Originally posted by: sanjh89
Maiden name wala point abi dekha...Ummm... U r corrct...maidn name s our rght...bt fr me it appears changng into ur huby's surname s a submisn to nt nly hm bt also hs family... I m an Indian n so i strngly beleive in family systm...n besides i hv always believed...aftr mariage huby's family bcms our family... V go to hubys house... N so aftr bcmng membr of hs family...it doesn't appear wrng to adopt thr surname...u mst hv heard KANYADAN or GVNG AWAY D BRIDE...thru dse two customs in dr own relign a father gve hs daughter to hr huby ... In ds way,our fathers nly change our maiden name.. thrby changng our identity... Its fortunate or unfortunate...dnt want to go dr...cz dn our feminine instincts wuld strt blaming our forefathers... Nw GEET... f9 she strt al hr busines...hr profesn in HANDA name...she doesnt wnt to chnge it ..ok its hr rght...bt doesnt its MAAN's rght too tht KHURANA also shuld b added in hs wife's name...Mariage s an institution whch binds two people as one... Evn LAW considrs dm as one n nt two difrnt people...in mariage dr s no place fr individual identity n cz of my abv view i found GEET wrng here...It gve so gudy feelng debatng here...Dse chote pakets gve mre to think n interpret.Love SANJH
You're right, it is not at all wrong to adopt your husband's surname after marriage. I've heard that it is a proud and happy reminder for many women of the new, married phase of their life. 'Mr and Mrs. So and So' certainly fosters a lovely sense of family and I am 100% behind it, provided that the surname was taken out of choice and not because of duty, expectations or force.
As for Maan, I understand your point - I have male friends who cherish the idea of a wife with their surname; being able to say "This is Mrs. XYZ, my wife" and all is a thrilling idea. But remember, Geet has kept her maiden name professionally only - personally and in society, she is Mrs. Geet Khurana. That is why she was surprised when someone referred to her as Geet Handa at the party.
You are welcome to debate and discuss here at all times - I'm sure I'm not the only one here who loves a good debate. Keeps the mind agile and the tongue sharp, lol. Besides, I have a feeling that there will be quite a bit of differing opinions regarding the story coming up 😉
Edited by kaamchorni - 12 years ago
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