T2 | ArHi FF Second Chances | Link to Thread-Three, Pg 140 - Page 70

Originally posted by: kushikumari

this might or might not have anything to do with this chapter. although i cannot deny the fact that this particular chapter got me musing... on things we do, and we don't, the things we take for granted, but should be grateful for, and how when we try consciously, we can be better people and build beautiful bonds...

my son went from whispering "mommy" with trembling lips on seeing me after a nasty fall, to a loud "i know what your baniyan is called mom, it's a bra"! followed by silence, absolute silence on my part, not in reverence but pure shock. my friends told me it would stop, he wouldn't care two hoots, and would stop talking to me altogether. still waiting... hasn't happened. and at one point i wondered why. of course the loud declarations don't happen, almost a young adult you see, but the 'hey mom...' is still there. texts me in the middle of school (in spite of being told not to) to let me know how he or a friend or the school itself did in a competition/ test/ sport. texts me in the middle of a retreat to ask questions or share a joke. is quite alright telling me he saw his friend 'making out'... talking about something bothering him, or a subject that "seems to continuously blow his mind"... and so on and so forth. i know why now, because the line of communication has always been open. its alright to be silly, its alright to act smart, its alright to tease, its always alright to tackle no matter what the weight. took it for granted until a friend pointed out i was lucky. and i understand there is a beauty in communication that can break all barriers and build the strongest of bonds.

how many of us don't have friends whom we haven't met in years and yet know that they are there for us? while in my 20s, i had called a dear friend to say a quick hello. (those days, the tel charges were expensive, and there we re no texts etc). she was in the middle of a family get together and couldn't talk, but told me she had to go through a hysterectomy. yes, silence on my part again, but found my vocal chords to tell her she needs to look on the brighter side, that her recovery would be so much faster given her age and she could get back to normal life in no time. she told me months later, that that was the only positive comment she had gotten and it helped her feel better...

last week, i sent an email to an old friend whom i haven't spoken to/ kept in touch with in 20 years (other than the bday wishes on fb). woke up to find a reply, with the matter resolved...

i remember being a newly wed, living with the in-laws and going through the usual set of challenges. being young, was not prepared. and was completely naive at the game. my friends helped me see the funnier side, and taught me to laugh at my situation. they even had hilarious practice sessions! hubby joined in to help make light of the matter.

what is with all these relationships that transcend distance and years? space and time? how, where, when, did the magic happen? why does it happen? there comes an acceptance with communication/ discussions. no 20 questions, no assumptions. speak thou mind. with judgement playing no role, respect seeps in, laying a foundation for an awesome relationship. humbling actually. and a treasure trove, no matter how many times we dive in, we come up with a gem.

thank you mira, for including such valuable relationships in your story, hardest to do (imo), and making me remember all my wonderful, wonderful people!

kk