I am done with this show! Please post POV - Page 4

Originally posted by: dumppurvi

The way I see it, if Urmi takes the support of Ishaan it is going backwards, because we want her to be strong and not feel the need to lean on a man to deal with her problems. It is this dependency on a man's approval that made her take so much abuse from Samrat in the first place.

She needs to grow and learn from this experience and be strong on her own feet, she does not need to be saved like a damsel in distress by a man. Women keep saying they want to be independent, yet when in problems Urmi must seek comfort in Ishaan whether after her marriage or not? I don't think that is good for her. If Urmi leaves her marriage, I want to see her going home and healing and drawing strength from within, then when she has healed she can seek a new life partner.

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Hilly, I don't necessarily think that if Urmi takes a support of a Man or Ishaan - it is regressive or weak in anyway. I rather am of the opinion that we need to live with Men, and definitely if we can be confident and self-assured we can live with them in our own terms. This is very important - we don't want to create a society where female confidence is only measured if a woman does not live with a Men or else need to challenge him or belittle him at every corner. No, rather a society where Men and Women can coexist as Equals'. This to me is easier said than done. For it is easier to say - I am equal and will have men under my foot. Then, we just do what Men did all these centuries, exploiting women believing in his greatness'. Being treated equally, respected equally and knowing we are equal but different is what I believe in. So, if Urmi finds love in Ishaan - that is not bad at all, as long as Ishaan treats her to be his equal - emotionally, socially, etc. Then again, where else will Urmi find that support, if not in Ishaan - she is not working out of home so that she can meet Men who are more or less strangers and interact with them. Besides, this is more believable - that Ishaan feels for her as he has seen her and knows what she went through from the beginning; he has seen Samrat treatment towards her and the family up close. He was a witness himself regarding all the family drama and felt for Urmi all along...

Now, this might not come to pass - who knows with Anuskha falling for Ishaan, we might have 2 sisters falling for the same man (rings a bell, right😆😆). This could be disastrous to me...

Kalapi, I agree with your point to some extent, you know I am the last person who believes in belittling men😆 I just feel after being in an abusive relationship, a woman must take time out for herself before she enters into another relationship. I don't think it is healthy to jump from an abusive relationship into another relationship right away, even if the man is a good man.

^ I absolutely agree with you Hilly😃

Originally posted by: Kalapi

^ I absolutely agree with you Hilly😃

Btw, the saddest part in this mess is that I think, Urmi will recieve Zero support from her family...except perhaps the mom...

Kalapi I can just imagine how her family will convince her to stay and work it out with Samrat. Yes, I agree her Mother maybe the only one to support her, I think maybe her brother because in the beginning when Samrat had called off the wedding, her Father was begging but her brother was not, he was very upset. You never know with this family, because they were so hell bent on getting her married into this family, that they perceived were reputable people.

Yeah I really noticed when Samrat was implying there are other ways to tell her off. I was like what, physical abuse? He's already verbally abusive so I'm not shocked by just how low he can go.

He has all these expectations from a wife and calls it her "duties". What era is he living in? He has the soul of a 90 year old granny. He is a disturbing man and really needs intense psychiatric help.

Others who are pissing me off, Urmi's grandmother. With her constant nonsense of how a woman should mold herself according to her husband's wishes. I was just like, shutup you old lady! Samrat and her should be best friends where they can badmouth women all day long.