What are your views on hiding things from loved ones? - Page 3

Originally posted by: hedwig_potter

Personally, I think lying by omission is also lying.

And rarely anything good can come out of lying.

Truth always does come out. We may feel that we are trying to protect someone from getting hurt, but that hurt is nothing in comparison to the hurt one feels when they find out their loved one was hiding things from them. One can get over things that hurt them, but broken trust seldom gets repaired.

So I am against hiding things from people close to you.

Yes, no matter how much we try, sach toh kabhi na kabhi saamne aahi jayega! This is what I say, when you know that some day, the truth will be out, why not share it with your partner and be a support system instead of broking the trust just to go as per the assumptions!

I feel sometimes we do hide stuff from our loved ones, but the most important thing in a relationship is understanding. When you love someone you need to understand that if they’re hiding something or have taken a step, there must be a reason for it. Understanding is the base of a relationship.

Originally posted by: Wildreaper

I feel sometimes we do hide stuff from our loved ones, but the most important thing in a relationship is understanding. When you love someone you need to understand that if they’re hiding something or have taken a step, there must be a reason for it. Understanding is the base of a relationship.

A different perspective! I agree that understanding is important. So if there is so much of understanding, then the partner will surely understand that the other one is hiding something from them. How long can that be hidden then? It should come out one day right. So why take so much of stress? Better to disclose the truth and give support to handle the truth is what I feel dear

IMHO - should not hide things from loved ones.

However trust-understanding and transparency goes hand in hand.... if a person does not trust me, I would not run behind him/her explaining my POV or why I did that... over and over again !

If I got stuck in family like CN animals - I would not stay with them a day, forget about sharing stuff... I would walk out at first chance I get....(ex scholarship).

I love my life and want to enjoy peacefully -why bother in that toxic family/relationship ?

Hiding things only creates MUs. So it's better to say the truth or share the informations. Even if she though Virat won't believe her, I think she should have tried once.

Originally posted by: Optimist_d

I got you. But what I think is, Virat's anger is more because Sai broke his trust.

So if he knows that something like this has happened, he might think of it in a different perspective. Wouldn't he question his kaku why she asked Sai to bring Pulkit home, when they have Sangeetha's letter? What would Kaku say, that she didn't trust that letter? I just feel this might make him wonder about what exactly might have happened

Again, it also depends on the timing. But just my assumption based on the Virat I know 😳

He would have think like that if he is calm but now he is Strom, if he got to know , it will add up to his anger

Sorry, if I am deviating from the topic a bit to get to my point, it's not only hiding things but how do you continue doing so to in an extreme condition where it can solve everything

In tonight's episode, Sai is on the door and she doesn't tell Virat about Pulkit's kidnapping, Here the FB was presented where Chomu asked her to keep it a secret as "Virat can't live without his family"

Tell me, How does that work out when she insults them in front of neighbors, you care enough not to share important things with him then izzat ka faluda the next day 👏

I was wondering, why none made a post on this as this was a pretty clear indication of Virat giving an ear and a chance to reason to Sai but Sai didn't take it, instead she decided to uphold the promise she made to Chomu, So many posts on Pakhi and Virat which was absolutely inconsequential but nothing on this important bit of information where everything could have been saved including Virat siding with Pakhi

Anyway, coming to the point, if a partner wants to hide things from me that's okay, it's his life, I would be a part of his life which he feels comfortable in Sharing, same goes for me, I can't tell him everything but

1) it wasn't Sai's sister, it was Virat's sister, she had no right to hide anything from him

2) This is about kidnapping which is a crime, everyone's civic duty involves informing the authority about the crime which took place, Sai is daughter of a policeman, she should know this

Virat promised her investigation, he gave her a chance to tell him the truth, In all this, I just don't get how a brother won't be mad if someone got his mentally unsound sister married to a conman

Stressing again, Virat trusts her enough to hear it out after all that happened but Sai didn't tell him in an extreme condition

Originally posted by: A4Anjie

IMHO - should not hide things from loved ones.

