And the self-victimization CONTINUES...| DT note P.6 - Page 10

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Aap bhi karlo na jane kab zarurat pad jaye , TM experience hain isiliye usse pata hain.

Kahi aap bhi 2 experienced nhi ho.

Behen tu mera mera reply dekh leti to the OG person, I already I'll follow their advice lmao.

Beech mein tum hi aa gayi 😆

Originally posted by: Guneet80

Behen tu mera mera reply dekh leti to the OG person, I already I'll follow their advice lmao.

Beech mein tum hi aa gayi 😆

Sab sangat ka asar hain mujpe kya batao behen , I m so inspired

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

Virat never loved or talked about loving Pakhi after his or her marriage. Sure @ 1:44 lol...

https://twitter.com/SaiJoshi_Loops/status/1384382545328939012?s=19

And the kinda conversions he had on phone with her after she married Samrat knowingly & where she openly talks about loving him and needing him beside her which hints her intention. It's morally and ethically wrong. Idk how can anyone turn a blind eye to it just cos they didn't have physical affair. And especially after Virat used to throw big claims of loving Samrat & all. Didn't he realize it's one kind of a betrayal? Also, continuing to have your bro's wife in your heart for lifetime is wrong on so many levels. Not my fault if y'all can't see how problematic his so-called vaada & commitment towards Pakhi was.

Rehne do, it'll be pretended this didn't happen🤪

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Sab sangat ka asar hain mujpe kya batao behen , I m so inspired

Oh good good, the person is so inspirational, aap khud inspire ho gaye. Waah ji waah. Hote rahiye inspire

Originally posted by: Guneet80

Oh good good, the person is so inspirational, aap khud inspire ho gaye. Waah ji waah. Hote rahiye inspire

Ha kuch members r so inspiring in this forum like laksh , siya , shrishti , janki , Roch , nitu etc , aap bahut kuch seekh sakte hai in members se

So mein in members se inspired hoon , non stop bashing karte rehne mein kuch inspiring nhi hota they start cooking fake stories to bash characters & insult other character

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Ha kuch members r so inspiring in this forum like laksh , siya , shrishti , janki , Roch , nitu etc , aap bahut kuch seekh sakte hai in members se

So mein in members se inspired hoon , non stop bashing karte rehne mein kuch inspiring nhi hota they start cooking fake stories to bash characters & insult other character

Oh sounds like these people are creative according to you. Good good. Achchi baat hai

I'm sure ab apni inspiration se bahot seekhengi. All the best

Originally posted by: Guneet80

Oh sounds like these people are creative according to you. Good good. Achchi baat hai

I'm sure ab apni inspiration se bahot seekhengi. All the best

Yes these people can replace creative with their awesome analysis & understanding of character . It can improve d story line.

They never critise any character unnecessary & do point out their fault when d character is actually wrong.

Mein to seekh hi rahi hu , I hope others also learn

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Yes these people can replace creative with their awesome analysis & understanding of character . It can improve d story line.

They never critise any character unnecessary & do point out their fault when d character is actually wrong.

Mein to seekh hi rahi hu , I hope others also learn

Well I'm sure a lot of people can do much better than GHKKPM CVs team. They have a taste for casting doubts on their own lead by showinguncessary and illogical scenes. I'm sure nobody likes that here.

Also, I won't be sarcastic anymore and say, they're not "bashing". I would treat it as a disagreement which is completely okay tbh. Ispe itna worked up nahi hona chahiye doesn't suit anyone.

You might disagree with them, don't like any of their views. Theek hai yaar. Koi badi baat nahi hai. Chill karo and watch GHKKPM

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

Virat never loved or talked about loving Pakhi after his or her marriage. Sure @ 1:44 lol...

https://twitter.com/SaiJoshi_Loops/status/1384382545328939012?s=19

And the kinda conversions he had on phone with her after she married Samrat knowingly & where she openly talks about loving him and needing him beside her which hints her intention. It's morally and ethically wrong. Idk how can anyone turn a blind eye to it just cos they didn't have physical affair. And especially after Virat used to throw big claims of loving Samrat & all. Didn't he realize it's one kind of a betrayal? Also, continuing to have your bro's wife in your heart for lifetime is wrong on so many levels. Not my fault if y'all can't see how problematic his so-called vaada & commitment towards Pakhi was.

