Virat expectation from Sai (to fulfil his vaada to Kamal Sir)

Lets list the terms that Virat expects from their deal marriage:

He will :

1. Let Sai stay in his house (and as a favor in his own bedroom !!)

2. Let her go to medical school and become a Doctor

3. Take care of her basic expenses (given that she will get scholarship which will cover her fees and other stuff)

4. Offer protection from Jagdap and Vithal Mane

In exchange,

she should let :

1. Kaku and gang bully her since its joint family

2. Pakhi Didi and Virat to continue EMA without interference since its joint family afterall

3. Let Pakhi Didi insult and show the family how unsuitable she is for Virat at every chance she gets

4. Do all household work (in return for the stay, food and basic expenses?)

5. Not speak up and do as told (coz traditional family, bahu ka farz and parivaar ki izzat)

6. Take responsibility for any wrong that happens in Chavan Nivas

Poor girl, he just picked up her from GC and threw her to his family, like a meat to vultures. If she lets her guard down or compromise on any issue even on one instance, they will pounce all over her.

What are the other terms that I missed?

I know I exaggerate a bit on his expectation part, but to me it feels like Sai is burdened with too may things at the age of 18 and if it wasn't Sai, she would have to do all 1-6 silently, without putting a fight. Woh toh fighter hain Sai , so she survives..

I really wish to see a scene where Virat begs her to stay at home instead of hostel in front of his family after Pakhi is back. Otherwise it will be against Sai's character to stay with him after getting back Pakhi. We know she will stay back since the story needs to progress.

Sorry but I disagree with the expectation list . Virat never expected any of these from Sai .Time and again he has supported Sai going against his family and he even told her to speak up if someone insults her from his family . He did not pick her up and threw her to his family .He has done all he could to support her be it against his kaku or Pakhi as well .

He never asked her to cook and take care of his family . Sai is doing all the cooking out of her will .I don’t think there is anything wrong to get involved in the household chores if she has some time on her hand given that she has not started going to her college yet .

He has been very clear from the beginning that this is marriage of convenience and he cannot be her husband and Sai had similar conditions as well where she said she will never accept him as her husband .Regarding his relationship with Pakhi it’s definitely not EMA and Sai was not kept in dark about his past . He has maintained safe distance from Pakhi after her marriage to Samrat and doesn’t cross his limits but it’s unrealistic to except him to forget everything and behave nothing happened in the past .He cannot ignore Pakhi completely given that Samrat is missing and somewhere he feels guilty for putting her in this situation

Regarding the duties from his side .It’s not easy to do all the things that’s listed in his responsibilities section .He has his own flaws but he is truly a gentleman to take up Sai’s responsibilities and do his his best to fulfill them .He could have easily escaped from his responsibilities or could have said he would share Sai expenses but he did not do any of these knowing very well Sai not just need financial support but actually needs emotional support to overcome the trauma and a safe place from Vittal Mane and his gang .

Lastly , at times Sai also invites problem for herself .She needs to choose her battles and not get involved in things that doesn’t concern her . Handling situation diplomatically is an art and Sai needs to learn that. Sai is a honest and daring girl but sometimes she needs to understand other people’s mood .I am not blaming Sai but highlighting that she has some flaws like Virat .Both are realistic characters who are good at heart but are not perfect .

I hate how many expectations are expected out of Sai. Like the poor girl lost her father and she's so young and she has all this to deal with, on top of her "husband" having googly eyes for someone else. The poor girl needs to be cut some slack

The virat pakhi relationship is betond me! Its best in their interests if they focus on their individual lives and their real spouses instead of each other.

As much as virat is dutiful and a gentleman who is supportive of sai, the truth is that him n the village people forced Sai to get married. If he is taking her responsibility he should handle it all himself. Theres absolutely no need to get pakhi involved with taking care of , "guiding" and "helping" sai. Especially when its do clear that Sai dislikes pakhi! His mother and bua are there for guiding and supporting sai.

Given that pakhi is now his sister in law it is best that he maintains a respectful distance from her not just physically but emotionally too. Even if sai wasn't in the picture, pakhi is his brothers wife. His idea and promise to "never give any other girl place in his heart and life" was completely uncalled for because making such a promise means that he is pining after his sister in law....thats is also immoral as much as if he decided he'd sleep with her!

If these 2 mature people- virat n pakhi truly loved each other they should have spoken up and got married to each other. By hiding the truth they have hurt samrat very much and now by playing this "best friends" game they are only fooling themselves and hurting themselves. There is no need to constantly be in each others lives ....pakhi n virat both have families n jobs to help them move on. Moving on in life and not interfering in each others life is the mature way to handle their relationship. Not this best friend best friend rubbish.

Originally posted by: neeraja91

The virat pakhi relationship is betond me! Its best in their interests if they focus on their individual lives and their real spouses instead of each other.

