengthy ones. I mostly echo your thoughts here.

I wrote such a long reply back as well. My wifi got disrupted and the draft was lost. So frustrating this is. I don't want to type it all again. I will shorten it now.

I understand Virats hesitation to answer Sai's questions on Pakhi. But an intuitive, calculated person like Virat is still is failing to understand the gravity of the situation. Pakhi has made it clear that Virat is more imp to him than her own Aai- Baba. That should be the red signal for him to draw strict boundaries with Pakhi. The behaviour in the 200th episode won't help him at all and would further remain a roadblock if he intends to move ahead with Sai. That beizzati dialogue was totally unwanted. It disappointed me especially because Pakhi then went on to call Sai selfish. Either he shouldnt intervene or he should let Sai do the talking. Because otherwise, it seems he is going soft on Pakhi even after knowing her immoral intentions. Well I would assume that's because of his soft nature, but that can leave an impression of double standards because we have seen his other side too (with Sai)

Pakhi has cleared her stance. So I don't understand why he acts negligent/ dumb seeing her advances. His sating Idk why Pakhi is behaving like that to sai didn't go down well with me. For him, Pakhi is his past, fair enough but that doesn't mean both the ladies are on the same page with him there. I want to see more accountability in him because the issue has been created by him.

Same, I don't want him to defend Sai against Pakhi because she is capable of doing it herself. But for me him speaking up against Pakhi/ elders for Sai/Aai is part of his redemption and growth especially after the throwing out drama. I want Virat to sit and think about Pakhi's actions and Sai's words. I don't see that introspection yet. May be he is trying to avoid the reality but he is going to pay a huge price for that- she will accuse him of impregnating her.

I want words to come through for the Pakhi part from Virat. Because up until he turned up with his deal and conditions it was a normal marriage as far as Sai was concerned. He created the mess and Sai is an innocent part who is at the receiving end of Pakhi's frustrations. Virat needs to realise why Pakhi is abusive towards Sai. I don't see that realisation part in him. I am not trusting him completely after the throwing out drama. So him standing up to Pakhi is a sign of growth for me.

Regarding Sai's dialogue- I understand your POV. But for me, I think she was just blunt. Matter of fact for me if Samrat remained at home Pakhi wouldn't have become this self-obsessed maniac.

Something I liked in the epi- Him stopping Sai by holding her hand, well he clearly showed his priorities there.

I would still want to see how he behaves in the future. I can try to understand his nature or why he behaves this way but even I would want to see a Virat who learns to stop people from insulting his wife or mom in the way he should without fearing anything. It is not like he has not stood up for them before, then why not stand up at times that are needed. Sometimes, we can understand his position thinking about the damages it could cause if he fights. It would be good to see if he doesn't follow double standards, whatever be the reason behind it. He needs to realise that whatever be the reasons he has, he cannot shout at Sai or turn very harsh with Sai but act consciously or speaks being mindful with Pakhi alone. This time it made sense to have stopped Sai from speaking that to Pakhi, but he always cannot expect Sai to not retort to Pakhi and especially when he is himself not taking any strict action or is not acting stern with Pakhi. Just my view.

Ditto my views as well

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I am sorry, I had written a better response where I had a more elaborate analysis. I dont even know if this makes sense Laksh. But I am waiting to see his growth in terms of standing up for Sai and Aai.

As usual a wonderful analysis. You are one of those who understand both leads clearly and unbiasedly. 🤗(in my opinion)

I was not planning to be much active due to some work, but will drop a quick reply. I have no issues with Virat not coming out to Sai about Patralekha as of now, just as soon as they are still reeling in the whole ousting part and Sai staying here temporarily. Also he cannot come out and say oh this marriage is not a deal when he does not even know if Sai really wants it the other way. I did not like him not clarifying it after the whole Ladakh issue fight, but right now I get him..

