OS: It Must Have Been Love - Page 12

Originally posted by: tia.o

That's a very good point SJ. Whether the boy keeps quiet or calls out depends on his own upbringing.

Why the girl was dancing in the rain buck naked depends on her own circumstances.

But what is the consequence of it?

The boy, seeing a naked girl, either keeps quiet or calls out. But he won't be scarred for life which will ruin his life because of that. The worst situation would be is that the girl will see him watching her and they will have awkward moments in the daylight or an affair.

The girl dancing buck naked, would have flu at the most or embarrassed moment at the least. Again, no far-reaching consequences.

It will be a memory which can be easily forgotten.

But it's not the same if the boy taking advantage of a naked girl rapes her or takes her picture and posts it on the net.

Then it will have far-reaching consequences.

And I'm sure any one with any sense will admit that it is wrong.

So my point is that perspectives are dependent on the consequences of an action.

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

I am quoting only the parts that were related to the short anecdote I shared.

So here is how our perspectives are biased and severely skewed but our assumptions.

The boy saw the girl buck naked dancing outside in the rain.

the girl was the 2 year old daughter of the neighbor who had accidentally walked out of the house into the rain and decided to take off her clothes because instinct told her the mud puddle would wet her clothes and mom wouldn't be happy. but the rain was too tempting so she jumped in the puddle, and danced in the rain.

the boy's dilemma was not that he saw the child naked, but as a concerned neighbor he was worried for her safety and wanted to inform the neighbors.

we assumed the worst because we are victims of our experiences. truth lies somewhere between what we think and what the other person thinks. i think most of us on the forum do that, we take a slice of the story, look at it through the lense of our experience and react accordingly.

Originally posted by: tia.o

Exactly. I agree. If you had make the decision at that time for whatever reason, then at least have the decency to admit it. In this story, Khushi took the cowardly way out 8 years back and she took cowardly way out now.

On top of it, she dared to slap Arnav for not being ecstatic to find a 8 years old illegitimate son. If I was Arnav, I will slap her back.

Originally posted by: minimuffin86

Excuse me? You would slap her back? If you will for once in your life READ and not skim you will understand that Khsuhi said she understood how difficult it must be for him before he began ranting like the women on this forum how he couldn't risk his relationship, then questioned Arav's paternity and then accused her of being a blackmailing bitch which is when she slapped him, not for his reaction but his insinuation that she was using her child to make money.

Yes she didn't tell him he had a son because in every relationship ASR starts he is very explicit about not wanting children; why would a woman go tell a man he is about to be a father if he might turn around and say "Well sweetheart you no my no baby policy so please abort," so does the fathers wants come before her own? What if she really really wants a child? What if she's pro-life and would never ever consider abortion because it's a moral sin for her? None of that comes in to consideration?

Cowardly or no, she made a decision and she stuck by it, she's human with human faults and not every woman is a Devi out on earth who makes no mistakes, Arnav makes mistakes, Khushi makes mistakes (and someone wanted to slap her not too long ago much to the hue and cry of same forum) and if Arnav can react so drastically to being a father she can react just as drastically and not have the sense to do what's right later on because she isn't thinking straight. Also whose to say she won't tell him when he is of an age to understand. It's her decision, her screw up, she does not need a moral police down her throat crucifying her.