Care and concern to indifference, what was bothering Virat?

Doesn’t this happen to us? What starts as showing care and concern, then turns into an argument and fight at last. It will get ugly if one doesn’t get hold of their emotions.

In the past few episodes, we have been watching how Virat has been acting. It first looked very sweet that he didn’t make her going out an issue though he had planned to take her out for lunch.

But what happened then?

He was concerned for her, felt it wasn’t right for her to go if she was the only one invited. He had even asked her if she didn’t find it to be wrong.

We all know what happened ever since then. Him trying to talk her through it, explain her, then trying to stop out of force.

Repented his action, tears escaped his eyes seeing that he inflicted the pain. But in an attempt to stop her, he turned blind to her pain and his own actions weren’t visible but her threats became more visible.

Then trying to remind her of how thankless she is, which then turned into a question as who initiated the marriage. Her refusal to accept that it was her Dad’s last wish seem to have pushed wrong buttons is what we know from the confession of Virat to Aai.

Then came the revelation about their deal marriage and his past.

When I watched the latest episode, I was shocked to see his indifference to her tears. She was not just hurt that he refused her food, or because she was reminded that it was his money, she was hurt that he had turned blind to her pain.

It was the same guy who got her coconut water and also insisted to have lunch before going home though she wanted to come home after the admission process. He didn’t want her to be in empty stomach.

What has happened now? We humans, forget or lose ourselves in anger that the very basic care/responsibility is ignored. His intention was to protect her, take care of her, yes that is important but in the process he got lost and failed to give her the very basic element of care such as food for her hunger.

He felt ashamed when Mohit said he will get it from his money, it looked like he realised what he did, but that was for a split second. He also was taken aback and may be even ashamed when Mohit said he would never want to idolise him. But what was shocking was that he stopped his brother from getting food for her.

It was even more shocking the way he was looking at Sai when she was crying in Aai’s arms. It was like him dismissing her hurt and attributing it as a result of her stubbornness. He has been crying since the past few episodes but turned blind to her hurt today? Consumed in rage? Why so much of indifference?

He was justifying his actions by acting indifferent without wanting to reflect on his own actions. Judgmental attitude can cloud our thoughts, can stop us from thinking straight, stop us from introspection. He has always been judgmental, this time Sai was stubborn as per him and she should be taught a lesson to not act stubborn henceforth.

His reaction when she said that there is atleast one person to raise voice for her. The pain with which she said that, she would have never dreamt that there would be one day when someone has to shield her from her Virat sir too. Not that he hasn’t shouted at her in the past or behaved unreasonably with her. She fought those battles on her own. Her self respect was in question today.

Never has she ever asked for money from him, discussion to visit GC to get her Dad’s money led him to realise she wouldn’t have money and that he never offered or thought about it. He gave her the money and asked her to take money for her expenses in the future too. This girl, accepted it as a loan and hence could even ask that she didn’t know that she cannot spend the loaned amount in the way she wants. Wonder if Sai just took the money and not as loan, how would she have felt today.

Every time money or any financial support (fees) accepted by her was accepted as a loan. And yet this man told her that it was his money.

No wonder he is a son of Chavan family. Absorbing all toxic behaviour and using it at times like this with absolutely no regret or shame.

Didn’t end here, when they showed him looking at his palms, I thought he was regretting his action, but no all that he could recall was her returning the money to him. What was it that he said he would never be able to forgive her? I couldn’t understand. What should he forgive her for? To have not believed as why he married her?

I was surprised that he was not one bit bothered about the revelation of his past with Pakhi in public. Didn’t upset him at all? Should we be happy or will it be used in the future? What was then bothering him?

Talk to Aai showed how much he cares for her, was worried about her. He also said that he lost it when she said that he was lying about her Dad’s last wish.

So the reason for denying food and for humiliating her was because he was worried for her, for her safety, and also because she was stubborn and went to meet her professor, and because she didn’t believe him that he married her because of her Dad’s last wish?