I am also fine with him not coming clear with his feelings for her.. I dont want him to.. Because I always was in the favour of him clarifying "his heart is with someone else" part first because any girl and every girl deserves it.. The whole issue cannot be kept open ended, with romantic gestures here and there for them to move forward in life.. Its not fair on both of them, since Sai would always feel guilty and in turn Virat will as well.

The first thing that they need to do as a couple is communicate, communicate about how betrayed the husband in him felt when he was not told about the whole Devkit marriage, the hurt that he felt as a brother and how cheated he felt to see her getting his sister married , to the man whose status was not clear to him, the man, he assured he would be re-investing about. How cheated he felt when he thought every moment shared between them during Holi was a sham. The wife should tell him how she lost her trust on him after being thrown out and denied with food yet again , when he called her his family just a few days back. Yes she was wrong in going ahead with the secret marriage, and she deserved every bit of anger from him, but not the treatment. She deserved silent-treatment, she deserved screams but not that..That is like snatching away her respect from her.. She should tell him how hurtful the words like gold digger and mental are for her. How traumatic it is to stay in the same house and go through the same set of taunts yet again, even after its proven that they were wrong and she ultimately had her heart in the right place. I dont think romantic gestures are needed from any of the two without clarifying these things atm.

Coming to the episode, about Virat's behaviour. I have three issues there. Just the other day, someone mentioned why Virat did not say anything to Pakhi when she called him names, during the whole I have invited someone announcement and I have mentioned it there that Patralekha doesnt get things in her head and there is no point wasting your time in answering her back. Its like crashing your head on a wall and he stopped Sai as well. But then this logic in bold can work at some places and CANNOT work at all the places. Entering the room without knocking, when he knows its not right and Sai also hates it and since he is trying to make Sai comfortable is the situation where this logic in bold cannot work. IF someone you dont like and dont interact much because of his/her dumbness has a habit of entering your room announced at late night hours, that person needs to be told and told everytime he/she does it. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there.

Coming to the second issue, that woman is someone you love.You probably were about to confess your love to her. Another woman who you told off, in absence of your wife and had asked her to not compare herself with your wife, after barging in your room unannounced calls your wife Khudgarz , just after that same khudgarz wife lovingly explained to the ex of yours (who anyway is very bitter towards your wife all the time), the importance of parents and broke down for the absence of hers in life. And you stood there softly explaining her that , that's not the case. She looks at you and tells your wife , I know how to care of my "kareebi" log and gets away with it. If you stopped your wife/ corrected her from the 'bitter' statement she made on the lady who barges in your room anytime/every time unannounced, you need to stop the bitter word used on your wife as well. Or go with the theory ," two can handle each other " in both the cases..

You see Sai gets the abuses from Patralekha because of him and a smart and emotional man like him should know by now, since Patralekha has been very vocal about her feelings for him and Sai both. So at times you need to stop her from abusing her.. I dislike when so many of us call these argument as cat fights two ladies have for a man, shameful to call it so.. No these are not cat fights .. These fights are a result of mistake this man made unintentionally and the least he could do is own it and stop his friend from abusing his wife. These arguments are because his wife is defending herself against the abuses hurled at her by his ex. Sai saying main khudgarz nahi hun doesnt give the weightage at all, I mean I can say I am not selfish, but then when someone else says it for me that has some value some weightage right? That was not her fight to fight. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there as well, when Sai is being called names by his ex.

Now coming to the third issue I had with him, "Tum ro kyu rahi ho". Sai understood it when she has not even seen Patralekha confessing her love to him and the man who witnessed it all, who pleaded her to stay away from him , is clueless to why Patralekha was crying . I am not saying Patralekha is right there, but he was insensitive tiny winy bit.. He cannot act so clueless all the time about Patralekha, now that things are pretty clear, remember she let the doctors believe she is his wife.

I believe he had let Sai fight her fights in the beginning and now he choses to evade any discussions on the abuse she faces at his house, because of his non confrontational attitude and it comes under let Sai fight her fights.. Can work now , but not always.