Thanks for tagging me. When I wanted to reply, the thread was under monitoring!

Here is my two cents 😊

First answering to your above post @bold - the whole premise of the story of GHKPM is based on Virat choosing between his pyaar and kartavya. Watch the promos.

So complaining about it after 150 episodes is really waste of our energy. Either we should have chosen not to watch it because we didn’t like the story premise of ema between devar bhabhi or no point in bringing it up.

Coming to Virat he was not portrayed as dhoodh ka dhula hero who was perfect. He is an mcp in his own way and got his own set of values that’s drenched in patriarchal value system.

This was shown in so many tracks in the past. Amay’s, Alta, masala grinding, hand holding and food denying, Ladakh trip, letting his family emotionally abuse sai day in day out in the zillat arena, letting his so called ex lover taunt Sai all the time in their own bedroom. The family still calls sai jangli and he hasn’t raised a voice against it ! The list is endless tbh 😂😂

Virat doesn’t even stand up for his own mother so I wouldn’t expect him to standup for his wife.

Virat is not a perfect guy. A typical Indian male with severe anger management issues. He grew up in a dysfunctional family and does have its effect in his adult life. Has got entitlement issues and saviour complex to boot! These are no excuses for his behaviour towards Sai. But it’s my root cause analysis done on Virat character in this serial. And it’s my understanding of this character.

Inspite of all his flaws he does care for Sai deeply. He supports her in studies and wants to be part of her journey in becoming a doctor. He has taken the responsibility of supporting her and he will fulfill that. It’s a different thing now that he has thrown her out of the house. ( I am seriously laughing 😂 when I am writing this!) Because once he realises his mistake he does repent and takes necessary actions. He has done that in the past and the hope is he will do that in the future. ( well according the KD version he does repent so there you go!)

He is human and we make mistakes sometimes unspeakable ones like throwing ones wife in the middle of the night. Does he deserve a second chance hell no. If it was me I would straight walk up and talk to his DIG boss complain about what he did and throw him under the bus 🚎.

But it’s Sai, she has a beautiful heart ❤️. Even in the hand holding food denying confrontation all it requires to manofy her is Virat saying he has not eaten and she goes all wifey on him. So again here she will go back to him after the gunshot wound.

Regarding Virat having hots for Sai is nothing wrong IMO. Sex is part of relationship. If it’s just that then it’s a problem. Virat is not a character who would be interested only physical relationship with Sai. He is way too moralistic to think of her that way. I agree he doesn’t draw line with his BFF but he wouldn’t cross a line with Sai without her consent. He might be egoistic and might have anger issues but Virat is not womaniser. He does need to clear his feelings towards Pakhi to Sai before he can move forward.

I started watching for Sai Joshi. When the story becomes unbearable with the itv logic I would quit. My advice is take what helps you to be better person rest just bin it. It’s really not worth to raise our BP for a tv serial where we come here for entertainment.

Regarding Virat being one of the worst ML’s in itv I have to disagree. I have read posts few mentioning worser ML’s in other serials. And I have seen couple of them in itv and left the serial half way through when it became unbearable!

You have to read “Addressing the Elephant in the Room by Peppermint “ article in the forum. It will give you a better idea how the ITV world works. They write worst male lead characters and make the female leads mahanta. The ML is kind of a project for FL’s to sudharfy and make them a better human being.

Originally posted by: BBFanForever

Virat never loved or talked about loving Pakhi after his or her marriage. Sure @ 1:44 lol...

https://twitter.com/SaiJoshi_Loops/status/1384382545328939012?s=19

And the kinda conversions he had on phone with her after she married Samrat knowingly & where she openly talks about loving him and needing him beside her which hints her intention. It's morally and ethically wrong. Idk how can anyone turn a blind eye to it just cos they didn't have physical affair. And especially after Virat used to throw big claims of loving Samrat & all. Didn't he realize it's one kind of a betrayal? Also, continuing to have your bro's wife in your heart for lifetime is wrong on so many levels. Not my fault if y'all can't see how problematic his so-called vaada & commitment towards Pakhi was.

Hi,

Thought of sharing my views and my understanding.

I have also had issues in him talking to Pakhi over the phone. My issues were not because I doubted Virat's intentions. Virat did not stay in touch with Pakhi to lead her on.