Sai has enough understanding of people and can judge what/who is right and wrong. Aai pointed out to him that Sai knows to judge people.

I am not sure about aisi hai Sai dialogue. What is it that Aai said about Sai not questioning him or Pakhi’s intentions to travel that put sense in him suddenly?

He does know that Sai is a person good at heart, didn’t he ever realise that she was okay for them to travel without her? He felt proud when Sai requested Pakhi to go with Virat and when she said that she didn’t even want to go in first place. He needed someone to remind him of that?

I thought that the statement that she never questioned yours or Pakhi’s intentions conveyed to him that when she can trust them both, how fair was it for him to question her going out, why can’t he support her going out by simply trusting her. But that still doesn’t make complete sense because his anger was because he was worried for her safety and not because he didn’t trust her. Then how did he realise that he spoke too much? Can someone answer this?

I am reminded of something that I do and that I have heard others do too. In an attempt to keep something very safe, I end up keeping it somewhere that I fail to locate it when needed. That would be the only thing I will keep looking for and not be able to find. We get too worked up sometimes when it can as well be handled in a relaxed manner.

In an attempt to show care or protect someone, we shouldn’t lose ourselves. His intentions might be right but his actions should be in sync with his intentions. No use in trying to protect her from the outer world when Mohit had to save her from his inhuman behaviour.

Like Aai pointed out to Virat that it wasn’t even him out there.

I think aai meant it like she knows intention of people and whom to trust and who not to based (though she doesn't know Sai almost went on someone's bike when she got lost. But we will ignore it).

So aai's question was - is Sai not right to judge Virat's intentions of trip being pure towards Pakhi and Sai's trust on him was correct that she didn't even feel the need to question him despite his past.

If she can make a decision to trust Virat's intent towards Pakhi correctly, wouldn't she know how to judge Professors intent towards her?

Thats what i assumed aai meant.

I too did not understand his total indifference to her after a point. He was not willing to listen to Mohit too. It looked like he blamed Sai for making him behave atrociously.

He is not willing to see anything from her POV. I hope they don't mess up the apology scene. It shouldn't be like he just wants to stop her from leaving him. Some reflection on his own actions would be more sincere. 'yeh kya kar diya, yaar' doesn't work for me.

Originally posted by: laksh

I am reminded of something that I do and that I have heard others do too. In an attempt to keep something very safe, I end up keeping it somewhere that I fail to locate it when needed. That would be the only thing I will keep looking for and not be able to find. We get too worked up sometimes when it can as well be handled in a relaxed manner.

In an attempt to show care or protect someone, we shouldn’t lose ourselves. His intentions might be right but his actions should be in sync with his intentions. No use in trying to protect her from the outer world when Mohit had to save her from his inhuman behaviour.

Like Aai pointed out to Virat that it wasn’t even him out there.

That's exactly what happened. He wanted to protect her but ended up being the one who hurt her the most.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

That's exactly what happened. He wanted to protect her but ended up being the one who hurt her the most.

Now that he has realised what he done, has got a chance to correct his mistakes. Anyone can make mistakes but what bothered audience was the mistake was him denying food and not letting her buy food for herself. He himself told Kaku kisikey mooh se niwala chinna agar galat hai toh galat hai. Just because he didn't snatch morsel of food or plate from her, doesn't mean he hasn't done the same.

wahi tho...

he was hurt, worried and all. we understand that but that doesn't mean that he forgets what kind of person he is. it was like 360 degrees turn. which adds one more thing to his contradicting statements and acts. where he stand against 'khana na khane dena' one and the other day he himself stopes his wife from having food.

his initial act of trying to stop her can be justified, cuz he was right there. (even though holding hand tightly was wrong) his intentions and emotions were at right place.

what he did in the second half of the Hungama, not giving food and 'my money' talk made it seem like a bad human and question his values and everything by his mother and brother who loves and respects him him so much.

if they showed tamil version here dil ko sukoon miljaata nad hum bhool bhi jaate ki usne kya kiya. cuz he gets reality check there and he realises his mistake as shivani and ashwini points out his mistakes and says hum bhi ab iss ghar mein kha nay khayenge and all. that made more sense. this balcony talk seemed pale to me.