About his confession, well he cannot even assure her of his love, when he could not assure us. The first mistake from her after him confessing it to himself that he loves her, he threw her out. He has to make amendments and he is doing it rightly, he is taking the right steps.. But confession does not work here for obvious reasons..at least for me it doesnt. In love , you get angry, you scream , you give silent treatment but you dont turn inhuman.

Maybe I am expecting a lot out of ITV, but this is my expectation from a Virat who I fell in love with, who I started to watch this show for. I have not seen the original versions and when I got to know Virat would be throwing Sai out , late at night without giving her food and her essentials , I actually wanted the CVs to not tread that path. I remember discussing with Lakshmi that , it would be great if Sai is asked to leave by others and he stays there mum not stopping her. That would have been digestible and I would still stand with Virat for the betrayal he faced in the hands of his wife and family.. He is an officer and he knows even a criminal gets to speak his side of the story in the court of law, but he was turned into an inhuman man. And that's where my anger towards him comes from. And in Ghum world its not been many days since that incident, to just forget it as something that is a part of ITV.. His redemption is still in process and is not complete and over. Baaki like I mentioned in Nja's post I liked the 200th episode and was upset that we turned the whole thing into Virat vs Sai thing.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

As usual a wonderful analysis. You are one of those who understand both leads clearly and unbiasedly. 🤗(in my opinion)

I was not planning to be much active due to some work, but will drop a quick reply. I have no issues with Virat not coming out to Sai about Patralekha as of now, just as soon as they are still reeling in the whole ousting part and Sai staying here temporarily. Also he cannot come out and say oh this marriage is not a deal when he does not even know if Sai really wants it the other way. I did not like him clarifying it after the whole Ladakh issue fight, but right now I get him..

I am also fine with him not coming clear with his feelings for her.. I dont want him to.. Because I always was in the favour of him clarifying "his heart is with someone else" part first because any girl and every girl deserves it.. The whole issue cannot be kept open ended, with romantic gestures here and there for them to move forward in life.. Its not fair on both of them, since Sai would always feel guilty and in turn Virat will as well.

The first thing that they need to do as couples is communicate, communicate about how betrayed the husband in him felt when he was not told about the whole Devkit marriage, the hurt that he felt as a brother and how cheated he felt to see her getting his sister married , to the man whose status was not clear to him, the man, he assured he would be re-investing about. How cheated he felt when he thought every moment shared between them during Holi was a sham. The wife should tell me how she lost her trust on him after being thrown out and denied with food yet again , when he called her his family just a few days back. Yes she was wrong in going ahead with the secret marriage, and she deserved every bit of anger for him, but not the treatment. She deserved silent-treatment, she deserved screams but not that..That is like snatching away her respect from her.. She should tell him how hurtful the words like gold digger and mental are for her. How traumatic it is to stay in the same house and go through the same set of taunts yet again, even after they are wrong and she ultimately had her heart in the right place. I dont think romantic gestures are needed from any of the two without clarifying these things atm.

Coming to the episode, about Virat's behaviour. I have three issues there. Just the other day, someone mentioned why Virat did not say anything to Pakhi when she called him names, during the whole I have invited someone announcement and I have mentioned it there that Patralekha doesnt get things in her head and there is no point wasting your time in answering her back. Its like crashing your head on a wall and he stopped Sai as well. But then this logic in bold can work at some places and CANNOT work at all the places. Entering the room without knocking, when he knows its not right and Sai also hates it and since he is trying to make Sai comfortable is the situation where this logic in bold cannot work. IF someone you dont like and dont interact much because of his/her dumbness has a habit of entering your room announced at late night hours, that person needs to be told and told everytime he/she does it. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there.

