Arshi FF/ Saffron Fields #11//Ch. 32 Pg. 115/ Thread 12 link Pg. 1 - Page 32

Originally posted by: mem1

<font color="#990099">Hey Kavita, KANK was a great example for this situation. Thank for reminding me of that.</font>

<font color="#990099">I totally agree with the situation, and Jenny has done an excellent job of bringing out the reasons as to why A and K are just made for each other.</font>

<font color="#990099">I just feel so bad for Khushi having to face the consequences of her decisions. But thinking about KANK gave me a whole new perspective on this story. I just hope that the situation gets resolved fast and in a good way though.</font>

I, for one, hated KANK :) To me, it was little more than glorified adultery. As far as I remember SRK and RM were still in stable relationships with their respective spouses when they met each other and realized how they've found their soulmates and how miserable their lives have been until then. I had a problem with this story line :) If Khushi had married Aman and Aman were a good husband to her, I would have fully expected her to keep a tight rein on her thoughts and desires and not even think of falling for everyone else. And I have no doubt that love can grow between two decent, well meaning people who enter matrimony with the right intentions. Heck you can even fall in love with your pet who lives with you.

Arnav, in this story, had however firmly and irrevocably decided to end his marriage before he opened his heart to someone else. And it was only after sensing this 'emotional divorce' from his wife that Khush allowed herself to express her love...(apart from the time when she was unaware of his marital status) Even then it wasn't an easy decision for her and Arnav's emotional state, her heart's response to that, no doubt, played important roles in getting her to that point.

Originally posted by: IPK007

I, for one, hated KANK :) To me, it was little more than glorified adultery. As far as I remember SRK and RM were still in a stable relationship with their respective spouses when they met each other and realized how they've found their soulmate and how miserable their lives have been until then. I had a problem with the story life :) If Khushi had married Aman and Aman was a good husband to her, I would have fully expected to keep a tight rein on her thoughts and desires and not even think of falling for everyone else. And I have no doubt that love can grow between two decent, well meaning people who enter matrimony with the right intentions. Heck you can even fall in love with your pet who lives with you.

Arnav, in this story, had however firmly and irrevocably decided to end his marriage before he opened his heart to someone else. And it was only after sensing this 'emotional divorce' from his wife that Khush allowed herself to express her love...(apart from the time when she was unaware of his marital status) Even then it wasn't an easy decision for her and Arnav's emotional state, her heart's response to that, no doubt, played important roles in getting her to that point.

Just got here. Haven't read others' posts but Jen I hear & feel you. To me, an emotional affair is adultery too & equally unforgivable maybe worse!

Originally posted by: IPK007

I, for one, hated KANK :) To me, it was little more than glorified adultery. As far as I remember SRK and RM were still in a stable relationship with their respective spouses when they met each other and realized how they've found their soulmate and how miserable their lives have been until then. I had a problem with the story life :) If Khushi had married Aman and Aman was a good husband to her, I would have fully expected to keep a tight rein on her thoughts and desires and not even think of falling for everyone else. And I have no doubt that love can grow between two decent, well meaning people who enter matrimony with the right intentions. Heck you can even fall in love with your pet who lives with you.

Arnav, in this story, had however firmly and irrevocably decided to end his marriage before he opened his heart to someone else. And it was only after sensing this 'emotional divorce' from his wife that Khush allowed herself to express her love...(apart from the time when she was unaware of his marital status) Even then it wasn't an easy decision for her and Arnav's emotional state, her heart's response to that, no doubt, played important roles in getting her to that point.

Originally posted by: Chokri_ASR

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">One more thing... I am on a freaking role...😆 I swear my this topic really is working a number on me and I have a presentation coming one in 20 minutes not sure how I am going to sit through it.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">So as I was saying... I see people making excuses about their marriages drifting apart to go have an affair. My stance is don't take the cowards way out... respect your partner and your marriage to make it work or be honest about your feelings to put an end to it. Finding out when your partner is cheating on you is heart breaking whether you marriage is alive or on the brinks of ending if you are still together. I have seen a few of my friends go through this, and believe me there is no excuse that makes this right.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">Okay... now I shall go back to Corporate America, and listen to a presentation on how to capture and deliver consumer data in the online space to our clients. YEAH!!! 😆</font>

Absolutely...! Totally agree with you...:) And I also want to add that even if the person you're in a relationship with is not married to you, you still have a moral obligation to stay true and loyal to the relationship while you're still in it. This form of 'cheating' is even more common than adultery...When BFs/GFs don't want to break up for whatever selfish/ cowardly reasons but think it's acceptable to philander on the side...

Originally posted by: chotidesi

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">I hated that movie. So much. First, because it glorified adultery, as you said- if you're married to someone, I would hope you could at least give them the respect and just tell them. It's obviously not that simple- but dishonesty just makes everything worse.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">And then, on top of that, afterthey split up from their spouses, they liedto each other about the state of their marriage! You cheated, lied, finally came clean... to break up? What?</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">I'm glad Khushi was honest with Aman in this. I respect her a whole lot more. And as Di said- Arnav isn't in a marriage with Lavanya. They're separated, emotionally and physically. They aren't living together, sleeping next to each other. There's a difference.</font>

<font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" size="3">Although, I don't think Lavanya will see it that way.</font>

That movie was Karan Johar's worst IMO and that's saying a LOT...lol..
And I totally agree with you, the storyline was plain stupid!

Originally posted by: mem1

Lovely discussion ladies! I too hate KANK... And more so because I love AB Jr... Felt so bad for him throughout that movie...😉

Anyway, coming to this story, yes, this is no where even close to adultery or cheating or dishonesty.

It is just the thought of Khushi feeling like, and being treated like a home wrecker, which is hard for me to accept. And I find that hampers my enjoyment of their romance.