Where Did You Go? - Page 5

Originally posted by: idonkno

Brilliant post chick! Something thoughts bothering me after watching the scene...Was Shravan looking for 'his Sumo' or was he looking 'for himself'? The man had opened his heart enough to love without any restraint only to be devastated and in that moment he was changed - a part of him was lost - he was (and is) no longer whole.

Who we were and who we are
are four different people,
and the me from now
doesn't relate to the me from then,
let alone to the you from now...

There's only one person who could show him the way to find himself - 'Sumo' and there she was trying to do exactly the same :)

Originally posted by: sanfan

Beautifully explained, Rekha!

May I also add that if Ramnath had to turn negative he wouldn't have resignedly sighed in defeat when Shravan made it clear he would marry Suman because he had his reasons to...So he will remain grey...What I'd like to see if he will ever be able to bring himself to apologise to Nirmala..I have a feeling he will... Also hoping to see him go begging Suman to accept Shravan at some point in time. 😉

Preeti- the safekeepr of secrets! 👏 So wonderfully true. She may not lead anyone to the memory box, but she does know why Suman agreed to marry Aditya.

And the day she opens her mouth to Kamini (or anywhere in the vicinity of her hearing) about how Suman had struck a deal with Ramnath is the day I wish she had been born dumb! 😆...I really hope they don't bring things to that ugly turn, since Kamini has enough reason to retort even without this knowledge...want them to limit the negativity to the least min possible. 😊

Edited by chicksoup - 9 years ago

Originally posted by: orion23

Chick 👏

This is brilliant!

I'm still in the speechless zone so I'll save myself the effort, this is brilliant stuff!

You rock at this!

Where did she go indeed!

Originally posted by: sanfan

J,

I will give u full marks on this...That is the Sumo we are talking about..instant coffee...i like that description...

Me too pretty sure of this...actually we are not talking of Sumo's reaction...we are talking of Shravan's...on receiving the forgiveness...why sorry is sometimes of no use...😉

Originally posted by: sanfan

Originally posted by: glassdoor

What a fantastic heartbreaking analysis, chick! You have outdone yourself this time my girl 👏

I feel this man's sorrow, guilt and pain in your post.

Without actually having the character present they made such clever use of choti Sumo to portray his state of mind.

I am not good in analysing Shravan mainly because I cannot bring myself to like his behavior at the moment.

Things that I like:

1. He realised his mistakes using his OWN brain cells. That is quite an achievement for a person who is being continuously brainwashed by those around him.

2. Deep down he cares about hurting Suman. He is very much aware that the things he says hurts her. But then again I wonder, why does he keep doing it then? Then I don't like it very much.

I have still not convinced myself to like this man.

Yes she rejected him and fed into his morose fantasies of abandonment. There were mistakes from her end. I am not denying that.

But by behaving the way he did, he closed off all avenues for her to reach to him! He burned all his bridges by making statements that are simply not cool.

This does not take away the fact that I really dig your post...Fantastic portrayal of emotions...

Originally posted by: chicksoup

Thanx, GD.😳

Some time back I had made a post on how I hated Shravan using Suman as a crutch. By and large, he is still there for me..though I do feel bad for him for he is trapped within himself...So it is not that difficult to analyse him even if I am not head over heels in love with him.

The day this guy grows up and proves himself worthy of Suman is the day I will approve him for Suman. Until then, he is very good entertainment value! 😉

Originally posted by: sanfan

@underlined Hey Soup, what do you mean by that...why is emotional dependence of a man viewed as something inferior. Its a character trait like any other... On this using as a crutch..I will play the devil's advocate..we are looking at Sumo's situation of marrying him at the court..why did she did she sign on the dotted line? If Mami's words were not hanging like a sword of damocles...do we suppose we would not have questioned her actions differently...considering she is high on the Self-respect aspect.

Being worthy of Sumo?...I would say both have a responsibility if they intend to make a go of it..altho one may need to cover more distance than the other...depending on how you look at the situation.

Considering Sumo is privy to so much more information than Shravan, there is some answering she has to do as well. In terms of intent both are gud, but it is actions and words they will be judged on..

Originally posted by: chicksoup

Rekha,

I would have said the same about Suman had she used him the same way. It is not an undesirable trait in a man alone...

I am saying there is a case to be argued...its a perspective..not that I hold it...for me Shravan's dependence on Sumo comes from his acute issues which he has not found closure for...Similarly Sumo's issues about abandonment are also real and I accept why she treats Shravan and family differently. I can buy the theory that at the court, she still found Shravan a safer haven (known devil) than being in a situation where she is beholden further to her family. But Chick, her decision can be perceived as a case for using Shravan as a crutch too...So..essentially what I am saying emotional dependence is not a crime..many give it the name of love...but the definition can be twisted easily...

Why did Suman sign on the dotted line?

SHE HAD BEEN VERY CLEAR that she wouldn't do this if he was under PRESSURE. He had made it clear he was under no pressure..so that was the reason she committed, NOT BECAUSE OF MAMI.

And now, he had signed...he had been under no pressure...and he was inviting her to sign in front of an audience...Both the families wanted this, and this is what HE CHOSE..Should she have walked out and made a scene there?

Yes.

Chick...PRESSURE as a word..or as an action. His action did not look as if he was very keen to marry...So lets not split hairs on this...We know why they both married..😊.(for love...even if they have a diff defi at the moment in their heads)

Suman is privy to so much information..The primary one being Shravan was willing to give her up for his dad when he defended him with the PCT fiasco..He was willing to take the entire blame on himself and break all relations with her..FOR HIS DAD.

Why is it that Shravan is never questioned for this?

Questioned by whom? me? As far as I have read Shravan's character...he says a lot of things relating to his father..but I have seen him behaving the opposite when it comes to the crunch...he names it as vague things but he does what his heart desires..So I don't need to justify his character's actions...he justifies them on his own😆😆