As much as virat is dutiful and a gentleman who is supportive of sai, the truth is that him n the village people forced Sai to get married. If he is taking her responsibility he should handle it all himself. Theres absolutely no need to get pakhi involved with taking care of , "guiding" and "helping" sai. Especially when its do clear that Sai dislikes pakhi! His mother and bua are there for guiding and supporting sai.

Given that pakhi is now his sister in law it is best that he maintains a respectful distance from her not just physically but emotionally too. Even if sai wasn't in the picture, pakhi is his brothers wife. His idea and promise to "never give any other girl place in his heart and life" was completely uncalled for because making such a promise means that he is pining after his sister in law....thats is also immoral as much as if he decided he'd sleep with her!

If these 2 mature people- virat n pakhi truly loved each other they should have spoken up and got married to each other. By hiding the truth they have hurt samrat very much and now by playing this "best friends" game they are only fooling themselves and hurting themselves. There is no need to constantly be in each others lives ....pakhi n virat both have families n jobs to help them move on. Moving on in life and not interfering in each others life is the mature way to handle their relationship. Not this best friend best friend rubbish.

I still don’t understand his Vaada of not loving anyone .From what I understand he did this in the heat of the moment .His feelings were fresh and he desperately wanted Pakhi to marry Samrat so that his brother doesn’t get hurt .In all of this he ended making a vaada which doesn’t make any sense . His intentions were nice but definitely he has hurt Samrat the most by doing this and has complicated his life .Pakhi is equally to blame for believing this and spoiling Samrat’s life .

Sai was not forced by Virat to marry him . I didn’t understand when Sai said she cannot say no to them but was asking him to reject this proposal.

Originally posted by: neeraja91

Even if sai wasn't in the picture, pakhi is his brothers wife. His idea and promise to "never give any other girl place in his heart and life" was completely uncalled for because making such a promise means that he is pining after his sister in law....thats is also immoral as much as if he decided he'd sleep with her!

Thos is exactly what I have been thinking all these days. U said it exactly!! This is the most imp point that goes against Virat (not that his vaada was impractical & hard to maintain all his life). How would Samrat or any man feel towards another man who vows to keep the former’s wife in his heart always?? And his own brother - makes it even more immoral. For this reason of immorality (& not the impracticality reason) Virat shd never have made that Vaada.

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His intentions were nice but definitely he has hurt Samrat the most by doing this and has complicated his life .Pakhi is equally to blame for believing this and spoiling Samrat’s life .

Sai was not forced by Virat to marry him . I didn’t understand when Sai said she cannot say no to them but was asking him to reject this proposal.

Bold 1: Beg to disagree, his intentions were not nice... they were immoral!! Maybe he didnt realise that in his overwrougt state, but calm reglection later shd hv showed him how inappropriate it was & for Samrat’s sake he shd hv retracted that vaada to Pakhi. Pls see my reply to another post in this thread above this.

Bold 2: U are prolly right, Sai made things worse by attempting suicide. Till then Virat was firmly resisting. That act made him rethink that perhaps marriage was necessary to protect her in her current mindstate. So in that sense she made him & the villagers more determined without wishing to.

Originally posted by: yyyy

Sorry but I disagree with the expectation list . Virat never expected any of these from Sai .Time and again he has supported Sai going against his family and he even told her to speak up if someone insults her from his family . He did not pick her up and threw her to his family .He has done all he could to support her be it against his kaku or Pakhi as well .

He never asked her to cook and take care of his family . Sai is doing all the cooking out of her will .I don’t think there is anything wrong to get involved in the household chores if she has some time on her hand given that she has not started going to her college yet .

He has been very clear from the beginning that this is marriage of convenience and he cannot be her husband and Sai had similar conditions as well where she said she will never accept him as her husband .Regarding his relationship with Pakhi it’s definitely not EMA and Sai was not kept in dark about his past . He has maintained safe distance from Pakhi after her marriage to Samrat and doesn’t cross his limits but it’s unrealistic to except him to forget everything and behave nothing happened in the past .He cannot ignore Pakhi completely given that Samrat is missing and somewhere he feels guilty for putting her in this situation

Regarding the duties from his side .It’s not easy to do all the things that’s listed in his responsibilities section .He has his own flaws but he is truly a gentleman to take up Sai’s responsibilities and do his his best to fulfill them .He could have easily escaped from his responsibilities or could have said he would share Sai expenses but he did not do any of these knowing very well Sai not just need financial support but actually needs emotional support to overcome the trauma and a safe place from Vittal Mane and his gang .

Lastly , at times Sai also invites problem for herself .She needs to choose her battles and not get involved in things that doesn’t concern her . Handling situation diplomatically is an art and Sai needs to learn that. Sai is a honest and daring girl but sometimes she needs to understand other people’s mood .I am not blaming Sai but highlighting that she has some flaws like Virat .Both are realistic characters who are good at heart but are not perfect .

Sai is doing household work because Virat told her that his family is traditional/ conservative kind of family and this deal thing is between them but family is unaware of it so she has to behave like one good bahu though he never directly told her to do household work but in Indian traditional family it's normal for bahus to work .and if they will follow Bengali version then he will tell her that she has some responsibility as bahu of house as story progresses.

