What are your views on hiding things from loved ones? - Page 6

Nice discussion . The thing is , it depends on what's the secret , and who does it concern wth . Sachai aur achai ka jhanda leke Jung nai jeeti jaati. It happens wth the usage of one's brains. Getting his mentally unstable sister married behind his back is undeniably stupid and suicidal. Cmon gather proof and take him in confidence , abhi bhi she is Daring him to prove her wrong. So do it pehle without telling the family. It's just a contrived angle to Create drama mu . Later on when virat learns the truth, he will be called a hypocrite to not treat his Kaku and pakhi the same way as he treated sai. Goes without saying isn't it ?

I am not so gutsy to do anything behind my husband's back. First I don't have that much confidence in my abilities to pull it off ..i can't handle a single argument also and avoid simplest of conflicts.....secondly I am not concerned with anybody else's life than my family ..one must learn to give space . In tv drama they don't treat their daughter well , but in most cases parents do care. N they r the best judge . On a personal note, my sister in law is also not normal..so I wasn't the one who was consulted for her marriage and later divorce . Nor did I want to.

For a healthy relationship its best to share . Honesty is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship . I have learnt this from my married life experience ..no matter how much her in laws treat their bahu badly , she will have a hard time making it believe to her husband . N if he knows also there is less than she can do .

Originally posted by: _charu_

Nice discussion . The thing is , it depends on what's the secret , and who does it concern wth . Sachai aur achai ka jhanda leke Jung nai jeeti jaati. It happens wth the usage of one's brains. Getting his mentally unstable sister married behind his back is undeniably stupid and suicidal. Cmon gather proof and take him in confidence , abhi bhi she is Daring him to prove her wrong. So do it pehle without telling the family. It's just a contrived angle to Create drama mu . Later on when virat learns the truth, he will be called a hypocrite to not treat his Kaku and pakhi the same way as he treated sai. Goes without saying isn't it ?

Charu!🤗Aap ko dekhke KZK2 ke initial days yaad aajate hai, miss them!💔

@bold-Epic!🤣 I think she challenged him to prove that Pulkit isn't right. But once the investigation starts, what's the guarantee that he wouldn't get to know about their dil-ke-achhe ghar waale's kaand? It'd be better to explain and then give the support to him, simple🤷‍♀️

Also, as much as I am happy that she is out of this hell, wouldn't Virat also be happily enjoying the wedding had he known the truth? Being a brother, he deserves to!

I am not so gutsy to do anything behind my husband's back. First I don't have that much confidence in my abilities to pull it off ..i can't handle a single argument also and avoid simplest of conflicts.....secondly I am not concerned with anybody else's life than my family ..one must learn to give space . In tv drama they don't treat their daughter well , but in most cases parents do care. N they r the best judge . On a personal note, my sister in law is also not normal..so I wasn't the one who was consulted for her marriage and later divorce . Nor did I want to.

@bold- I feel you! The need to show that FLs are supposed to do everything should change

Yes, parents are the best in such cases. Except where people give importance to the so called pride instead of their children's happiness.

For a healthy relationship its best to share . Honesty is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship . I have learnt this from my married life experience ..no matter how much her in laws treat their bahu badly , she will have a hard time making it believe to her husband . N if he knows also there is less than she can do .

Yes! Trust is the key to relationships!

Thank you for sharing your views🤗 My responses in Pink :)

@Nora, I just thought you'd be interested to read Charu's views :)

Communication has never been their strong suit, partly because of Virat. Virat expects Sai to read between the lines when Sai adamantly refuses to read anything more into Virat's gestures. To prevent herself from anticipated heartbreak and humiliation. He clarified his stance to Didi after the Ladakh mess but not Pakhi.

Regarding this issue: Virat is too emotionally volatile for an IPS officer. He jumped to conclusions upon an easily placed document. He did not crosscheck or dug deeper into the issue.

Now, good thing that he wanted to reinvestigate. And Sai was willing to wait too; but kidnapping is such a heinous crime that anyone would behave impulsively. Fight or flight mode activated.

I think, she believed that Virat would eventually see reason. But, she was willing to go to any lengths to ensure Devi's safety. (Really, willfully disabling their daughter is just half-step short of honour-killing, I think, Sai clearly saw the vileness of the Chakrams for the first time )

Sai didn't expect Virat to be cruel, angry but not cruel. She said she would have left had he merely asked her to do it.

Virat feels betrayed because again he'd hoped that Sai would understand him without him actually telling it to her.

Originally posted by: Bluegrass

Communication has never been their strong suit, partly because of Virat. Virat expects Sai to read between the lines when Sai adamantly refuses to read anything more into Virat's gestures. To prevent herself from anticipated heartbreak and humiliation. He clarified his stance to Didi after the Ladakh mess but not Pakhi.

Regarding this issue: Virat is too emotionally volatile for an IPS officer. He jumped to conclusions upon an easily placed document. He did not crosscheck or dug deeper into the issue.

Now, good thing that he wanted to reinvestigate. And Sai was willing to wait too; but kidnapping is such a heinous crime that anyone would behave impulsively. Fight or flight mode activated.

I think, she believed that Virat would eventually see reason. But, she was willing to go to any lengths to ensure Devi's safety. (Really, willfully disabling their daughter is just half-step short of honour-killing, I think, Sai clearly saw the vileness of the Chakrams for the first time )

Sai didn't expect Virat to be cruel, angry but not cruel. She said she would have left had he merely asked her to do it.

Virat feels betrayed because again he'd hoped that Sai would understand him without him actually telling it to her.

Good to know your views dear but I don't think I will be able to comment on anything after seeing Virat closing door on Sai's face. Exhausted!

Originally posted by: Optimist_d

Good to know your views dear but I don't think I will be able to comment on anything after seeing Virat closing door on Sai's face. Exhausted!

Haan, I too found that too reprehensible an act. But communication has never been their strong suit. Both the things can be true.

Now, there's no justification for being abusive or cruel just because you feel betrayed.

Originally posted by: Bluegrass

Haan, I too found that too reprehensible an act. But communication has never been their strong suit. Both the things can be true.

Now, there's no justification for being abusive or cruel just because you feel betrayed.

Yes, while reading the discussions, I didn't let it reach me. But after watching it, I wish I shouldn't have! 💔

and I agree with you on the communication part. I know Virat the husband wants Sai to understand him but for once, I want him to give clarity to Sai about Pakhi. Well, no point in discussing about it atm. I am just waiting for the redemption part