What are your views on hiding things from loved ones? - Page 4

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

Hiding things only creates MUs. So it's better to say the truth or share the informations. Even if she though Virat won't believe her, I think she should have tried once.

Exactly! He deserves to know the truth!

Originally posted by: Optimist_d

That's why I say, timing matters

But I dont want to assume now😆

All I want is Virat to know the complete truth before whatever is happening. If, even after that he doesnt listen to her, then I'll blame him

Not at all supporting his actions here but this doesnt change the fact that he is kept in dark by his own family

I won't blame him for anything.... His anger , her hurt is genuine...she did broke his trust.... But unfortunately she don't have option according to her.... Both are right from their pov and deeply hurt... My heart goes for both...

Originally posted by: Optimist_d

I have not watched the recent episodes since the day Virat is back to CN, unable to stop his sister's wedding. So all my views are completely based on what I have read on the forum or the clips I have watched here and there.

So I was just reading Laksh's post about Virat's behavior. That's when I thought of it. I am completely against hiding things from our loved ones, especially where you think that they will get hurt. It means that we are taking a decision based on an assumption. No matter how well we know a person, sometimes he/she might not react as we expect them to! You know, the person we see is how they presents themselves in front of us, so we can no where decide for anyone else!

Being a teenager, if you hide your relationship from your parents out of fear, that is different. But hiding things because it hurts your loved ones is different. Who is Pulkit to decide that he can't hurt Virat by disclosing the truth to him? How come aai wants to keep Virat in dark? All in all, these two have taken a promise from Sai and despite seeing how this is going, neither of them opened their mouth to tell the truth to him(Yes, UM too!).

So what do you think? Is it ok to hide things from your loved ones or you will share everything to them and support them when needed?

PS: I have already seen many people arguing over Sai hiding it from Virat, so I am not talking about it now. But you are most welcome to share your point of view :) . Let's keep the discussion healthy and I am don't want a Sai vs Virat fight here

Well depends.

I hide some totally out of fear, like I know what thier reaction would be. And I hide some if I know they could hurt me. So,varies some situation to situation . Let me say survival instinct, to avoid damage as long as I can. Cuz,I usually cannot escape disturbances easily, and get stuck long in them. So ,I don't want to entangle myself due to fear maybe,This is my major reason to hide.

And share, when I know that hiding is becoming a burden for me, it is causing me far more damage . So, let's say twist it in a polite manner sometimes ,to get it out of my system.

While I do not support hiding things from your loved one, specially if it pertains them. I have seen people doing it a lot around me. I have seen a daughter hiding some bad and not ill habits of her father from her mother, because it will create klesh(unrest) in the house. Even after me asking her to convey it to her mother , because she deserved to know it , she chose to not tell her, because she believed its going to disturb her mother...I have seen some wives hiding things from the husband where they have been ill treated by an in-law and yet to avoid the sourness in the relationship, they chose to not mention it to them. It happens , I cannot say it does not happen.

But I do believe it should not happen. I dont believe as a spouse one should hide matters that are crucial for the partner to know. However I also think that there is a time to discuss it. Prepare them for that conversation , drop hints here and there and then try to fill in the details. If the matter is extremely sensitive and crucial , it should be treated and fed in the same manner. However I re-iterate , it happens in lot of houses and I don't support it...

Originally posted by: NoraSM

Sorry, if I am deviating from the topic a bit to get to my point, it's not only hiding things but how do you continue doing so to in an extreme condition where it can solve everything

In tonight's episode, Sai is on the door and she doesn't tell Virat about Pulkit's kidnapping, Here the FB was presented where Chomu asked her to keep it a secret as "Virat can't live without his family"

Tell me, How does that work out when she insults them in front of neighbors, you care enough not to share important things with him then izzat ka faluda the next day 👏

I was wondering, why none made a post on this as this was a pretty clear indication of Virat giving an ear and a chance to reason to Sai but Sai didn't take it, instead she decided to uphold the promise she made to Chomu, So many posts on Pakhi and Virat which was absolutely inconsequential but nothing on this important bit of information where everything could have been saved including Virat siding with Pakhi

Anyway, coming to the point, if a partner wants to hide things from me that's okay, it's his life, I would be a part of his life which he feels comfortable in Sharing, same goes for me, I can't tell him everything but

