OS: Little things I wish I saw... - Page 2

Originally posted by: tia.o

Oh my God... Such a powerful piece of writing. True, when people stop feeling other people's pain and starts to take others for granted, then no one can help those people.

It's funny, I read a lot of posts on how Arnav is a man who doesn't understand Khushi's pain because she never told her in blinking letters how upset and troubled she is.

And I wonder, do we condition women in India to keep their expectations at bottom level? To always think from a man's point of view? To always defend a man's action? And always blame a woman for not writing their pain in block letters with glittery pen?

Look at the western world. Women don't need to sacrifice there, they don't need to justify or defend a man's action. What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.

Because western world philosophy is "If you don't think about yourself, no one will. And if you are unhappy in your life and don't feel that you are getting the love, respect and honour you deserve, walk away."

But look what we tell our daughters, "You are a woman. You were born to sacrifice everything for others. If you get married, leave that home after you die. Keep working on a relationship that stopped working for you. But don't you dare come back."

Arnav is a man, hence he doesn't understand what is Khushi's pain in spite of her showing it through her body language, expression, pain-filled eyes and attitude. But we also have to believe that he doesn't realize how it looks to his wife when he spends every moment of his waking hour devoted to his ex's son who is his ditto replica which was pointed out by his entire family members numerous times including strangers, knowing that she did a DNA test because she suspects them to be father and son. That's also we will have to excuse because he is a man.

We also have to excuse that even though he knows how jealous he felt when NK used to pay attention to his wife and he was the one who explained that having his ex under the same roof as his wife will be awkward, he doesn't understand how his strange jovial guy behavior with his ex might look to his wife.

Oh sorry, I forgot. When it came to shouting at Khushi, Sheetal was his ex who will make the situation awkward, but when playing basketball with her to the point that he himself felt awkward once or twice, he was just an innocent man playing basketball with a friend.

It's really hard to understand why Khushi was looking at him like a frozen doll when he himself felt awkward with his ex. Because hey, everyone knows that Khushi brought her in, now if he chooses to ignore his wife to devote his attention exclusively to his ex and her son, then it's not his fault. He was just a poor man, victim of his circumstances.

Let's all applaud the man for coping with the "situations" he seems to fall in. The poor man deserves to be applauded because he is just a man and as the famous saying goes, "Men will be men."