Coming to the second issue, that woman is someone you love.You probably were about to confess your love to her. Another woman who you told off, in absence of your wife and had asked her to not compare herself with your wife, after barging in your room announced calls her Khudgarz , just after that same khudgarz wife lovingly explained to the ex of yours (who anyway is very bitter towards your wife all the time), the importance of parents and broke down for the absence of hers in life. And you stood there softly explaining her that , thats not the case. She looks at you and tells your wife , I know how to care of my "kareebi" log and gets away with it. If you stopped your wife/ corrected her from the 'bitter' statement she made on the lady who barges in your room anytime/every time unannounced, you need to stop the bitter word used on your wife as well. Or go with the theory of the two can handle each other.. You see Sai gets the abuses from Patralekha because of him and a smart and emotional man like him should know by now since Patralekha has been very vocal about her feelings for him and Sai both. So at times you need to stop her from abusing her.. I dislike when so many of us calls these cat fights two ladies have for a man, shameful to call it so.. No these are not cat fights .. These fights are a result of mistake this man made unintentionally and the least he could do is own it and stop his friend from abusing his wife. Sai saying main khudgarz nahi hun doesnt give the weightage, I mean I can say I am not selfish, but then when someone else says it for me that has some value some weightage right? That was not her fight to fight. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there as well.

Now coming to the third issue I had with him, "Tum ro kyu rahi ho". Sai understood it when she has not even seen Patralekha confessing her love to him and the man who witnessed it all, who pleaded her to stay away from him , is clueless to why Patralekha was crying . I am not saying Patralekha is right there, but he was insensitive tiny winy bit.. I believe he had let Sai fight her fights in the beginning and now he choses to evade any discussions on the abuse she faces at his house, because of his non confrontational attitude.. Can work now , but not always.

About his confession, well he cannot even assure her of his love, when he could not assure us. The first mistake from her after confessing it to himself that he loves her, he threw her out. He has to make amendments and he is doing it rightly, he is taking the right steps.. But confession does not work here for obvious reasons..atleast for me it doesnt. In love , you get angry, you scream , you give silent treatment but you dont turn inhuman.

Maybe I am expecting a lot out of ITV, but this is my expectation from a Virat who I fell in love with, who I started to watch this show for. I have not seen the original versions and when I got to know Virat would be throwing Sai out , late at night without giving her food and her essentials , I actually wanted the CVs to not tread that path. I remember discussing with you that , it would be great if Sai is asked to leave by others and he stays there mum not stopping her. That would have been digestible and I would still stand with Virat for the betrayal he faced in the hands of his wife and family.. He is an officer and he knows even a criminal gets to speak his side of the story in the court of law, but he was turned into an inhuman man. And that's where my anger towards him comes from. And in Ghum world its not been many days since that incident, to just forget it as something that is a part of ITV.. His redemption is still in process and is not complete and over. Baaki like I mentioned in Nja's post I liked the 200th episode and was upset that we turned the whole thing into Virat vs Sai thing.

Lovely post Laksh.

So many lovely posts actually .. thanks to all of you.

I love both Virat and Sai unconditionally. I'm always finding excuses for their behaviour in extreme situations😊

For whatever reason, copy of KD, writers unimaginative thought process, we got that throwing out scene. I was hoping we wouldn't get it. I would've understood if he told her that he cannot handle her high handedness when it came to his sister, and asked her to leave with dignity in the morning. That would also have been dramatic. The same emotions could have been portrayed.

But anyway, for me, I am a little uncertain of his reactions in extreme situations. He is trying very hard to redeem himself because they're in a comfortable space at this point.

The moment Sai takes a unilateral, impulsive decision which he doesn't agree with, I would like to see Virat's growth, if he actually stops to think before reacting. For eg: we may be moving towards Sai telling the family about Virat and Pakhi. I would like to see his reaction then.

For me, this is the main issue he needs to sort out between him and Sai.

The softness he maintains towards Pakhi I feel is because he feels responsible for PP in Samrat's absence. He tells her off strongly when they're alone.

Definitely, his expressions could have been 'angrier' day before because she interuppted a very special moment for him.

This.Is.Gold❤️

What a beautiful analysis❤️

Wow, I am so dumbstruck that I am even afraid to write😆

Okay, I have this one point since many days, but couldn't make any post on it or so. But, I guess I will share here, correct me or help me if I am mistaken or wrong.