However trust-understanding and transparency goes hand in hand.... if a person does not trust me, I would not run behind him/her explaining my POV or why I did that... over and over again !

If I got stuck in family like CN animals - I would not stay with them a day, forget about sharing stuff... I would walk out at first chance I get....(ex scholarship).

I love my life and want to enjoy peacefully -why bother in that toxic family/relationship ?

True! I dont think we can have any logical discussions around what happened but it's just me trying to understand different perspectives :)

Regarding the CN niwas, I have never seen such people in my life.

Originally posted by: NoraSM

In tonight's episode, Sai is on the door and she doesn't tell Virat about Pulkit's kidnapping, Here the FB was presented where Chomu asked her to keep it a secret as "Virat can't live without his family"

Tell me, How does that work out when she insults them in front of neighbors, you care enough not to share important things with him then izzat ka faluda the next day 👏

I think most of the ones who are watching the show is either connected to Sai or to Virat. So we do need a perspective from a person who is neutral. That way we can see things in a different way.

Chomu🤣 I have decided not to have logical discussion s about recent episodes. That's because makers have decided to copy paste each and every dialouge and I have no patience to watch the same drama in multiple languages! But I'll just wait till the episode is aired, to talk about why she did, what she did. And I still feel that Sai should have informed him everything! I dont understand why did she even promise to Pulkit? Who the F is he to decide? I dont have a problem with him being spineless but he can atleast be a responsible citizen na. Chalo woh bhi nahi then have some sense not to take such promises!

I really dont understand the need to hide it from Virat. That's why the topic.

I was wondering, why none made a post on this as this was a pretty clear indication of Virat giving an ear and a chance to reason to Sai but Sai didn't take it, instead she decided to uphold the promise she made to Chomu, So many posts on Pakhi and Virat which was absolutely inconsequential but nothing on this important bit of information where everything could have been saved including Virat siding with Pakhi

As I didnt watch the episode, I'm not sure what exactly happened. Why is this show surrounded by stupid promises, like why?🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Dont tell me about Virat and Pakhi, people started saying that he loves her, I mean kuch bhi

Anyway, coming to the point, if a partner wants to hide things from me that's okay, it's his life, I would be a part of his life which he feels comfortable in Sharing, same goes for me, I can't tell him everything but

1) it wasn't Sai's sister, it was Virat's sister, she had no right to hide anything from him

2) This is about kidnapping which is a crime, everyone's civic duty involves informing the authority about the crime which took place, Sai is daughter of a policeman, she should know this

It's not just about hiding, it's about breaking trust by hiding. Like in this case, how important it is to share this piece of info with him, once he gets to know the truth, he'll obviously be hurt. So why not now is what I'm not able to understand. It's high time Virat should know what's happening behind his back. I'm not supporting him for his actions but just stating it as a fact!

Agree with the points you have mentioned. Where did the honest and righteous Sai go, who would do anything to serve justice? I know people would say it's pulkit who should decide it and not Sai. But it's her husband's sister and his family. He has all rights to know the truth!

Virat promised her investigation, he gave her a chance to tell him the truth, In all this, I just don't get how a brother won't be mad if someone got his mentally unsound sister married to a conman

Yeah, his investigation is trash I agree. But he did promise to investigate again. Why didnt anyone bother to inform him about anything? This guy always keeps talking about parivar and the same parivar chose to hide things from him🤦‍♀️

Stressing again, Virat trusts her enough to hear it out after all that happened but Sai didn't tell him in an extreme condition

Thank you for stressing it, I really want to take away the word promise from their lives

Originally posted by: Saichintalli

He would have think like that if he is calm but now he is Strom, if he got to know , it will add up to his anger

That's why I say, timing matters

But I dont want to assume now😆

All I want is Virat to know the complete truth before whatever is happening. If, even after that he doesnt listen to her, then I'll blame him

Not at all supporting his actions here but this doesnt change the fact that he is kept in dark by his own family