Pakhi expressed that she loved Virat only on the night, she got married. It was when the reality actually sinked in her and it was when Virat also had got time to think that he had actually lost her.

Even while speaking to Pakhi, he had asked her how she is able to call him and where Samrat was. He respected the relationship of Pakhi and his brother. That was the only night did she speak to Virat about his love.

Virat could have avoided her call, but that would also mean that he is insulting her because they have had a past. Him ignoring her calls could be misunderstood by a girl, she could think that the guy is not trusting her and that is why, he is ignoring her calls. He didn't want to insult her, it would look as if her character was questioned by him.

Virat genuinely felt bad for Pakhi since Samrat had to leave and also with the information that Samrat might have come to know about him and Pakhi. The calls were not taken to lead her on, but it was taken to give support to a person whom he had promised, to remain as a friend.

Virat calls up Sunny when he is upset because Sunny can understand him and his pain, hence Virat knows that in the position Pakhi was, she wouldn't be able to share her pain or people might not understand her and so he supported her as how any friend would do by letting her share her pain and sorrow. He couldn't understand what she was implying or what her motives were.

I do agree that he could have avoided it, but he was also worried about her, could be worried as what if she takes any rash decision because she lost the love of her life and because her husband had also left her.

Whatever feelings Virat had for Pakhi, was only buried within him, he didn't keep thinking about her, he didn't entertain any thoughts which even came up without his own knowledge, he didn't speak about it to anyone, never ever gave hints of his buried feelings to Pakhi too.

Whatever feelings he had for Pakhi was buried deep within him and he tried as much as he could, to never let it surface and to respect the relationship he shared with her, saw her and treated her as a friend and his brother's wife.

His vaada is problematic, he should start building walls and not lines between him and Pakhi, we have to see how the story unfolds. His guilt canmot always drive his actions, he has to understand that it was Pakhi's decision to marry Samrat and that he did not force her to get married. The day, he frees himself from this guilt, he will understand that there is no necessity for him to support Pakhi when there are so many others in her life to support her.

Some people will only learn through their mistakes, he is going to pay a big price for his actions.

But that cannot change the fact that he has very recently come to know clearly of what is disturbing Pakhi. He seems to have been denying that she could be pursuing him. Looks like he felt that he would be insulting her by doubting her intentions. Now that they are no more doubts, he has started to act more conscious.

He has always tried to maintain distance from her even in the past, not that he is doing anyone any favour, I am saying that he did what was expected out of him. He never thought of her or looked at her in an inappropriate manner. He has asked her not to question him when he his with his wife (after returning from.Naag Nadi), not to wait for him, has stopped her from feeding him and even moved away from her maintaining a distance, has always spoken only about Sai even when the two were alone, was lost in Sai's thoughts, even when she tried to check him in the pretext of being a caring friend.

He has made mistakes by staying silent once when Pakhi was speaking ill about Sai after the Amay's incident, by not fighting with her as much as he should have during many times, but we also cannot ignore that he doesn't do that with his family members too. It has got to do with his nature and not because he feels anything for Pakhi.

Even if I have said he should have handled things better when it comes to Pakhi, be more strict and stern with Pakhi, we cannot deny that he has fought against Pakhi many times supporting Sai and has asked her why should she be behaving with Sai in an unfair manner

- while returning from Usha Maushis room taking Sai back to his room

- at Pakhi's house while trying to call her back

- the day when he took Sai for her college admission

- that same evening by saying people will have to accept husband and wife's relationship and understand that thry can spend time with each other

- on the first day of college

- the day he had asked Pakhi why she had to taunt Sai about not be able to grind chillies when Pakhi herself cannot do

- that same morning when Kaku snatched Sai's food too he had fought with Pakhi for Sai

- on the day of Mohit's lunch issue

- on the day they were leaving to Ladakh

- on the day when Sai had returned from PD's house and when Sai and Virat were having food

- on Mahashivratri day

- by supporting Sai when Pakhi wanted to speak to Virat alone and while Pakhi was blaming Sai after Pulkit visited their house

- supporting Sai on the day they spoke near the jhoola

- spoke her to respect his and Sai' s relationship on the day of holi

His approach to stop Pakhi or to correct Pakhi might not be as how it could be, doesn't mean he has any feelings for Pakhi or that he is cheating Sai in anyway. Neither is he betraying Sai, nor is he betraying his brother.