1) it wasn't Sai's sister, it was Virat's sister, she had no right to hide anything from him

2) This is about kidnapping which is a crime, everyone's civic duty involves informing the authority about the crime which took place, Sai is daughter of a policeman, she should know this

Virat promised her investigation, he gave her a chance to tell him the truth, In all this, I just don't get how a brother won't be mad if someone got his mentally unsound sister married to a conman

Stressing again, Virat trusts her enough to hear it out after all that happened but Sai didn't tell him in an extreme condition

Bold : I actually wanted to make a post on this how she got a chance to tell her the truth but stopped because of Chomu's promise. How her promise to Chomu became more important than the Vachans given to Virat, but again there are many fans who actually are fan of Chomu so I refrained

Originally posted by: Saichintalli

yes, I agree... Except for his behavior with Usha mausi, throwing her out of house in middle of night , not giving sai a chance to tell her side of story ( actually na he somewhere gave her chance but she stopped herself from telling about kidnapping tho, yeh bhi chod dho)but not giving benefit of doubt also with few hints as he is IPS...

I won't blame him for anything.... His anger , her hurt is genuine...she did broke his trust.... But unfortunately she don't have option according to her.... Both are right from their pov and deeply hurt... My heart goes for both...

Exactly! My heart goes for both! How I wish they didn't copy paste everything!🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

Well depends.

I hide some totally out of fear, like I know what thier reaction would be. And I hide some if I know they could hurt me. So,varies some situation to situation . Let me say survival instinct, to avoid damage as long as I can. Cuz,I usually cannot escape disturbances easily, and get stuck long in them. So ,I don't want to entangle myself due to fear maybe,This is my major reason to hide.

And share, when I know that hiding is becoming a burden for me, it is causing me far more damage . So, let's say twist it in a polite manner sometimes ,to get it out of my system.

haha, I get you. Even I hide such things from my parents out of fear. But will slowly let them know making sure that they understand my POV. I am not married so I am not sure if the same applies to spouse or not. But I always feel that trust plays a major role in any relationship :)

Originally posted by: Andy3456

Bold : I actually wanted to make a post on this how she got a chance to tell her the truth but stopped because of Chomu's promise. How her promise to Chomu became more important than the Vachans given to Virat, but again there are many fans who actually are fan of Chomu so I refrained

I dont think its just about the promise, its also about her concern for Virat , that he loves his family a lot and would be too hurt to deal with that information. However its also wrong in my view.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

While I do not support hiding things from your loved one, specially if it pertains them. I have seen people doing it a lot around me. I have seen a daughter hiding some bad and not ill habits of her father from her mother, because it will create klesh(unrest) in the house. Even after me asking her to convey it to her mother , because she deserved to know it , she chose to not tell her, because she believed its going to disturb her mother...I have seen some wives hiding things from the husband where they have been ill treated by an in-law and yet to avoid the sourness in the relationship, they chose to not mention it to them. It happens , I cannot say it does not happen.

But I do believe it should not happen. I dont believe as spouses one should hide matters that are crucial for them to know. However I do believe that there is a time to discuss it. Prepare them for that conversation , drop hints here and there and then try to fill in the details. If the matter is extremely sensitive and crucial , it should be treated and fed in the same manner. However I re-iterate , it happens in lot of houses and I don't support it.

I know where you are coming from. Even I have seen people behaving this way! I agree, sensitive matters need to be handled in sensitive manner. No one knows how that person might react. So better to prepare him/her, let them know the truth and provide your support is what I feel :)

I agree that it happens in lot of cases and even I don't support it. However, if it is something related to us and we decide to hide it, that's a different case I believe.

Originally posted by: Optimist_d

I know where you are coming from. Even I have seen people behaving this way! I agree, sensitive matters need to be handled in sensitive manner. No one knows how that person might react. So better to prepare him/her, let them know the truth and provide your support is what I feel :)

I agree that it happens in lot of cases and even I don't support it. However, if it is something related to us and we decide to hide it, that's a different case I believe.

Standing at the door screeching at each other, that certainly was not the time for her to let him know oh tu jo kaku aur baba ki bahut izzat karta hai na..wo criminals hain.. And whether we agree or not, whether we do it or not, people do it in real lives to protect the other from hurt/bitterness/truth. 🤔