Originally posted by: dqno1
👏👏👏 Thank you Avi! I'm so sorry it took me time to reply to the comment as I wanted to do it in peace. 😊I have been through some of these issues with friends who are having relationship problems and I have to applaud you for the way you have portrayed this. Especially the last part where she acknowledges her failure too in this circumstance.
I've seen many couples go through this phase, me writing this story is just my analysis of their situations & my way of putting it forward. I believe it is never a one way relation both partners are equally responsible for the fate of a relation whether it goes in positive way or the negative ... I couldn't allow Geet to put it only on him.
It is the rule of nature that changes occurs. The pulsating mad passion of youth, the slight mellowing with children and responsibilities, the career that demands more than a lover at times all are phases and cycles that a relationship goes through. The toughest is when the person who could not stop thinking about you does stop thinking about you. Every marriage goes through this phase at different levels of severity. Geet and Maan are at the level where one is in total denial where as the other is ready to give up but can't.
Yes changes occur & its completely on us how we accept these changes & how we prefer to live with it. Also the real relationship comes into focus when the passion fazes out & when you need to live it in real without a route to escape out. But then why does the passion faze out, why do we let the responsibilities become a burden when we can share it. I know I'm not an experienced person in this but its just my view to it. I really salute those couples who let the spark to be there taking efforts for it. Geet - Maan here are at different levels of understanding & there's a reason to it. But both will have to come to one common level & sort it out, hopefully I will be able to bring that out as I want to & have perceived it as. 😊
Caring and nurturing takes time. Thinking about someone and making their small wishes and dreams come true takes effort. Giving of oneself takes willingness. I have always felt that unless you have the time and want to make the effort and are willing you should not get married or be in a relationship. There is no way to keep a partner happy like that.
I loved this whole analysis you did here.👏 Its what I wanted to convey. A marriage is just not the positive but how you deal with the negatives as well. Nurturing & caring the bond at each step is essential. So much so that you loose yourself for the other but then even see that your self is not without an identity. Each one in the couple has to be perceptive of the needs of the other. Taking granted is allowed but not to the extent of break point. Acknowledgement is always needed, and words & actions both help in it.
They need new ways to reach each other. Make things matter for each other. As his father said build the edifice together again.
Yes Maan's father-in-law is someone who is going to play a very vital role here. I'm so wanting to write about him but then the story needs to move ahead for it, and with my slow speed I don't know whether I will be able to do so soon.
I am stunned by the intelligence with which you write Onir. In all sincerity I have never ever found a writer who is so in touch with their characters and their pain. The raw actions of each reflect their feelings and you have formed them cohesively without use of vulgar or abusive language or any clichs.
Oh Avi... your kind words make me feel so good. 😳 I'm glad I could bring this out without going OTT or making it very ugly. This compliment coming from a writer like you whose writing I'm in awe of means so much to me... Thanks so much 🤗
Amazingly well written update...
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Only flaw I see is that none of my demands are being met...😆
Demands I can't say anything about it... 😆
Soon I hope...😉
Hoping for it too... 😉
Thanks for updating...
Superb job.👏
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Awesome writing.
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