Live-in Relationships; Staying Together - Page 8

Great topic.... im fairly traditional and i personally do not believe in live in relationships and i myself would not engage in such relationships nor encourage it... but i firmly believe that every individual has a right to live their life the way they want..... and so if i ever came across indivuduals that do believe in live in relationships...then i would never give them a hard time over it!!!!!!

Originally posted by: bDgT

Marked in red, perfectly put! Amen!

I agree...the audience will accept anything MSK and Geet do as long as ....😳😆

I doubt we will ever see Geet live-in with Maan (meaning getting physically intimate with him). The closest they showed of a live-in was the outhouse sequence. Even that was not for too long. Don't think they will again go through the same route. None of the so called youth-based shows on Starone have shown anything as bold as live-in relationship in the fullest sense.


DMG had some bold scenes but even this show kept physical intimacy within bounds and did not go all the way. Reason, no one wants to take the risk of showing such a thing and either lose their trps or get the moral police breathing down their necks. Such a theme may appeal to a handful here but this may not necessarily represent the vast majority who may be watching the show, especially the Indian audience who the show is primarily targeting. So my guess is that they may titillate with sensual Maaneet scenes but will not go all the way.


I personally would prefer to see Maaneet married before actually consummating their relationship. Dev faked a marriage (which was conducted clandestinely) and slept with her. I would like to see that in contrast, Maan sleeps with her only after he has wedded her in the actual sense (and not merely in the metaphorical Parineeta sense) in the presence of his family and friends, in the full blare of the public.


I have not seen anything so far which suggests that Geet has lost her faith in the institution of marriage because a crook decided to play with her life. If anything she is shown to hold it in high esteem, the reason she was shocked when Maan suggested he wanted a contract fiance. The reason I love Geet's character is that this girl has retained her spirit despite all her adversity. In all this she is still the same traditional girl. This does not make her any less, according to me. While I want her to blossom into a strong girl who can face her problems head on, I sincerely hope her present principles remain as rock solid as they are now.

@Bri

yes a live in relationship is something that is done and is there in India. In mumbai you will see many examples of it. Many of the stars do it. And yes other people do it too. i lived in India and had boyfriend for 7 years...we practically lived together though we maintained separate homes. And we did not get married, for whatever reasons. We did have a relationship and i for one can say that it gives you freedom to be tied to the person you love not because a paper proclaims so but because of mutual need. Our relationship had to end but there is no bitterness, i still talk to him..wish him on his birthday..met his wife...well that is life...you make choices and we chose to live apart after we felt that our relationship had nothing more to offer...

there are no guarantees in life and Geet has faced a lot in her young life. Maan and Geet cannot have a platonic relationship even if they try...which is what this contract engagement is all about..they have too much chemistry between them...but yes..i have shared room with boys.and not slept with them...so platonic relationship is possible..i have shared a bed with friend and not slept other than the business of sleeping... so yes...it is possible it happens in India..it is reality..it all depends on two people..what is there..between them...

Geet and Maan have too much between them. They are destined to be lovers..and yes...there is again Dev..between them..not himself but his seed...and that is another bridge that Maan will have to Cross when he comes there and the promo is just that.. the truth about Geet being pregnant will come out in hoshiarpur... may be not from Geet but there will someone who will speak and Maan will know..

he is going to support her as always...

@Polki.- wow...that is amazing revelation..about you...kudos to you girl...my respect and admiration has increased now i have unraveled a little more about you apart from one being a writer...

Originally posted by: taral83

I have been brought up in a semi-orthodox atmosphere and have been really attached to all hindu customs and tradtions. I don't think that a live-in-relationship should be a desicion of the two only. As many of you have said it does have its positive sides but it also has its negative points. Nevertheless, I truly believe that a woman does have a lot more at stake then a man. She not only carries her own reputation she carries her parents reputation as well. Its easy to just say oh its so we understand each other better, learn about each other and so forth. But as someone said, what if the relationship doesn't work out. Then what?? Our society is the nicest, they will throw a million taunts at the parents and their raising. The same happens when a daughter come back home after being divorced or sent home from her in-laws. Therefore, if one chooses that path, I honestly believe it should be a mutial decision between both familys to allow the live-in-relationship.

Whether I would allow it or do it myself, the answer is no. If you truly and honestly love the person then there won't be a need to live-in. I knew my husband 10 years before we got married. We dated for 7 years prior to the marriage. We didn't live together but we were very close and open about our likes and dislikes. My mom didn't see my dad until their first night, and they are succesfully married. Both my sisters have had arranged marriages and knew the guy for no more then two weeks prior the marriage. They are also very happily married with kids. So it is not that we need to have live-in relationships to have succesful marriage or to bring down divorce rates or so forth. Frankly speaking the more modern thinking that india tries to impliment on traditional views, more problems are created, like abuse, divorce, cheating and so forth. And I am not saying we shouldn't have any modern thinking, thats y I said semi-orthodox, but somethings should be kept the way they have always been. Marriages don't need live-in relationships to be succesful, but needs good understanding, learn to agree to disagree, good communication, learn to comprimise, respect and last but not least love.

Excellent points you have raised Tara! However, coming to the consent of parents in live-in relationship, no one here is proposing it as an alternative to marriage. But as an option that should be available to people who would like to tread that path, of course those people would have the guts to face any negativity, and also an option for people who have been badly burnt in marriage or do not want to go the marriage route.

