Women have no say in choosing their partner in marriage. Allegedly, that's the norm. Here's a jolt — they do! Incidentally, at gunpoint
NIMISHA TIWARI Times News Network
Bizarre, yet true! This phenomenon of 'marriage at gunpoint' has found its roots many years ago in northern Bihar, which originated in retaliation to the dowry system. Often called the pakarva bibah (marriage by abduction) in the rustic lingo, over the past two decades, this system has become an accepted norm, rather ruthlessly though.
Ajai Sinha, director of Ghar… ek sapnaa, the forthcoming soap on SaharaOne Television which promises to capture this phenomenon with a punch, says, "Since it's an unknown ritual, I decided to delve into it. What's further interesting is that the bride comes to her husband's house thinking it's 'love' that has brought them together, oblivious of the forced route."
Actor Manoj Bajpai who hails from Bihar, says, "An increasing number of multiplexes are no sign of progress. I would believe that the society has truly evolved if it would get rid of the dowry system. 16 years ago, during my Delhi University days, my friend faced the brunt of this reality. He could not visit his parents (in Bihar) for four years because of the fear of being abducted and forced into marriage. His parents just asked him to stay put there. Honestly, I feel life is worse for a woman in this case since a forced marriage is a soul torturing process."
Bengali actor, Sayantani Ghosh, the female lead of Kakul, affirms that this concept was a revelation to her. Gung-ho about acting in a real life saga, she says, "My role has many an emotion. When I realise the truth, I instinctively express — 'Kaash mere saath aisa na hota', which is also the punch of the story."
In this scenario, it is indeed ironical that a woman 'chooses' her husband, but real happiness is a chanced moment… Premiering tonight, watch the rigmarole of a happy-yet-not-satisfying wedded life in an urban set-up in Ghar…ek sapnaa at 10 pm. Catch this soap Monday-Friday on SaharaOne Television.