THEN and NOW.... - Page 16

Originally posted by: -pixie-

@Ria- lets look at this way...there is this person you love with your entire being...you practically owe your entire existence to this one person..and for this one person's happiness you are willing to sacrifice your own...

Now one fine morning you find out that this one person, who means the world to you, never really respected you and doesnt really care much for your feelings or respect infront of his own value system- that allows him to decide what is wrong and what is right. Now as a woman you can do two things

1) Continue in the relationship- with the understanding that your partner does not really care much for your opinion or judgement. Now, here I am going to write something that I firmly believe- without respect there can never be any love!

2) End the relationship- understanding that if the person does not respect you for who you are, in the longer term you are doing yourself a favor- despite all the short term pain and angst you have to go through.

She chose 2. We may choose 1. Does that make her irresponsible or does that just tell us that Geet values her self a little more than we do ourselves?

Brilliant analysis ! Infact reflected exactly what I thought abt the current scenario !

Originally posted by: -pixie-

@Ria- Why do people break-up then? Isn't disagreement on a fundamental value such as respect- a cause of incompatibility?

You have the worst fights with your spouse-but then dont women go to their maykas? Some will stay and fight and give a cold shoulder- some will seek comfort from their loved ones- some will just need time to cool off and think things through.

I need to go now...but I had a good time talking to you all!

Originally posted by: maanddy

Exactly, sunita ! Thanks to GF and GHSP, i met some wonderful people and made very good and nice, sensible friends ! That is the reason, even i'm not watching it now, only for written updates and few my favorite actor's scene, i come here, but the main reason is that, i have got very nice and cool friends here, i can't stay away from them ! 😳

Me too, had quit TV (My reason is diff, but it does not matter), only on YT, but you know what, i really feel very bad for this show, and the character geet and dadi and the devil, coz once upon a time, i used to love this show, i used to fight with my family members to get remote and watch it at 9.30 and then, repeat at 11 ! 😳

And, now the days are come, when i can't even watch the original telecast ! This is very 'yak' feeling ! How do you feel, when the one thing, you died for, has become regular, random thing for you, that does not even matter a lot ?!?

Dadi, i used to love her, she was so nice, elegant, royal, rich and understanding dadi, our naughty dadi, who has become typical old age granny who can emotionally blackmail her grandson, and her only aim, is to mend her broken family, well nothing wrong in it, but she is just being, a normal granny who is failing, understanding her own grandson, and there was a time, when she was the only one, who used to understand her grandson, when no one in the world knows him and understands him ! I do not know, what happened to my naughty yet elegant and understanding dadi ! 😊

I still, hope that, everything, come back to normal and i enjoy my GHSP, the way it used to be ! I will see my Maan and Geet back ! 😳

Originally posted by: ria_sengupta

i agree both Maan and geet have flaws which is after all natural........................and believe me, i absolutely have no problem with maan and geet having some flaws....yes, maan is short tempered,he gets angry really fast,he is full of attitude-and well, thats the reason we love him!yes,of course geet also has some problems, i certainly do not expect her to be without flaws but here the main problem is that geet's character consistency has not been maintained by the cvs...........maan was short tempered from the begining,right from his entry, and though his character has changed over time, i feel, his change has been normal, i agree that he was never a hen-pecked husband, instead he agreed to geet's tantrums, and whims because he knew her childish nature...................but geet started off as a timid and shy girl, who finally decides to stand up for what she thought right-i had huge respect for her,yes,she always had childishness in her,but thats what i said, during the office track, she never seemed irritationg or over the top, but all of a sudden,that childishness increased in leaps and bounds,and immaturity is tolerable only to an extent, when it surpasses those limits,people r bound to get irritated...................coming to the present track.......i can even try and understand why geet forgave dev( though i personally do not think it was right...but thats another thing).....yes,she was bound to get hurt by what maan said...............but leaving the home-No, that was wrong....she chose to run, and that is not the mark of strength at all, and now her attitude says, she has almost given up on her marriage, her Maan.only for those harsh words.even after hearing his apology, and all the while knowing in her heart that it was her action with dev(playing holi) which made maan lose his mind...and it was natural for him to do so, but still he never for once mistrusted Geet, he was angry becoz geet had chosen to forgive her sinner.....................geet's current attitude towards maan is unacceptable and thats the reason many of us do not relate to this geet,the original geet would have definitely not run,and she would hv been angry with maan, but she would hv confronted him,and then she would also have realised her fault in the whole issue.......but now geet does not seem to think she has any fault which is totally unacceptable!maan on the other hand is fighting for his love,he is ready to face all hardships to atone for those words uttered in a moment of anger and therefore my respect for this man increases two folds...........feel bad that the same can't be said for geet....................................geet's current attitude looks like ego instead of self respect, if it was self respect, she would hv at least talked to him,and most importantly,she would never stand quitely in front of her relatives when they were insulting maan.....according to me,that was the worst thing done by her so far and that is what totally made her lose all respect in my eyes-her attitude and silence convinced her relatives even more that she had been tortured and forced to leave her house by maan...................and this is not the way to uphold one's self respect, in fact not even ego,huge egoists would also not let their loved ones lose respect infront of others but thats exactly what geet did-and this is unpardonable!

Originally posted by: pal_2010

Same here, exact situation, i used to watch it with full volume, with no other person's interference and no outings after 9.00 pm and party, of course after 10.00 ! I used to think about MAANEET all the time and collect videos and write OS/SS on Maaneet, too ! 😳

But, see the day has come, when i'm not exciting about it all, I chose match before GHSP, i chose movie before GHSP, i chose my mom's favorite show on some channel before GHSP !

Even, i'm surprised at myself and changes ! Now, i do not think twice, if my friends call for party at night, in fact, i myself, select timings for 9.00 pm !

And, GF ! Oh, it reduced to a level much, i just come here to check written updates and to talk with my friends and GC/Maan/Maaneet's pictures ! That is it !

But, i can't resist GF, as i have got some wonderful friends here ! 😳

Originally posted by: dolphinUSA

QUESTION to ALL:
When does a woman leave her home and refuses to forgive her husband? Only in 2 occasions according to me:
- Either she is being tortured by her family and needs to run for her life...
- She loves someone else..(