Don't u think Sai is actually very adamant? Reality check? - Page 2

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

Wow no wonder CV keep showing doormat bahus

this has become the expectation it seems

We all have our opinions etc but I don’t want to even bother commenting on how wrong I think your notions of ‘taming’ a woman are so ill just agree to disagree

Hey chill! Taming doesnt mean controlling. I myself is an independent working woman, so I dont believe in becoming a doormat. But, she can just ignore those inlaws when Viraat is fully supporting her. This is what Virat also indirectly tries to tell her that she shouldnt engage with them in any fights. This basic manners goes for both men and women.

Ya totally agree sai has to change her behavior.

It's not a thing about that she is girl it's the matter about for both male and female whatever he Or she

Everyone should have some common sense about way of talking her behavior is wrong sometime

Virat is correct. She should learn how to talk to elders also if they are wrong and she isright.

Sometimes also being right but if our way of talking is wrong than also we become wrong

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

Wow no wonder CV keep showing doormat bahus

this has become the expectation it seems

We all have our opinions etc but I don’t want to even bother commenting on how wrong I think your notions of ‘taming’ a woman are so ill just agree to disagree

Here this is not a topic of a perfect bahu. Here we are pointing out her behavior towards elder

Originally posted by: lonelyyyy

Here this is not a topic of a perfect bahu. Here we are pointing out her behavior towards elder

Ok and what about elders towards bahu? Favouring one over the other

Calling her names like jungli

Grabbing a plate of food from her and throwing it

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

Ok and what about elders towards bahu? Favouring one over the other

Calling her names like jungli

Grabbing a plate of food from her and throwing it

I have explain this above

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

If that was the deal, than Virat shouldnt bring her at his house. When people stay somewhere, they have to adjust that doesnt mean they have to become a doormat. Like for eg: when she was told to cook on her first day of college. She could have easily ignored everyone and left as she was already having her MIL and Viraat's permission. The point is that she should tackle smartly not foolishly.

I do not get the idea that Sai has a problem adjusting or listening to elders when required. But the thing is she has been treated as an enemy from the second she showed her face at the entrance. How is she to adjust if there is not 1 chance given to her or any understanding shown toward her situation? Constantly it is a do or die fight for her.

On the first day of college, she was the only one not informed about the puja and what is expected of her. Everyone knew she was starting college and the elders purposely plotted against her to stop her from going to college. Sai tried to tell nicely, but did it make any difference. She went on and on about how she needed to go, did they let her go. She was just about to leave like you said as she had Ashwini and Virat's support but then Patraleka triggered her by saying she is thankless to Virat as he has done so much for her. Then what is she to do. Ignore it and still go to college so they would think she is really thankless.

Apparently, at 18-19 years of age, she should have already learned how to play mind games like the rest of the family. Probably then she would know how to handle these enemies of hers smartly.

That’s what people are missing

Sai never had a chance

She was considered worthless from day 1

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

That’s what people are missing

Sai never had a chance

She was considered worthless from day 1

U know support of husband goes a long way. If he is supportive a woman can tackle the family easily. She is considered worthless in their eyes or not that doesnt matter for Sai at all, she doesnt give a damn. So she can just ignore and all those people who dont like her. U know people tend to get bored of such people very fast. Clearly Viraat has started disliking her behaviour to an extent that they are having fights. And this is television, so definately he will love him after all her flaws. But, no husband will actually tolerate a wife who keeps on arguing everytime whether it is about inlaws or other things.

Originally posted by: kashishrocks

Its not about being a doormat or not. Its also not about being in the good books of everyone, its unnecessarily becoming bad in everyone's eyes. I mean she intend to forget what other people did good with her and starts nagging on them. She clearly knows Viraat has done good for her but if he doesnt agree with her, than she turns her eyes on him also. He tries to make her understand but she doesn't calm at all. Keeps on arguing. Is it correct? Someday if her MIL will scold her more than once, she will go against her also She doesnt have stability at all. How can she just keep on going? when the other person is purely her wellwisher.

Like @Anvi2009 (sorry, I do not know your name) so beautifully said, this is not a normal family where you can adjust. She had a choice, to stand up and to be a dormat.

She has never shied away from thanking Virat for what he's been doing for her. She acknowledged it and recognises it. She went out of her way a lot of times for Virat because he means a lot to her. Had it not been the case, she would not have touched her feet with so much respect.

I don't think she'll go against people who scold her. She isn't that shallow. The last time they fought, Virat was very harsh on her, she tried to be angry with him and couldn't. When Ashwini was angry after the outing, she pacified her.

I feel like she's the type of girl who'd take one for her team, no matter how much it hurts.

Again, she is but 18-19 years old.

Originally posted by: lonelyyyy

Ya totally agree sai has to change her behavior.

It's not a thing about that she is girl it's the matter about for both male and female whatever he Or she

Everyone should have some common sense about way of talking her behavior is wrong sometime

Virat is correct. She should learn how to talk to elders also if they are wrong and she isright.

Sometimes also being right but if our way of talking is wrong than also we become wrong

Thanks for agreeing. Well u know the serial showing these kind of behaviour actually spoils the minds of so many girls. They feel that this is the correct way to live after marriage. They feel that if they will adjust they will become a doormat. Everyone should keep their self respect but at the same time, life is about adjustment and it goes for both men and women.