Society is what you and I make of it. Society is not some isolated frozen lake waiting to be discovered. No! It is the sum of all people's thinking.

Live in relationships and marriage can co-exist side by side for people who want to stay together. There need not be any conflict here.

Originally posted by: Tomiko

Great discussions and view points put forward by you all.👏

However for a few members I would request that you keep in mind the words that you use as we do have quite a young age group who visit the forum as well!😳

Geet Dev. Team

Thank you Tomiko!

We will keep that in mind as we are not advocating live-in relationships as an alternative nor are we negating successful marriage models but are only proposing alternative story lines as well as discussing the scope of two people staying together out of the traditional setup.

Originally posted by: yasu09

if i ever came across indivuduals that do believe in live in relationships...then i would never give them a hard time over it!!!!!!

if they are happy then that's what counts... who the hell am i to interefere......😆

but if Geet were to take such a turn.... then i'd still enjoy watching the show anyways.....😳...

at then end of the day it's a drama... and whether it's westernized ot traditional.... i'd continue watching it either way.....😎

👏 Thank you Yasu and I really applaud you for the quoted lines. Understanding is the first step in acceptance and for happiness and harmony in society.
👏

Originally posted by: SWKIA

I agree...the audience will accept anything MSK and Geet do as long as ....😳😆

Didnt mean to make sound facetious but couldnt help...

Yeah the audience just want romance be it they are wedded or unwed :-)

Originally posted by: Opti

I doubt we will ever see Geet live-in with Maan (meaning getting physically intimate with him). The closest they showed of a live-in was the outhouse sequence. Even that was not for too long. Don't think they will again go through the same route. None of the so called youth-based shows on Starone have shown anything as bold as live-in relationship in the fullest sense.

DMG had some bold scenes but even this show kept physical intimacy within bounds and did not go all the way. Reason, no one wants to take the risk of showing such a thing and either lose their trps or get the moral police breathing down their necks. Such a theme may appeal to a handful here but this may not necessarily represent the vast majority who may be watching the show, especially the Indian audience who the show is primarily targeting. So my guess is that they may titillate with sensual Maaneet scenes but will not go all the way.

I personally would prefer to see Maaneet married before actually consummating their relationship. Dev faked a marriage (which was conducted clandestinely) and slept with her. I would like to see that in contrast, Maan sleeps with her only after he has wedded her in the actual sense (and not merely in the metaphorical Parineeta sense) in the presence of his family and friends, in the full blare of the public.

I have not seen anything so far which suggests that Geet has lost her faith in the institution of marriage because a crook decided to play with her life. If anything she is shown to hold it in high esteem, the reason she was shocked when Maan suggested he wanted a contract fiance. The reason I love Geet's character is that this girl has retained her spirit despite all her adversity. In all this she is still the same traditional girl. This does not make her any less, according to me. While I want her to blossom into a strong girl who can face her problems head on, I sincerely hope her present principles remain as rock solid as they are now.

You make some valid points Opti. True Geet had still retained her traditional values and yes to an extent it would not make sense if Maan followed the same route that Dev did though Maan would be doing it out of love and absolute commitment rather than for the sake of cheating her or taking advantage of her. So, it basically boils down to the circumstances in which such a scenario might occur.

Originally posted by: rushtrip

@Bri

yes a live in relationship is something that is done and is there in India. In mumbai you will see many examples of it. Many of the stars do it. And yes other people do it too. i lived in India and had boyfriend for 7 years...we practically lived together though we maintained separate homes. And we did not get married, for whatever reasons. We did have a relationship and i for one can say that it gives you freedom to be tied to the person you love not because a paper proclaims so but because of mutual need. Our relationship had to end but there is no bitterness, i still talk to him..wish him on his birthday..met his wife...well that is life...you make choices and we chose to live apart after we felt that our relationship had nothing more to offer...

there are no guarantees in life and Geet has faced a lot in her young life. Maan and Geet cannot have a platonic relationship even if they try...which is what this contract engagement is all about..they have too much chemistry between them...but yes..i have shared room with boys.and not slept with them...so platonic relationship is possible..i have shared a bed with friend and not slept other than the business of sleeping... so yes...it is possible it happens in India..it is reality..it all depends on two people..what is there..between them...

Geet and Maan have too much between them. They are destined to be lovers..and yes...there is again Dev..between them..not himself but his seed...and that is another bridge that Maan will have to Cross when he comes there and the promo is just that.. the truth about Geet being pregnant will come out in hoshiarpur... may be not from Geet but there will someone who will speak and Maan will know..

he is going to support her as always...

@Polki.- wow...that is amazing revelation..about you...kudos to you girl...my respect and admiration has increased now i have unraveled a little more about you apart from one being a writer...

Vrusha, thank you for sharing a part of your life with us. I am really touched that you threw such a perspective on it.

Sometimes the best relationships do not occur in traditional setups while sometimes traditional setups do work. It is ultimately upto the individual how they cope.

I applaud you for being so forthright and upfront in sharing your views and experiences. Kudos my dear gal!

Maan and Geet will pretty much depend on situations and circumstances as to how or in what condition they might end up staying together without the so-called marital setup.

Thank you so much,
Bri