Okay, we both almost share the same characterization for Virat. So agree to all that. The one point which I guess is keeping him in this position is his personality itself. As in,one thing which Sai's Virat and logo ka Virat have in common is "Guilt" trips. I guess, somewhere or the other, Virat (as in the first episode) decides to bend ,as you said for peace, as he desires it. So, Virat becomes flexible himself, but without giving a second thought that whether he can flex this much, whether his body and mind won't give up one day. As in, if we see the vaada itself, he didn't contemplate, let alone Kamal sir and Sai, as we all have discussed, what if it was kaku who had asked him to marry? Then what?. He takes decision which he thinks, would lead to peace and calm around. Not necessarily the mantra of shaanti be same to all, but he doesn't go over that zone.

And ,the actual point here is, Virat ,considering the situation which were pretty tangled then even more than now, as in the night of confrontation which led to Didi leaving to maayka the next day. Then, Virat had first time spoke up, it was also not de dhamki ,le dhamki types, but for then, it was pretty strong. As Sai and Virat spoke together . But, the result was ,didi chali gayi. And he went in guilt, with all other things which revolved around didi within him, guilt was added to that list. So, he gave the promise that none will insult her again. So, I feel, his strong nature of not be able to letting go of guilt, is also somewhere causing this. Maybe, maybe mentally he has this thing, that either it's him, who should make her understand, not speak back to her. So that all gets into track. Neither he gets disheartened, nor the other two woman. But, as I have said, Virat follows his shaanti mantra, but he forgets that not necessarily all accept it.

Hope I am making sense🤣

What a lovely analysis! 😍

Excellent post. Lovely analysis. I loved the way Virat refused to become the nominee and told Pakhi that she should make either her Ayi/Baba or Mansi as the nominee and then very subtly added Samrat's name too. He showed her that he was least bit interested and tried to make her understand the reason but she's so stubborn that she's turning a blind eye to everything. And, there was one more scene which I loved was the way Virat said that even though he doesn't understand her pain of having lost her Ayi / Baba but he can very well share her pain. I just hope he becomes more vocal and stern with Pakhi in the future.

Originally posted by: Anamika32

Laksh thank you for tagging me. I love reading your posts especially the lengthy ones. I mostly echo your thoughts here.

I wrote such a long reply back as well. My wifi got disrupted and the draft was lost. So frustrating this is. I don't want to type it all again. I will shorten it now.

Oh no, sorry to hear that. Has happened to me too and it is a real pain when we lose a lengthy reply or a post 😔.

I understand Virats hesitation to answer Sai's questions on Pakhi. But an intuitive, calculated person like Virat is still is failing to understand the gravity of the situation. Pakhi has made it clear that Virat is more imp to him than her own Aai- Baba. That should be the red signal for him to draw strict boundaries with Pakhi.

I know, I agree, even I am not happy that he has not understood the gravity of the situation.

I have not been happy with his intuitiveness.

The behaviour in the 200th episode won't help him at all and would further remain a roadblock if he intends to move ahead with Sai. That beizzati dialogue was totally unwanted. It disappointed me especially because Pakhi then went on to call Sai selfish. Either he shouldnt intervene or he should let Sai do the talking. Because otherwise, it seems he is going soft on Pakhi even after knowing her immoral intentions. Well I would assume that's because of his soft nature, but that can leave an impression of double standards because we have seen his other side too (with Sai)

Pakhi has cleared her stance. So I don't understand why he acts negligent/ dumb seeing her advances. His sating Idk why Pakhi is behaving like that to sai didn't go down well with me. For him, Pakhi is his past, fair enough but that doesn't mean both the ladies are on the same page with him there. I want to see more accountability in him because the issue has been created by him.

@bold I understand what you are saying and agree with you too. I just replied the same in another thread. He wants to close his eyes and this is not something where he can close his eyes. It is getting really annoying when he acts confused.

From a person like Virat, we would all definitely expect accountability.