About EMA with Pakhi it's clearly evident enough from pakhi's side and still he is behaving like her boyfriend is not normal . He is smart enough to understand PP but no he is hiding behind friendship tag . He is married with sai no matter what they call it deal or not but for other people in the family it's real marriage .it's so desrespectful for sai .

Agree with u on the points that the way he sported Sai when no one is there for her .she left alone in whole world at 18 years of age .

Originally posted by: Panchhi1

Sai is doing household work because Virat told her that his family is traditional/ conservative kind of family and this deal thing is between them but family is unaware of it so she has to behave like one good bahu though he never directly told her to do household work but in Indian traditional family it's normal for bahus to work .and if they will follow Bengali version then he will tell her that she has some responsibility as bahu of house as story progresses.

About EMA with Pakhi it's clearly evident enough from pakhi's side and still he is behaving like her boyfriend is not normal . He is smart enough to understand PP but no he is hiding behind friendship tag . He is married with sai no matter what they call it deal or not but for other people in the family it's real marriage .it's so desrespectful for sai .

Agree with u on the points that the way he sported Sai when no one is there for her .she left alone in whole world at 18 years of age .

I might have missed the episode where Virat asked her to fulfill the duties of a Bahu . I don’t think he meant household chores but more with gelling with the family and not let the family know of their deal . I think even if Virat had not asked her she would do it as she has taken a liking for Ashwini and want to help her and moreover she would not expect others to cook for her and do her chores .When you stay with someone it’s basic courtesy to help in household chores .

I agree the situation between Pakhi and Virat sometimes feel like emotional infidelity .I see it’s mostly from Pakhi’s side whereas from Virat side I see he is struggling to forget her and have no intention of EMA . I think he puts up with Pakhi behavior thinking she is stressed about Samrat and somewhere he is responsible for this .Virat has t really understood Pakhi’s intention yet or he doesn’t want to understand it .If Virat really had such intentions he could have used Samrat MIA as an excuse to get back with Pakhi .

Originally posted by: yyyy

Sorry but I disagree with the expectation list . Virat never expected any of these from Sai .Time and again he has supported Sai going against his family and he even told her to speak up if someone insults her from his family . He did not pick her up and threw her to his family .He has done all he could to support her be it against his kaku or Pakhi as well .

Yes, but he goes to work during the day. What does he think will happen with Sai rest of the day, she has to fight battles everyday.

He never asked her to cook and take care of his family . Sai is doing all the cooking out of her will .I don’t think there is anything wrong to get involved in the household chores if she has some time on her hand given that she has not started going to her college yet .

True, I do exaggerate on that part, but that is implied when you are a bahu I assumed thats what he meant that my family will have some expectations from you. Also its okay to help with with household activities when you are living with someone.

He has been very clear from the beginning that this is marriage of convenience and he cannot be her husband and Sai had similar conditions as well where she said she will never accept him as her husband .Regarding his relationship with Pakhi it’s definitely not EMA and Sai was not kept in dark about his past . He has maintained safe distance from Pakhi after her marriage to Samrat and doesn’t cross his limits but it’s unrealistic to except him to forget everything and behave nothing happened in the past .He cannot ignore Pakhi completely given that Samrat is missing and somewhere he feels guilty for putting her in this situation

Why should Sai have to put up with his past baggage in current day. Pakhi and Virat should deal with it without involving Sai. They should meet outside their room/ in Pakhi's room or if they want to still meet in Virat's room, they should give a seperate room to Sai so that her privacy remains intact. He ruined her chances of normal college life and relaxed home life. He never told her that his home is nothing less than a war zone where everyone will treat her like an enemy.

Regarding the duties from his side .It’s not easy to do all the things that’s listed in his responsibilities section .He has his own flaws but he is truly a gentleman to take up Sai’s responsibilities and do his his best to fulfill them .He could have easily escaped from his responsibilities or could have said he would share Sai expenses but he did not do any of these knowing very well Sai not just need financial support but actually needs emotional support to overcome the trauma and a safe place from Vittal Mane and his gang .

Agree that he is trying.

Lastly , at times Sai also invites problem for herself .She needs to choose her battles and not get involved in things that doesn’t concern her . Handling situation diplomatically is an art and Sai needs to learn that. Sai is a honest and daring girl but sometimes she needs to understand other people’s mood .I am not blaming Sai but highlighting that she has some flaws like Virat .Both are realistic characters who are good at heart but are not perfect .

Sai does jump to conclusion many times, but given how the family behaves with her (like pair tod denge and disrespect time and again) , why should she be nice to them.

Its not like she doesn't know how to behave - we saw her when she spoke to DIG or how she is with Ashwini.

Being nice will take her nowhere - just look at Ashwini's position in the family.

But yes, I do agree she needs to pick her battles otherwise she is just going to look bacchi who fights all the time.