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Nicky saluja

@Nickysweet

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

#51

kaju sweety i can truely understand what u r feeling right now becoz i also gone throwgh the sme
If u don't have any feeling for him just tel your parents directly
They will not force u nah
Be friend with him afterall this marriage thing is whole life matter don't takke decision quicky
do what your heart feels
U r too young now..concentrate on your studies and say no to him if he is pressurizing so much

Edited by Nickysweet - 11 years ago

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Pooja

@poojasidd123

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#52

if he's a good and reliable friend and if u feel really comfortable with him as a friend, then just try to maintain this relation(loosing a real friend is a real loss), telling that u just consider him as a good friend.but if he's pressurizing you to think abt it and all that, then tell him and your mom strongly that u are really not interested and not ready to take this upon ur shoulders. no one has the right to force u to do what u know for sure that u dont want. also u are just 19. if that boy is so serious to take this forward, then he could definitely wait for 2 to 5 yrs. u can think abt this after your studies also. if he still won't understand, then u have to distance yourself from him politely.

and about the dhak dhaks and that special surreal feeling, i really dont know coz i havnt been in love😳. love can happen during the course of friendship and dating and also long after it, as our feelings change without our awareness. but both should be willing to explore it. nothing should be done unwillingly or out of force. as you are really not willing, then u should voice it out strongly.

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Hibernated

Posted: 11 years ago

#53

I have replied through pm sis

xxx

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Varsha Dutt

@varsha2KD

Rocker

Posted: 11 years ago

#54

You and me are in the same boat sweety...

I am completely blank as to what to do... I told my parents to give me time and they agreed as for now...

Hope for the best... 😊

Edited by varsha2KD - 11 years ago

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Crazy4IPK

@Crazy4IPK

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

#55

i don't know. I was in love before. but i broke up with the guy in few months. cause he was too dominating and too possessive. he literally wanted to snatch my existence.

Let's come to your guy

If you like his looks, his personality and his heart, you should think about him.

If his family is good and his upbringing is good, i think you should consider him.

If you need a rich guy, then of course you have to think about his bank balance also. 😆 And it's also true that money is very much necessary.

education is must and as you already mentioned, he is educated, so just don't worry about it.

And the most important thing is, does he love you?

One thing i can say if you don't feel your erratic heart beat for him, but if he has those above qualities you can consider him as your life partner.

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amus5

@amus5

Rocker

Posted: 11 years ago

#56

dear i may not be the best judge of the situation but after reading many notes this is what i can say...

firstly you consider him as your friend and nothing more than that

your parents want you to move well with that guy - here we are not talking about marriage rightaway

you dont feel dhak dhaks for him

the guy is ideal though a bit overcaring

ok ...first of all relax... if you have a best friend who is a girl you will talk to her quite easily i mean overcaring way . Your parents seem to have no issue with this overcaring nature of that guy and as you too have no issue with considering him as a friend then treat him as one. If your parents want you to go out with him and you seem to have no problem with going out with a friend then enjoy yourself though i would say stay within limits. You are just nineteen and a time to enjoy yourself. But be careful that it doesnot go overboard.

Because only if you interact will you know whether the guy is a good friend or can he become your confidante or a lover or whether it is mere lust from his side. All guys at first are sweet so in reality when you interact with them over time do you come to know them.First meeting or meeting within family circles is not going to show you their true self.. But again i must emphasise that you must be careful. Because in today's world we are our own protector ...

Parents always think for the best for their kids ... so just go with the flow

I donot know whether this is helpful to you or not but this is what i feel...

Dont worry be happy :)

Edited by amus5 - 11 years ago

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chaitali

@chaitali12

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

#57

sorry yaar!!
not experienced in 'love'
you never know ..may be you can fall in love with him..
like you said he's all mushy types. .n you don't like it..
you can't even force someone to love you. .
it just happens n jo hota hai achhe k liye hota hai..

Edited by chaitali12 - 11 years ago