OS: It Must Have Been Love - Page 13

Originally posted by: Krani

Here's the thing right.

When you are a parent, some decision on your child's behalf fall upon you. You are at times, forced to take a decision which can be deemed by the society as being immoral, wrong, stupid, unnecessary.

When you are a single mother, the child's responsibility is yours, and as a single parent you try everything possible to make your kid not feel the loss of the other parent.

Now when it comes to Aarav and Sheetal.

It's obvious that the relationship between Arnav and Sheetal was not love. It was just a fling, it was nothing.

So the decision of Sheetal's to not tell Arnav remains to be hers - you cannot judge her because you have no idea what she may have been thinking, or going through while making that decision.

While I admit, that the upbringing and the decisions of a child fall upon both the mother and the father, I am mindful of the fact that something as controversial as hiding the truth from the father (without knowing the reasons) is something I am not going to become too judgemental on.

Now when it comes to this OS, Khushi goes to Arnav because her son wants to meet the father. It is his right, it is something that he wants, and as a mother, she feels obligated to fulfil that wish of his. Why should she be blamed for wanting her son to meet the father?

Sure it may be after 8 years, it could have ben after 20 years - but a son meeting the father, you cannot put a time-limit to it saying "Oh, sorry you're too late now"

Sure, as the time goes by, more questions arise as to why it was not done earlier, why did it take so much time - however to put the entire blame of this delay on the single mother who has struggled to bring up a child, give it everything she could give him, and then find the courage and strength to face the father of her child, is wrong in my opinion.

So she takes him there, and tells Arnav that Aarav is the kid.

I am not blaming Arnav with how he reacted, because it is a shocking news - however he could have been more sensitive to Khushi by not blatantly saying that he is not going to accept the child just because it hinders with his relationship with his wife.

Khushi's decision at the end to not tell her son about the father - is again something I can understand, because which child wants to know that their son does not want to accept him? Which child wants to know that they are unwanted? Which child wants to know that they were an accident, something not planned, something not wished for? which child?

Once again, Khushi makes that difficult decision to leave with her son - and this time knowing the answer to that 'what if' that plagued her mind.

There are three people directly affected by this situation, and one indirectly.

Aarav, Sheetal and Arnav are directly going to be affected by whatever decision Arnav takes - and Khushi is going to be indirectly affected as she is the wife of Arnav.

Just because Khushi may be hurt in this entire process, does not mean that Sheetal and Aarav are going to hurt any lesser.

Especially Aarav, who is completely innocent in all of this, who is just a child!

Originally posted by: Krani

Here's the thing right.

When you are a parent, some decision on your child's behalf fall upon you. You are at times, forced to take a decision which can be deemed by the society as being immoral, wrong, stupid, unnecessary.

When you are a single mother, the child's responsibility is yours, and as a single parent you try everything possible to make your kid not feel the loss of the other parent.

Now when it comes to Aarav and Sheetal.

It's obvious that the relationship between Arnav and Sheetal was not love. It was just a fling, it was nothing.

So the decision of Sheetal's to not tell Arnav remains to be hers - you cannot judge her because you have no idea what she may have been thinking, or going through while making that decision.

While I admit, that the upbringing and the decisions of a child fall upon both the mother and the father, I am mindful of the fact that something as controversial as hiding the truth from the father (without knowing the reasons) is something I am not going to become too judgemental on.

Now when it comes to this OS, Khushi goes to Arnav because her son wants to meet the father. It is his right, it is something that he wants, and as a mother, she feels obligated to fulfil that wish of his. Why should she be blamed for wanting her son to meet the father?

Sure it may be after 8 years, it could have ben after 20 years - but a son meeting the father, you cannot put a time-limit to it saying "Oh, sorry you're too late now"

Sure, as the time goes by, more questions arise as to why it was not done earlier, why did it take so much time - however to put the entire blame of this delay on the single mother who has struggled to bring up a child, give it everything she could give him, and then find the courage and strength to face the father of her child, is wrong in my opinion.

So she takes him there, and tells Arnav that Aarav is the kid.

I am not blaming Arnav with how he reacted, because it is a shocking news - however he could have been more sensitive to Khushi by not blatantly saying that he is not going to accept the child just because it hinders with his relationship with his wife.

Khushi's decision at the end to not tell her son about the father - is again something I can understand, because which child wants to know that their son does not want to accept him? Which child wants to know that they are unwanted? Which child wants to know that they were an accident, something not planned, something not wished for? which child?

Once again, Khushi makes that difficult decision to leave with her son - and this time knowing the answer to that 'what if' that plagued her mind.

There are three people directly affected by this situation, and one indirectly.

Aarav, Sheetal and Arnav are directly going to be affected by whatever decision Arnav takes - and Khushi is going to be indirectly affected as she is the wife of Arnav.

Just because Khushi may be hurt in this entire process, does not mean that Sheetal and Aarav are going to hurt any lesser.

Especially Aarav, who is completely innocent in all of this, who is just a child!

Originally posted by: TeleFan

I like your perspective.. i agree that even though as a parent you may decide whatever which you feel is right at the time.. there is no timeline on when a child of such a situation can or should be told who the father is.

i agree the idea is we can't just in a very black and white way.. there are always wrongs and rights on both sides. everybody hurts in the end but the important thing is we cannot judge without knowing

Originally posted by: TeleFan

Hey Channi...hardly talk...so here i go...(and yes Munch promises are always broken)

I am spamming ...

the only thing I would add is why judge at all...even knowing...we or even them will never know what took place for it is at the end their versions of the story...

@ SJ...OS within and Os huh...meri maatha...

Originally posted by: CravingKhana

Hey T !!!
Long time no talk hehe

What I meant by knowing is only the people in the situation will know. In this OS Khushi and Arnav and and they will only know what was right and what was not and what's changed . other people cant judge coz they do not "live" that situation. Only the mother father and child go through it. Only they know and they ultimately decide what's right. Without knowing any of this who the hell are to judge. It's very easy to be a pundit / saint when you are a spectator.

My previous comment didn't come out right as I typed in a hurry.

Haven't watched the serial for quite a long time,so I don't know what is really