Same, I don't want him to defend Sai against Pakhi because she is capable of doing it herself. But for me him speaking up against Pakhi/ elders for Sai/Aai is part of his redemption and growth especially after the throwing out drama. I want Virat to sit and think about Pakhi's actions and Sai's words. I don't see that introspection yet. May be he is trying to avoid the reality but he is going to pay a huge price for that- she will accuse him of impregnating her.

I want words to come through for the Pakhi part from Virat. Because up until he turned up with his deal and conditions it was a normal marriage as far as Sai was concerned. He created the mess and Sai is an innocent part who is at the receiving end of Pakhi's frustrations. Virat needs to realise why Pakhi is abusive towards Sai. I don't see that realisation part in him. I am not trusting him completely after the throwing out drama. So him standing up to Pakhi is a sign of growth for me.

I feel that he probably knows why Pakhi is being hostile with Sai. He has always known but now he knows tha actual reason. He observes a few things, registers them and one day tells it out. It was a surprise to me when he had asked Pakhi as why she taunts Sai alone, that she behaves with Sai alone in an unfair way and also that Sai only answers to what she starts.

I think he now would have known the reason behind her behaviour towards Sai to some extent. That is why he could even gues that Pakhi would have sent Sai away from the hospital or not let Sai meet him. He seems to be acting as if he understands when he is alone with Pakhi.

He also heard her comparing herself with Sai and he had told that there is no comparison between her and his wife.

I do agree with you that he has not understood that she is being abusive with Sai for this reason. He is just taking it lightly. I really doubt if he would take it seriously for now, especially with his current behaviour, I don’t see that happening this soon.

Regarding Sai's dialogue- I understand your POV. But for me, I think she was just blunt. Matter of fact for me if Samrat remained at home Pakhi wouldn't have become this self-obsessed maniac.

Something I liked in the epi- Him stopping Sai by holding her hand, well he clearly showed his priorities there.

I would still want to see how he behaves in the future. I can try to understand his nature or why he behaves this way but even I would want to see a Virat who learns to stop people from insulting his wife or mom in the way he should without fearing anything. It is not like he has not stood up for them before, then why not stand up at times that are needed. Sometimes, we can understand his position thinking about the damages it could cause if he fights. It would be good to see if he doesn't follow double standards, whatever be the reason behind it. He needs to realise that whatever be the reasons he has, he cannot shout at Sai or turn very harsh with Sai but act consciously or speaks being mindful with Pakhi alone. This time it made sense to have stopped Sai from speaking that to Pakhi, but he always cannot expect Sai to not retort to Pakhi and especially when he is himself not taking any strict action or is not acting stern with Pakhi. Just my view.

Ditto my views as well

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I am sorry, I had written a better response where I had a more elaborate analysis. I dont even know if this makes sense Laksh. But I am waiting to see his growth in terms of standing up for Sai and Aai.

His character does needs growth in these aspects.

Oh, how I missed your detailed analysis. Sorry that you lost it. Thanks for comment.

I agree with your expectations from Virat and understand what you are saying. Have replied in green.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

As usual a wonderful analysis. You are one of those who understand both leads clearly and unbiasedly. 🤗(in my opinion)

I was not planning to be much active due to some work, but will drop a quick reply. I have no issues with Virat not coming out to Sai about Patralekha as of now, just as soon as they are still reeling in the whole ousting part and Sai staying here temporarily. Also he cannot come out and say oh this marriage is not a deal when he does not even know if Sai really wants it the other way. I did not like him clarifying it after the whole Ladakh issue fight, but right now I get him..

I am also fine with him not coming clear with his feelings for her.. I dont want him to.. Because I always was in the favour of him clarifying "his heart is with someone else" part first because any girl and every girl deserves it.. The whole issue cannot be kept open ended, with romantic gestures here and there for them to move forward in life.. Its not fair on both of them, since Sai would always feel guilty and in turn Virat will as well.

