Originally posted by: serialjunkie
I am quoting only the parts that were related to the short anecdote I shared.
So here is how our perspectives are biased and severely skewed by our assumptions.
The boy saw the girl buck naked dancing outside in the rain.
the girl was the 2 year old daughter of the neighbor who had accidentally walked out of the house into the rain and decided to take off her clothes because instinct told her the mud puddle would wet her clothes and mom wouldn't be happy. but the rain was too tempting so she jumped in the puddle, and danced in the rain.
the boy's dilemma was not that he saw the child naked, but as a concerned neighbor he was worried for her safety and wanted to inform the neighbors.
we assumed the worst because we are victims of our experiences. truth lies somewhere between what we think and what the other person thinks. i think most of us on the forum do that, we take a slice of the story, look at it through the lense of our experience and react accordingly.
I disagree, SJ. It was not my bias or perspective which coloured my judgement. It's the information that you kept hodden and didn't share. Which is exactly my point.
Had you told me that the girl was 2 years old, I'd still say that actions good or bad is judged by consequences, in this case, the worst consequence is death by pneumonia. However, I'll rule out social consequences. However, you did hid a part of information because of which I could not make the right decision.
If Khushi had told Arnav about the child when he was born, whatever decision he took would have been coloured by his experiences and personal biases yes, but it would have been an informed decision.
But because she hid the child's existence from him, the right to make a decision is taken out from his hands and now that she has arrived back in his life he was presented with a 8 year old son like a fait accompli. You must admit that it's not fair.
It's like saying your sister is marrying a man who is a adulterer but because she had once said that she will die without him, you let her get married to him by keeping your mouth shut. Hence you took away her right to make an informed decision. It's one's duty to tell the truth to the people who are affected by it, after that whatever decision they make knowing is not their problem anymore. But it's not one's right to make decision on anyone's behalf unless the person is incapable because of physical or mental limitations or a minor.
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