Originally posted by: Ubiquitos
Nothing more to say. But there is a beauty in too much too. Balance is to make you safe, the dreamers don't care about what is safe, what is balance, what is chill, what is wasting yourself, what is to make fun of your own failures, sometimes you need to feel too much to actually do it. That's a way of life too. People do it because they feel too much about it, I think. But then again, if you find that zing again in some other goal, good for you I think. But by then, people tend to saturate in persuing passions. And find many other non-goals things to invest their time e.g. relationships, hobbies, addictions etc. Good for them too if they realise it's perfectly fine that way too.
Don't mind my gyaan too. :-D. I actually had much more to say. Hahahaha.
I never mind gyan ki baatein. It gives me something to learn.
Agree with you again. You need to feel too much to to actually do it. Unless you have that passion you won't be able to do it. Since it's medical that we are dealing here, I'm taking it's example. The seats are so few that they are always a batch of people who had to sit for the exam again. And if couldn't crack it that attempt, and still want to pursue, yet again they would have to sit for it.
In these successive drop years many leave the battle field. Some can't handle the pressure, some succumb to societal dictates, whatever maybe the reason change their course because time is a crucial factor too.
But there's always a few who would go for that fourth drop too because they cannot think themselves to be anything else other than a doctor. Fully determined people.I think by then it's no more about just about becoming a doctor. The dream becomes more important because, they have spend three to four years of their life imagining themselves at that place. Have invested so much in these years that if they go to other fields, their life would seem meaningless.
Now, here is where the problem arises.
Suppose things really don't work out the way they want it to. And they need to move on but then they cannot. At some point a person needs to make peace with oneself.
I am just not talking about professional goals. This might apply to other goals too.
It's about dreaming a life with a woman and then getting stuck with that dream. You don't have that woman in your life, it's given but the one you actually have you cannot seem to give to her what she deserves.
The woman you had woven your life around, you find she is married. Now what?
Jaruri thodi hai ki jis chiz ko dil se chaho kainaath mila hi de usse. Shayad usse better chiz se milwane ka plan ho.
I'm just trying to say that getting attached to anything too deeply is not good. But then you do get attached. At least I do.
There is this idea in our head. My life would be amazing only when I have this person in my life. When I become this in my life, When I buy that. I was talking about that. It sometimes is detrimental for our own living. If our life doesn't match to that picture in our head. We become sad. We think it's useless.
I often read interviews, and the toppers are asked, If not this then what?
Most of them say, I didn't think about anything else other than this.
And I wonder, is this thinking that turned them into toppers. But among them there are few others too, who say that yes, I would have gone for something else. I had a back up plan.
So I sometimes think, which is better to keep a back up plan or to not. The first is a safe option. In the latter case one may reason that since you don't have any back up plan, you would give your 100 percent maybe. Each to their own I guess.
But people like Mohinder, they have nothing other than dreams. That is why it becomes tragic when their dreams are not fulfilled.
A poor man's daughter cracking IAS, why is it so special? Why is it so important?
First, because the resources and opportunities were few because of money problems and still they did it.
Second, education, was their only asset. Since they think they haven't attained much, he's going to judge his entire life by that one achievement. Something to boast of. Something to think about and be happy when life goes tough.
I think I went off the tangent.
Edited by Commelina - 7 years ago
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