I understand and I agree. He first needs to share about his past to Sai and he is getting carried away by Sai’s care, concern and with her possessiveness I think. He is taking these as signals that she has started to understand him and needs him as much as she needs him. Or may be he thinks that Sai is confused about her feelings for him, like how he thought at the dining table that she makes him feel special but always excuses ready to not accept that he is special to her. He has kind of become confident that she also likes him now and I guess he wanted to confess his feelings by kissing her. Looks like he would have confessed it verbally after kissing her or would have answered her questions if he had asked her.

Whatever it is, I do agree that he first needs to share about his past with Sai before he does anything else, before taking it to any other level. I replied this to Sadiltl’s post too yesterday.

The first thing that they need to do as couples is communicate, communicate about how betrayed the husband in him felt when he was not told about the whole Devkit marriage, the hurt that he felt as a brother and how cheated he felt to see her getting his sister married , to the man whose status was not clear to him, the man, he assured he would be re-investing about. How cheated he felt when he thought every moment shared between them during Holi was a sham. The wife should tell me how she lost her trust on him after being thrown out and denied with food yet again , when he called her his family just a few days back. Yes she was wrong in going ahead with the secret marriage, and she deserved every bit of anger for him, but not the treatment. She deserved silent-treatment, she deserved screams but not that..That is like snatching away her respect from her.. She should tell him how hurtful the words like gold digger and mental are for her. How traumatic it is to stay in the same house and go through the same set of taunts yet again, even after they are wrong and she ultimately had her heart in the right place. I dont think romantic gestures are needed from any of the two without clarifying these things atm.

Even I fail to understand as why none of these are spoken about. Some people avoid confrontation and looks like that in this case. It is not a small thing to avoid. The first best chance was when Sai asked him if he has retained her things and she thought that he must have thrown them out due to his anger on her. Instead of saying he doesn’t want to get reminded of it, he should have apologised to her once again and spoken about the whole thing. I was really upset by the way he didn’t want her to bring it up. Why wouldn’t she? Can he not see to what extent would it have affected? He even noticed it when they were at the doorstep that she was reminded of it. This attitude of him trying to avoid certain things is not good at all.

Coming to the episode, about Virat's behaviour. I have three issues there. Just the other day, someone mentioned why Virat did not say anything to Pakhi when she called him names, during the whole I have invited someone announcement and I have mentioned it there that Patralekha doesnt get things in her head and there is no point wasting your time in answering her back. Its like crashing your head on a wall and he stopped Sai as well. But then this logic in bold can work at some places and CANNOT work at all the places. Entering the room without knocking, when he knows its not right and Sai also hates it and since he is trying to make Sai comfortable is the situation where this logic in bold cannot work. IF someone you dont like and dont interact much because of his/her dumbness has a habit of entering your room announced at late night hours, that person needs to be told and told everytime he/she does it. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there.

He should have been more stern when he asked her how she entered the room like that. I agree.

Coming to the second issue, that woman is someone you love.You probably were about to confess your love to her. Another woman who you told off, in absence of your wife and had asked her to not compare herself with your wife, after barging in your room announced calls her Khudgarz , just after that same khudgarz wife lovingly explained to the ex of yours (who anyway is very bitter towards your wife all the time), the importance of parents and broke down for the absence of hers in life. And you stood there softly explaining her that , thats not the case. She looks at you and tells your wife , I know how to care of my "kareebi" log and gets away with it. If you stopped your wife/ corrected her from the 'bitter' statement she made on the lady who barges in your room anytime/every time unannounced, you need to stop the bitter word used on your wife as well. Or go with the theory of the two can handle each other..

I agree Asmi, his soft tone is never going to help him. I was irked with that kareebi word that she used while looking at him, Sai heard it and immediately looked at Virat when Pakhi used it. I had mentioned it to one of my friends too.

I am telling the same as I have already mentioned in the post, even I am not happy with it and I don’t want him to be soft with Pakhi. But looking at the situation, the factors involved and the kind of person Pakhi is, I had to change my views I understood why he acted soft, even though I am not happy with it. Sometimes we need to do what is needed in that hour, it was quite late in the night too and Pakhi could react in anyway if he had fought with her. But I do want him to fight with her and see what actually happens.

