SS 67 Doleful Symphony - Page 37

*Height of solving a problem*

A Wife is Doing her makeup early morning, straight out from Bed !

Husband : Are you crazy

Wife : Just shut up, I need to unlock my phone. It's on *Face recognition feature and it is not recognizing me.!*

I admit that I am biased. Thus I cannot understand why the dude had a problem with Ii's question of dating Ritu? (Even if II does not know the full history of the dude's sexual encounters, we know at least somewhat.). The question might not have been exactly tactful! But it was not completely invalid either. My head understands that the dude's past is all under the bridge, however, my heart is troubled every time something from the past raises its head. I thus understand what II is going through so well. There was no need for the dude to be nasty at his wife's queery. Should have just said no' and the discussion would have ended. Instead he broke her heart. Not cool, dude!

This time I am going to side R&B. Yes, his history is not that great! But totally wrong on II's part to jump on dude like that. It's only natural that he is hurt. His premarital affairs is something that will be a sore topic in their life forever :(

If it is not R&B, who else - Makarand or one of Chachu's dirty fellows (I know Nisha indicated them staring at Ritu). We are eagerly waiting Nisha ...

Originally posted by: ocean28

I admit that I am biased. Thus I cannot understand why the dude had a problem with Ii's question of dating Ritu? (Even if II does not know the full history of the dude's sexual encounters, we know at least somewhat.). The question might not have been exactly tactful! But it was not completely invalid either. My head understands that the dude's past is all under the bridge, however, my heart is troubled every time something from the past raises its head. I thus understand what II is going through so well. There was no need for the dude to be nasty at his wife's queery. Should have just said no' and the discussion would have ended. Instead he broke her heart. Not cool, dude!

But thank the lord that he had not dated Ritu...I was scared for a second!

Thank you

I think the situation and sircumstance as a whole has made it more worst...
Dude is rite to get angry as he was not told bout Ritu coming to dineer and all and II was also not wrong in asking the question as she knows bout M but I think she does not know the names of each and every girl dude dated...
And given there current state of mind there loss together then her coming back and then now this hav worsen the situation more

Originally posted by: moonwearer

<font size="3">Every time the dude makes an effort to stress the importance of II in his life explaining he can't rewrite the past as she would have wanted it to be he makes an effort. II on the other hand is unable to let go of the fact that the dude had a very active sexual life from his teens.</font>

<font size="3">It maybe the kind of values that the two were brought up with...Just as she has learnt to make a turkey sandwich without having to touch it, there should be tact in raising such questions...Poor R&B what must he do to prove to her that since marriage he has had only her on his mind and bed...he does fail in standards of tact but not the frequency with which II does.</font>

I think she knows her place in his life but wht came to her mind after seeing him was that now she has to face the situation she avoided (of getting intimate)by coming back she has to face it now
So this fear was there in her mind somewhere when she asked the question...

I agree that they have not given the miscarriage a proper closure. That does not warrant jumping to any conclusion one pleases. II has got all the support and sympathy she needs Amma is the only one that thought of his pain.his need is spurned by II s paranoid rejection. He is at a loss how to bridge the chasm. Now this.

Hi!

Hers and His insecurities are their combined cross to bear. And that cross is only heavier bcos of their approach towards life and people in general.

As far as I am concerned , their silly tu tu mein menu over random people flirting and giving looks to each of the spouses is far more irritating than their current flux . This needed addressal only because of the way the info fell like a ton of bricks in a matter of three four days But with Ritu I think it's also the situation and the lack of time to ponder that led to this I think.

If we go back, what happened was II gets bk, Bally talks to her about a new opening and positioning and
Casually drops a one liner asking if Ritu already knew dude.

Scene 2 : Ritu invites herself sort of. Comes to MM. Dude without any prior info to his wife lands up as he is known to do. Now we have an II who's not expecting to see her husband.
By the way I don't understand either the frequency of Dude arriving unannounced most times. He comes and goes when he feels the need to but is irritated that his wife did not inform him her plans to invite her for dinner. But that is a matter for another time. Now did II have the time to ask dude over phone before he landed that if he knew her boss. Don't think so. If she had the time , would she have. Can't say for sure.

Scene 3: Ritu putters around talking about CMU for the first time in all this time, making enough noises dropping blanks that II is feeling the need to fill. Obviously neither the jersey girl nor the jersey or the jersey stories are keeping II warm enough . Ritu's agenda, her looks and more importantly dude's presence is forcing II to look for a Math that she assumes could have possibly existed.Mind you, the wifey is still discovering through others of what her husband did in the past . For II Neither Ritu nor dude in the past 1 and half years even referred or made a mention to a CMU connect of any kind. It's hard for anyone to make sense of the complete silence sorroundung this and suddenly the wifey in a space of three days is getting to hear a lot about it more from Bally and directly from the horse's mouth.

She knows his past but tells herself that it's his past. But once when something's rankling you I feel it's better to get it out instead of chewing over it. As for tact, she found him alone and vomited it straight out and as directly as she possibly could get . Even if she has popped this qtn in the bedroom I don't think his reaction would have been any different nor her qtn.

Now dude's reaction is so spouse like as well. Frustrated at people and his own family constantly bringing out his past in front of his wife and him having constantly defending his present settled status and to compound his forced celibacy now.. tired of having to defend he lashes out in return. Paranoia won't go away just to appease his needs. The matter has to be addressed through counseling or time needs to be taken that's probably reqd here.

I think it's the timing of the whole issue without having time to reflect that's the issue here that made her pop the qtn. But I also feel she had to this time. I agree that it's not an invalid question . Only the qtn should have been phrased differently. It needn't have been an affair but there's a general curiosity of wanting to know how they were acquainted. Under normal circumstances when faced with a situation, a spouse would hv approached it saying " how come you never mentioned of your CMU days before or something like that. But then these are II and dude with their crosses to bear respectively.