Indifference and Forgiveness vs Anger and Hatred - Page 5

Originally posted by: maangeetams

Very apt quotes to describe Geet's act of forgiveness. However as you say it does not mean Dev should escape the law. If he has changed he himself must surrender to law as repentance , If he is just pretending, he cannot get away for long !

Originally posted by: Opti

We do not know whether he is genuinely repenting or not but for Geet's own peace of mind, its better she just lets go. Forgiveness would allow her to make a clean break from her past and put that unhappy memory from her mind forever. So more for Geet's sake rather than Maan it would be good if she does so. It would also help in finding out Dev's true colours. If he was pretending, then he will suddenly have no choice but show his true colours. How long can he put on the show? His guilt trip will come to an abrupt halt.

Originally posted by: monikaseth

Opti 👏 You are the best

Originally posted by: Sahil0225

I agree completely....

Nice post

"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget." - Thomas S. Szasz, a Hungarian psychiatrist.

Loved the quote.

Originally posted by: my_view

Great writeup.!

Practically speaking one should be able to forgive anything and anyone with passing time and having developed a heightened sense of tolerance towards those who despite of their best intentions end up hurting one another.

When one engages in act of forgiveness the whole outlook of life changes.

With more time (possibly years) Geet should forgive Dev no doubt but not while she may forsake Maan's unconditional love and their marriage over some petty discord due to lack of maturity in her understanding and overlooking good for bad in MSK.

As per TB article it seems MSK and Dev are at opposite ends of a see-saw with Geet in the middle and Maan will inevitably go down so to speak if Geet forgives Dev.😲

Originally posted by: Opti

"Indifference speaks louder than anger" is a music track by Goonies Never Say Die from the album No words to voice our hopes and fear. How true it is.

They say indifference is more dangerous than anger and hatred because when one is angry there is still the acknowledgement of the person or persons existence but with indifference one neither recognises nor cares if his/her adversary exists or not, as he/she does not hold any value to him/her. As long you hold on to the feelings that someone else's actions/words has evoked, you end up hurting yourself. Once you let go, you are free.

At present, Geet is indifferent to Dev. He does not exist for her. Dev's pseudo guilt is, therefore, not assuaged and that is why he is an unhappy soul.

Now we hear that Geet might forgive Dev. We don't know if this is true and if it is, the circumstances under which she forgives or what this forgiveness entails but I thought I'll address some of the allegations levied against Geet for her purported intent to forgive Dev .

1. Fallacy: Geet forgiving Dev is unthinkable because it would mean a victory for him.

Fact:

"Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much." - Oscar Wilde

From what I have seen of Dev, the guy loves to wallow in pseudo guilt and self flagellation. As long as Geet and Maan do not accept his remorse, he has a reason to keep crying to Dadi that he has wronged and his bro and his bhabhi can never forgive him. If Geet forgives him, he loses that reason. I think without a 'whip' to hit himself, he will feel lost.

2. Fallacy: Geet's forgiveness would portray her as a weak character.

Fact:

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."- Mahatma Gandhi

Geet is a strong woman and her strength would only increase with this forgiveness.

3. Fallacy: Geet's forgiveness would mean that she has forgotten everything done to her by Dev.

Fact:

"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget." - Thomas S. Szasz, a Hungarian psychiatrist.

Just because Geet forgives Dev does not mean she has forgotten what he did. She will, therefore, never accept him. Forgiving him would only help her remove the bitterness of hatred in her soul.

We do not know whether Dev is really repentant or just pretending to be so. If he is only pretending, then he can always plan to harm Maaneet in the present or future. Since Geet does not know for sure whether Dev's remorse is genuine, it would be better if she always remains vigilant where he is concerned, even if she has forgiven him.

Edited to add:

Granting Dev forgiveness does not mean he should escape from law. Here Dev has gone against the law and has been charged of a heinous crime. He is still out only on bail and has not been totally acquitted (at least that is my understanding). Let law take its own course.