WHAT?!Shravan promises Ramnath he will break all ties with Sumo - Page 9

Originally posted by: poppinss

Ramnath used adultry as his playing card. Imagine telling a 16 year old son that his mom is an adultress. Ram went a step ahead and took him to Ahuja's office. R I believe is single minded... he strongly believes that N was cheating on him. To him that hatred and anger towards N comes before Shravan. He did this when Shravan was sick, he fought with N and sent her out of the house and takes Shravan and shows him that N is having an affair with Ahuja.

Ramnath I would not say is black or grey. But he is the typical misogynistic guy who needed and needs psychiatric help. Would any mother want their son to go through this process? Mind you Nirmala is a women one generation before us... society was different then. Would she want Shravan to think of her as a promiscuous woman? She thought that by letting the custody go she would spare shravan this heartache. But R being R did end up in making Shravan hate his mom. As for two sides to the strory... I think there should have been enough news from R's side... he did make it clear to all and sundry that N ran away with Ahuja. So I am sure Sumo and every other Tiwari would know the jist. But N's side was a mystery till now...

Look at it now... N did see Shravan but you saw the reaction. The fear of this reaction is what made N stay back. She is not strong enough to handle it... then or now. She needs to be strong before she could help her son... sadly she is not strong enough.

Lets forget what N or R did. Lets look only at Shravan... here is this guy who has a lot of bottled up emotions, says he hates his mother, hates all women, has no respect for all women but Sumo. Badly breaks down when he thinks his dad is no more. Admires Chachi for being a good mother. Pushkar constantly trying to drive some sense in to Shra. Every one saw these reactions... but it was only Sumo who was able to see deeper... how he misses his mother. How that pent up anger in him is eating him inside out. So she is not trying to reunite mom and son. But she I believe wants shravan to give his mother a good hearing and take a call from then on. Meet like acquaintances But as we all know Shravan would simply run far away.

Shravan like N has been afraid to face the past. Now that the past is staring in front of his eyes... he too would start having questions and doubts. Hopefully his reasoning skills will kick in..

OLV would take us just so far... we need to evaluate what Sumo is trying to do from the actual episode. Having said that... I still think Sumo is right in what she did... Shravan has been a very unhappy man for the past 10 years and is still so in many ways. Is extremely insecure... sometimes the best thing to do would be to hit the nail on the head.

Originally posted by: indranigupta

Hey Poppins, you are right about Ram. But, for me Niru who refused to clear her name not only for herself but for a sixteen year old impressionable boy is as much faulty as his father was. She knew he was a misogynist and yet she let her son live with this man without trying to clear the perceptions that were floating around. What is more regrettable that she allowed this lie to grow and develop. She didnt merely leave because she did not want her son to face the ongoing tussle, she left because she wanted him to have a clean image of herself. It is she which is prefiguring here, not a mother. And not even a woman because as a women she shouldnt have allowed her son to live with this misunderstanding or with this man.. And did she never once think as to what explanation Ram is going to give behind her back. She was an educated, independent working woman and more so, very aware of her husband's insecurities. All she does is to fly. And whats worse, now when the son is himself and independent man, well learned she is still being coaxed to meet by Sumo. I am sorry but i find her as much at fault as the father.

She knew the truth, but didnt have the guts to speak it aloud so that her image remains intact. In the process, her son's whole orientation regarding women, marriage and trust issues are thoroughly hampered. She could have helped even if she had left. Her son was mature for his age, he would have helped his father. The first time when Shra comes to know his mother has left, he did say that she cant do this. You must have said something to her. So he willing to hear both sides of the story.

Knowing that Ram is manipulative, she let him live with her son... who loved her.

Originally posted by: AdyaXoxo

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Originally posted by: poppinss

@Indrani @beagle @spnfan... i get ur point about Nirmala being equally at fault.

As for Sumo being at fault... both hands need to clap to make sound. Shravan could always have walked away from the situation. And I am sure Sumo would not have forced him anymore. Thing is his reaction make the case stronger. Also they are beyond friends... and are extremely close to each other at a deeper level. So some amount of interference is bound to be there. Similar to the khosla track.

Still feel Sumo would not have rashly made Shravan meet N. This is the girl who was keeping his mom away from him at all cost to ensure he does not get upset. Will wait and see how the cvs take it.

Originally posted by: noexcuse

Intersting thread. Read all 10 pages. I still think Sumon is right to make Srvn meet his mom. Left to them, no one would take initiative and the guy would suffer forever. So what she might have to face his wrath but that's what friends do. Go out your way to help each other.

Originally posted by: indranigupta

Tonu, Sumo is right to take the initiative to correct the perceptions of her friend. Unlike his mother who backed off to help him clear his doubts and misgivings. Only problem with Sumo, or rather my grouse against her is the fact she is taking things too lightly. it involves a family and child's vulnerabilities. And the fact that this child now grown up values her, trusts her, admires his Sumo... a fact not unknown to her even. She could have told him without building up the suspense. If she is in the line of crossfire it is only because her good intentionsnow would be seem as a lie, a breaking off Shrav's trust

Originally posted by: Zenab78

hope so

Originally posted by: beagleboy

Originally posted by: beagleboy