You see Sai gets the abuses from Patralekha because of him and a smart and emotional man like him should know by now since Patralekha has been very vocal about her feelings for him and Sai both. So at times you need to stop her from abusing her..

Yes, I agree, just replied about this to Anamika too. Not sure how much he has realised that Pakhi is abusive with Sai because of her feelings for him.

I dislike when so many of us calls these cat fights two ladies have for a man, shameful to call it so.. No these are not cat fights .. These fights are a result of mistake this man made unintentionally and the least he could do is own it and stop his friend from abusing his wife.

He created this mess and he needs to clear it. When Sai is standing up for herself, how does it become a cat fight? It is very unfair to call it that way and it is a pity that it is been seen like that. I have never liked that he is being pitied for all these. Not sure who the victim is. Sai is getting abused by his ex and he gets all the pity because Sai is standing up for herself? I can never understand this. The less I speak about this, the better it is for me. I don’t even want to think about these and spoil my mood.

Sai saying main khudgarz nahi hun doesnt give the weightage, I mean I can say I am not selfish, but then when someone else says it for me that has some value some weightage right? That was not her fight to fight. DOnt bang your head on the wall need not be applied there as well.

He is neglecting these Asmi. He has understood that she will always talk this way and she only wants to rile them up. He is an expert in not losing his cool with others 😉.

Now coming to the third issue I had with him, "Tum ro kyu rahi ho". Sai understood it when she has not even seen Patralekha confessing her love to him and the man who witnessed it all, who pleaded her to stay away from him , is clueless to why Patralekha was crying . I am not saying Patralekha is right there, but he was insensitive tiny winy bit..

I agree and I too feel that he is not right being right. Just replied about this in another thread. How can he not understand it? This behaviour of his is annoying me the most these days.

I believe he had let Sai fight her fights in the beginning and now he choses to evade any discussions on the abuse she faces at his house, because of his non confrontational attitude.. Can work now , but not always.

I agree

About his confession, well he cannot even assure her of his love, when he could not assure us. The first mistake from her after confessing it to himself that he loves her, he threw her out. He has to make amendments and he is doing it rightly, he is taking the right steps.. But confession does not work here for obvious reasons..atleast for me it doesnt. In love , you get angry, you scream , you give silent treatment but you dont turn inhuman.

The feelings that he has for her lacks a certain qualities and that is why you feel that way.

Maybe I am expecting a lot out of ITV, but this is my expectation from a Virat who I fell in love with, who I started to watch this show for. I have not seen the original versions and when I got to know Virat would be throwing Sai out , late at night without giving her food and her essentials , I actually wanted the CVs to not tread that path. I remember discussing with you that , it would be great if Sai is asked to leave by others and he stays there mum not stopping her. That would have been digestible and I would still stand with Virat for the betrayal he faced in the hands of his wife and family.. He is an officer and he knows even a criminal gets to speak his side of the story in the court of law, but he was turned into an inhuman man. And that's where my anger towards him comes from. And in Ghum world its not been many days since that incident, to just forget it as something that is a part of ITV.. His redemption is still in process and is not complete and over. Baaki like I mentioned in Nja's post I liked the 200th episode and was upset that we turned the whole thing into Virat vs Sai thing.

I agree, I was also waiting that they don’t show the ousting this way. I was very upset. You know how I feel about Virat and it really took some time for me to even talk good things about him. I am not entirely happy and want to see how he behaves in the future. They not only showed the ousting, made him call her mad and behave in a very cruel way. He has apologised and doing a certain things now, let’s see how it goes. I won’t be able to trust him for now for sure.

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Originally posted by: laksh

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Hmm.. We mostly agree here..

I am actually wanting to see his reactions to Sai opening out the truth infront of the family.. That would be wrong and triggering. If he choses to yet again give in to his anger.. Well then we know redemption is just a passing phase.