Actually we are seeing so many layers, unpredictability and confusion in virat's character is because he is the main lead. By it I dont mean just one of the central character but the most important character of the show.

I know sai has more fan following than virat and pakhi gets most hatred but virat is the main character around whom sai and pakhi's character revolves.

Its evident from the starting, right from the promo where actress rekha only takes virat's name that virat ka dil ghum hai kisi ke pyar mein and she only emphasize about his dilemma, the synopsis of KD, NM is totally different from ghkpm. In KD they say rono and emon tie knot due to uncontrollable circumstances and eventually fall in love. In NM they say circumstances force vikram to marry saranya but he is in love with sathya.

Now look at what ghkpm says " virat sacrifices his love to honour the promise he made to a dying man. Trapped between past and present will he find love beyond the chains of duty."

This itself says that in hindi version top priority is given to virat. It follows his life, his dilemma, his conflicting emotions. Sai and pakhi are just second and third fiddle respectively.

Its further evident from the poster or thumbnail. In KD emon is standing in front while rono is last. In NM also saranya is in front and vikram is posing with her while sathya is standing behind them but in ghkpm virat is in middle prominently, not looking towards any lady but both are looking at him.

So its not sai's journey and its not pakhi's story but its about virat always since the starting and hence his character is given so much importance, his confusion gets highlighted, his flaws gets more screen space, its about how he finds love, how he changes.

Originally posted by: Chandu_500

wahi tho...

he was hurt, worried and all. we understand that but that doesn't mean that he forgets what kind of person he is. it was like 360 degrees turn. which adds one more thing to his contradicting statements and acts. where he stand against 'khana na khane dena' one and the other day he himself stopes his wife from having food.

his initial act of trying to stop her can be justified, cuz he was right there. (even though holding hand tightly was wrong) his intentions and emotions were at right place.

what he did in the second half of the Hungama, not giving food and 'my money' talk made it seem like a bad human and question his values and everything by his mother and brother who loves and respects him him so much.

if they showed tamil version here dil ko sukoon miljaata nad hum bhool bhi jaate ki usne kya kiya. cuz he gets reality check there and he realises his mistake as shivani and ashwini points out his mistakes and says hum bhi ab iss ghar mein kha nay khayenge and all. that made more sense. this balcony talk seemed pale to me.

I too felt that something was amiss in the continuation from the scenes like they failed to address his behaviour correctly i guess? Idk i just felt he shd have been reproached a bit more so he could understand the severity of his actions. It wasn’t that impactful i can say

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

Actually we are seeing so many layers, unpredictability and confusion in virat's character is because he is the main lead. By it I dont mean just one of the central character but the most important character of the show.

I know sai has more fan following than virat and pakhi gets most hatred but virat is the main character around whom sai and pakhi's character revolves.

Its evident from the starting, right from the promo where actress rekha only takes virat's name that virat ka dil ghum hai kisi ke pyar mein and she only emphasize about his dilemma, the synopsis of KD, NM is totally different from ghkpm. In KD they say rono and emon tie knot due to uncontrollable circumstances and eventually fall in love. In NM they say circumstances force vikram to marry saranya but he is in love with sathya.

Now look at what ghkpm says " virat sacrifices his love to honour the promise he made to a dying man. Trapped between past and present will he find love beyond the chains of duty."

This itself says that in hindi version top priority is given to virat. It follows his life, his dilemma, his conflicting emotions. Sai and pakhi are just second and third fiddle respectively.

Its further evident from the poster or thumbnail. In KD emon is standing in front while rono is last. In NM also saranya is in front and vikram is posing with her while sathya is standing behind them but in ghkpm virat is in middle prominently, not looking towards any lady but both are looking at him.

