Originally posted by: njain16385
First in comparison of Sai not having any issues of going Virakhi together to Ladakh. That came from her trust that Virat will never cross his line. She heard that dialogue when he gave rose to Didi.
I don't think there is any comparison between the two instances. Aai brought this up to Virat to make him understand that she trusts him even after knowing about their past (though she didn't tell it explicitly but it was revealed in front of all, that they had a past) and he should also be trusting her. I believe that the only main reason trust came into picture was because he told her, Sai didn't tell why she was meeting the professor.
In our case, PD is unknown to Virat. How many more students, purpose. He was concerned for her. But her refusal to answer him. Made him suspicious as if something was wrong. Knowing how stubborn she is. He stopped her by force and a warning.
I completely understood his concern and obviously anyone would be. I understood why he was so mad at her. I had even written a post about it the first day he stopped her using force. It went out of control only when he denied her food.
This girl could have lied, but Sai being Sai. digged further into argument and later all family enjoyed the show.
I know why everyone feel she could have lied but we cannot ignore Sai's characterisation, she is not going to lie. There can be things that she tells out of misunderstanding but that doesn't mean she is lying. So, I don't think she was wrong in not lying but there could have been a better way to put it through or handle it.
But the fact that they had a fight right before this added to their issues. She was also angry with him, and it was the pent up anger that made her act this way. If Pakhi had not humiliated her or if Virat had used words like badtameezi or arrogance to Pakhi or even if Virat had not told Sai that she was egoistic or arrogant, this wouldn't have happened.
It is natural, there were sparks from the previous night's fight between them which blew up this way.
Even when she returned, she was unapologetic with " I am hungry give me food". While hubby was hungry. Boys don't show their emotions in open but they do care. I have never seen an 18 year old who talks disrespectful to her father,prof, husband and others.
She spoke to Aai, not to him. It should have been between them. Unapologetic? If he really wanted to talk to her, he could have spoken to her once she had food too. How right is it for anyone to deny food? He himself spoke against Kaku saying anyone who does that is wrong. And about showing emotions, he is more sensitive than her.
I wouldn't call how she spoke to her Dad was disrespectful, she loves him, cares a lot for him and all those was spoken in childishness and some people speak that way taking liberty. As long as it is understood by the recipient which is her Dad, I don't see what the problem is. It is the same way she once told Kaku at the dining table, shareer dekhke bata sakthi hoon kisko kitna khana chahiye. Why did you think Virat smiled, he could see her care and her taking liberty.
About professor, she was wrong. I could see an impatient childish and immatured girl who didn't know how to react when she felt disappointed that her professor was married. She had high hopes and she also went against everyone to meet him so that she helps Devi Tai and came to know that her calculations went wrong and this guy showing inquisitiveness towards Devi Tai seems to have moved on. It was purely out of anger that he has moved on whereas Devi Tai is in that state still thinking and waiting for him.
Though she shouldn't have reacted that way, she couldn't hold her emotions especially feeling miserable for Devi Tai.
Her husband? Disrespectful? All that she does or behaves with Virat is mainly to show indifference. Any problem that they have had as husband and wife was because of Amay, Aniket and now this. At all three times she couldn't understand what is he expecting from her, why should he expect things from her as a wife, about fake flirting ot dancing on someone else's song. She is under the impression he loves Pakhi. She started to get attached to him, care for him, let him get close to her whenever he tries to get close but at the same time, reality hits her hard in the form of Pakhi and her misdeeds. And that is why even when he denied there was nothing between him and Pakhi, she clearly asked him why did he then say that he is only taking her responsibility and that he cannot be her husband. She confronted him, why was he quiet?
Only if she knows that their marriage is not a deal anymore, she will be able to do a lot of things and understand his jealousy or when he tries to take liberty on her as a husband.
She respects him, she has introspected more than he has. She regretted to have brought up Pakhi's name while asking about his dinner on the day she spoke about Aniket.
I am not a blind supporter of Sai, her nature is very different from others. But that doesn't mean she doesn't respect them or care about them.
I have always liked and appreciated Virat too for how kind, generous and patient he is. But can you justify his actions to have denied her food and also claiming the money as his (which he offered her and which she accepted only as a loan).
Somewhere, a volcano would burst . Virat tried to neutralize situation in their first fight. He repented later. When she was back, he watched her response whether she was apologetic. But her I am hungry jibe provoked him more. And he turned egoistic beyond that.
It is not that, definitely not that. He had already made up his mind to teach her a lesson once she returns. He just did not like her leaving like that. He turned to see if she looks at him, she just walked out which didn't go well with him. I still never thought that it was his ego, I couldn't see it as egoistic or because he was a guy, he acted that way, no.
She went against his words, didn't trust his judgment to not meet her profssor alone, it was his concern for her that made him very angry. Also it looked like he did feel insecured and he felt Sai as acting like this only because she doesn't see him as her husband and so thinks she need not listen to him. To him it was like, would she have done the same if it was her Dad, wouldn't she have listened to her Dad. It hurt him, really hurt. He has taken her responsibility and she is not willing to even acknowledge him by answering his questions.
His helplessness and failure to stop her enraged him. All that is fine only if he had just fought with her or tried to make it a point that whatever happened today wouldn't be encouraged again and that she has to let him know and only then go out. Discipling is fine but that doesn't mean he loses his sanity while doing so. He shouldn't have lost the sense of right and wrong.
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