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DISCLAIMER: This post is not related to any particular actor, you can believe that Mohit Malik portrays his negative role perfectly fine, without justifying his acts as a character, so please do not take this personally as an attack against your fav actors.
After watching today's episode, I can safely say I have decided to never watch this show again. The amount of male misogyny and patriarchy is literally disgusting, within the context of this show. I don't care how or what people will say to justify the character of Samrat.
If we believe in fighting for the rights of women and other marginalized groups, we have to realize that it's not about just keeping your attitude in check but verbalizing the misogynistic images, symbols that are circulated by various political and social institutions, one is which the media.
First off, people are gushing and gooing over how hot the actor is, i don't understand, does being hot justify being emotionally abusive to one's wife, and threatening physical abuse like he did today. He literally said to Urmi, "today I've told you nicely, but next time I have other methods," what does that imply? Next time you will punch her. He literally said that only I have the right to speak in this house and how dare you speak back to me at all, and told his friend Ishaan this is what "real men are like."
UUMMM EXCUSE ME?! What does this support, not only does this support the patriarchal culture all around the world that justifies abuse, rape, murder, torture of women because that is how "REAL MEN ACT." This is disgusting, and I cringe thinking of the women who justify this by being like Urmi shouldn't have done that/Trisha deserved it or whatever, I AM SORRY but nothing justifies being a misogynistic pig and emotionally abusing someone.
YES he may have gone through hard times, but let's just center men's experience of hardships at the forefront and therefore justify their actions? So because they went through hard times it's okay to give someone else a hard time? And how long will we keep doing this, justifying violence for violence?! Like there are many people who go through hard times, will we excuse all their actions by stating that they went through horrible times.
This man, today, Samrat, literally justified his behaviour by saying words that abusers have said to those they have abused. And as a former victim of abuse I refuse to watch this, not only does it trigger memories, it's insensitive to those of us who know these people usually don't change, who have suffered abuse, and let me guess, in the end he will become good and we will totally forget all of this happened.
And i suppose women supporting this character would be okay having a husband such as him? I am sick of this show, and the female lead is weak, as usual, but THIS STILL DOES NOT MEAN it is OK, yes we need more strong female leads but this doesn't mean because she is weak WE PUT THE ONUS ON HER TO STAND UP. WHY ARE WOMEN CONSTANTLY BEING TOLD TO CHANGE THEIR BEHAVIOUR. That's the same as rape culture, you should cover up and go out, not that men should control their lust.
Just down with this patriarchy!
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