So its not sai's journey and its not pakhi's story but its about virat always since the starting and hence his character is given so much importance, his confusion gets highlighted, his flaws gets more screen space, its about how he finds love, how he changes.

i agree with everything u mentioned. 👍🏼

but the thing is story is the same, and also virat isn't getting much importance but pakhi is getting the importance 😆

and major drawback here is we are not being shown virat's dilemma. his expressions, his behavior everything was soo normal and seemed confident about everything he did. only delusion was felt through his swinging between pakhi and sai. there also he was never shown any guilty expressions or anything, he was confident when craved for sai's care and attention, he was confident when he holded her hand. he confidently tells in front of all that sai is his wife so whats wrong if i take her out and confidently woh uss pe sab ke saamne haqq jata tha hai, his vaada never stopped him from getting attached to sai, he never behaved odd in front of pakhi or thought about how she must be feeling seeing him hanging around sai as he clearly knows that pakhi loved him and even after marriage she called him and said that same. these are the reasons why he get bashed all the time, cuz koyi jaanta hi nay hai ki woh chahta kya hai or delusional hai bhi ya nay cuz he seemed confident with his acts all the time. 😆

this is what confuses us about his character, we can never understand his feelings unless they show his inner voice and thoughts and feelings.

now recently he clearly told pakhi that he has no feelings for her, otherwise, hum sab ko uss par bhi abhi tak shaq tha seeing him having such softcorner for pakhi.

yes, he is the main character here, so they need to focus more on making audiences connect to his character, rather than focusing on pakhi.

Originally posted by: Chandu_500

i agree with everything u mentioned. 👍🏼

but the thing is story is the same, and also virat isn't getting much importance but pakhi is getting the importance 😆

and major drawback here is we are not being shown virat's dilemma. his expressions, his behavior everything was soo normal and seemed confident about everything he did. only delusion was felt through his swinging between pakhi and sai. there also he was never shown any guilty expressions or anything, he was confident when craved for sai's care and attention, he was confident when he holded her hand. he confidently tells in front of all that sai is his wife so whats wrong if i take her out and confidently woh uss pe sab ke saamne haqq jata tha hai, his vaada never stopped him from getting attached to sai, he never behaved odd in front of pakhi or thought about how she must be feeling seeing him hanging around sai as he clearly knows that pakhi loved him and even after marriage she called him and said that same. these are the reasons why he get bashed all the time, cuz koyi jaanta hi nay hai ki woh chahta kya hai or delusional hai bhi ya nay cuz he seemed confident with his acts all the time. 😆

this is what confuses us about his character, we can never understand his feelings unless they show his inner voice and thoughts and feelings.

now recently he clearly told pakhi that he has no feelings for her, otherwise, hum sab ko uss par bhi abhi tak shaq tha seeing him having such softcorner for pakhi.

yes, he is the main character here, so they need to focus more on making audiences connect to his character, rather than focusing on pakhi.

You are right in a way but when i look back now to all those forced virakhi scenes cvs gave us in the name od creativity, i find it actually necessary to fit in to the synopsis of show. Pakhi is giv3n importance because of virat. Uske bahut sare solo scenea nahi hote wo actually virakhi scenes hote hain jaha she is constantly trying to guilt trip him or blame him for her condition to get empathy and ultimately love but virat always stands firm. He never falls in her trap. Yes feels bad for her because its an undeniable fact that she is chavan niwas because of him and he feels guilty because while he has moved ahead with sai pakhi ia still alone waiting for samrat.

And his behavior with sai is very much of a husband. All that questioning her about her whereabouts, haq jatana, trip par le jana all this screams a lot about his love but obviously he is under false pretense of doing all this as a zimmedari and thats his confusion. He doesnt realize it that he has gone beyomd zimmedari and now in love with her. He wants same behavior from sai but when she misunderstands his feelings, keep bringing pakhi between them, and purposefully picks up fights with family then it puts him off and in his mind he wants sai to accept his family and vice versa because he don't have any intention to let her go after 5 years.

Yes he is super confused, flawed character but thats how he is, and he will change and find confidence to confess his love. Thats the story and it should go on like that. Ofcourse cvs are being lazy and copying too much but what can we expect from itv