Live-in Relationships; Staying Together

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Has our Indian television grown up to reflect the times? Guess not much!

Going by reactions, is it only marriage that needs to be shown to connect two people?

Men and women do share accommodation without having a relationship and the relationship may be platonic.

And in some cases, men and women can stay together in a relationship without going through the rigmarole of marriage.

Had Indian television grown up to show a live-in relationship?

Geet had been badly burnt in the name of marriage, why should she trust that institution? Tradition apart, these days some women who come from very conventional backgrounds and from very traditional societies do still opt for a live-in relationship against an overnight marriage.

In Maan and Geet's case, why can't they live together for a while, realize their love and get married once they realize that they can't live without the other.

In the meanwhile, Dev can also change and Geet should be shown to have a choice of either forgiving her errant fake husband or choosing the man whom she loves, i.e., Maan.

But of course, how many of the viewers can accept or digest a live-in relationship? After all it is not the producers who do not have the guts to give us such a scenario but the viewers who sail in conventional moralistic standpoints.

Taking a reader/viewer consensus, how many of us would be willing to accept a platonic or a live-in relationship between Maan and Geet without marriage in sight for another say 3 months?
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Posted: 15 years ago
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agrreeedddd...!

great topicc !
i dont mind geet and maan in a live in realationship and the thing is that the sociery and viewers need to accept this becausee, a lot changes... and i personally in real life would never want to be in a live in realationship before marrage because those are my values and things that my ansestors and paretns have taught mee... and sometimes in life you have to leave everyone and everything in order to be happy and i think thattss what geet is trying to doo... and if being happy is a live in realtionshipp... so be it!

maan and geet can live together and get married later, but there are some things which should only happen after marrage. hope u understnad whattt imm trying to say

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: sweet_simi

agrreeedddd...!

great topicc !
i dont mind geet and maan in a live in realationship and the thing is that the sociery and viewers need to accept this becausee, a lot changes... and i personally in real life would never want to be in a live in realationship before marrage because those are my values and things that my ansestors and paretns have taught mee... and sometimes in life you have to leave everyone and everything in order to be happy and i think thattss what geet is trying to doo... and if being happy is a live in realtionshipp... so be it!

maan and geet can live together and get married later, but there are some things which should only happen after marrage. hope u understnad whattt imm trying to say



Yep sometimes in life you have to tread a path that is supposedly not what you envisaged in the beginning or acceptable to some people. But in life, in the quest and search for happiness, one needs to live a complete life be it acceptable to the majority or not!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I AGREE BUT IN INDIA STILL 90% THINK THAT MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: maneetian11

I AGREE BUT IN INDIA STILL 90% THINK THAT MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION



An institution that has cracks, that is failing in some respects, that is under severe strain due to the divorce rates and all!

Yep, can Geet reflect the remaining 10%, if so will the viewers accept?

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Posted: 15 years ago
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Interesting question?

I whole heartedly support people living together.

I myself lived with my husband for 5 years before (in sin) we got married. 😉 We are now together for 7 years and we have known each other for 11 years, first as enemies, then as friends, then as lovers and now as husband and wife.

Living together is totally different than just being in relationship with someone. When you live with someone you learn all their little habits, you realize what annoys you about them and living with those annoyances makes your relationship stronger.

I probably would have never gotten married, I have seen really bad relationships in my life, abusive relationships and loveless relationships between people who feel trapped and don't leave because marriage ties them together (specially in Indian society.) But since my husband and I prefer to travel the world and live in different countries it was important for us to get married to stay together.

A happy relationship shouldn't be weighed by a piece of paper. A paper does not guarantee anything. I will love my husband always just as much as I loved him when I first fell in love with him.


Polki
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Posted: 15 years ago
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I wud always vouch for a live-in relationship. I think it is high time that such relationships are accepted - divorce cases have increased in recent times in India. What is the harm in going for a live-in relationship before marriage and then tying the know when you are 100% sure that he is Mr. Right?
Thankfully today, a girl no longer believes that they have to be dependent on their husband or father.....they are much better off than what they were 10 yrs down the line....
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Posted: 15 years ago
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@Polki:

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Brilliant! Brava!

I admire your honesty and courage in sharing your own life experience in this sphere.

I respect you for voicing your opinion and should this serial take the route of a live-in relationship, I know it would be inspired from real life stories such as yours. Women of substance who have the courage to defy the usual norms.

Congratulations on your success and good luck on your continued happiness!

Regards
Bri
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Thank you so much Savitan for your wonderful views! It is such thinking that is needed to really bring about transformation in Indian society that relies on dowry, traditions and costly weddings! With the current divorce rates and the failure of marriages even in the Indian middle class, it is high time we cut the stranglehold of the umbilical chord that the marriage certificate has on the Indian conscience!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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yaar as much as i agree... certain ppl will make geet's creatives live hell.... am sure u must have come accross the topic... is geet becoming too westernized ? and the tm had pretty strong beliefs against wat u are implyin... which explains why cvs dnt wanna take zat risk....
but yep i agree geet be in the other 10%.....

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