Originally posted by: -Amri-
^ So true, Puba. It's moments like these when I really wonder what love means to Shravan.
It's been always admirable that he's stood by her in times of distress. That he comes to her rescue whenever she needs his help.
But Suman Tiwari is not the teenager Sumo who used Shravan for her own ends. She's grown into an independent woman who can make decisions for herself...it's how she could survive, considering that her bestie was not with her for 10 whole years...and her family never did care for her that way anyway. She's learnt to fend for herself.
I think Shravan is still unable to reconcile the Suman of the past and the future. And he still has major trust issues, especially with regard to his perception of women. He seems to see love as a relationship that fosters dependency and makes you in charge of taking care of the other person, which gives you some sort of power over them. But he's still to learn how a healthy relationship involves a healthy give and take and mutual trust and even a bit of space.
Bang-on comments and looking at his behaviour very true.
Shravan has never had a bench-mark for relationships ever. he was always an introvert largely attributable to the fact that he was a nerd he was in school and an introvert. His mother and later Sumo were the only 2 people who were the brightness in his life- it seems that he was closer to his mother than ramnath. After his trust in women was broken as the 2 most important women in his life let him down, when he needed them the most, he became as cynical and bitter as they come. Probably continued to be the loner he was even in London with few friends. The only person who he trusted was Ramanth (the worst possible choice) who actually let him down as well by sending him of to London.
Whatever relationship/friendships he would have nurtured probably were at a superficial level and he never matured emotionally to invest in relationships/friendships completely. As he grew up and transformed from the geek into a handsome successful lawyer, he continued viewing women and their attitude towards him at the same level. Did respect come into it, probably not.
If Suman's and his relationship is to be of equals, he will first have to change his perception of women starting with that he has of his mother. And understand her and treat her as a person with her own mind and views to be respected for what they are..And along with the understanding will come the trust.
She has kept telling him that she will not let him down but i guess he never really listened to her each time she said that to him. So it kind of makes it a superficial love if his yardstick of falling in love again is that she will not leave him and go.
Hopefully in the next week, the CVs do show a progression of his thoughts and understanding as this track progresses else reconciling with this Shravan will be a tad bit difficult.
Too long a post but just had to write it all after i read your views!
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