Sandhya's kidney donation, wrong?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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I know that many people are frustrated that Sandhya is no longer an IPS officer and it is completely justified to be upset. But was she wrong in donating her kidney to Bhabho who she considers her mother?
I would say that no it is not wrong at all because it is saving someone's life. In all other situations it made sense when we said that Sandhya is not supporting Suraj and his struggle to fulfill her dream, but not this. In fact the kidney donation has nothing to do with if she loves Suraj or if she didn't trust Suraj in any way.

It is really sad that people are saying that the message to choose family over career was wrong; that is such a selfish statement. I personally am really ambitious and driven to make my career a success, but if I ever have to choose between that career (that I have worked so hard at) and the life of one of my loved ones, then I will without a doubt choose my loved one.

What will Sandhya have done with her position as an IPS officer if her husband would have drowned into depression and her family devastated with her mother being gone? Would have that shown her trust in Suraj and undying effort to keep him happy?

Finally what if it was Suraj in Bhabho's place who needed a kidney, would you all still be in favor of Sandhya not being the donor?

You cannot look at one side of the coin and make a decision. Apply it to your life, what would you do?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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My problem is not wid Sandy donating her kidney..!
I hv a problem wid CV's...the shows theme ws to make her an IPS...
CV's spoilt her career...der ws no need to bring KD drama...
If it wudn't hv affected her career , things wud hv been different

we all knew from before dt she donated d kidney , but ppl got frustrated bcoz CV's ruined the theme...dts the problem 😊

Anyways , when CV's don care , even I don't
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Posted: 10 years ago
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it is not about she donating
but hiding it from her husband who can understand her
better than anybody
is my POV

the cvs made her donate to highlight maa beti concept not diya baati concept
that is what looks pathetic

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Yeah... Agree with Maha.G... Main Theme of the show - A Husband supporting his wife to achieve her dream(IPS)... But unfortunately this KD drama is totally against her dream.. Tats y this frustration..

I do agree it is not at all bad thing to donate a kidney for ur loved ones.. cv's love drama.. so they butchered suraj character and now KD so tat story can be taken forward...Now we have all sort of possiblilities.. Sandy recovering... It wd be a little problem for sandy reg her duty as well as her family expansion plans... And again it all comes around with suraj support once again.. More Drama on the way...Or else we shld struck up with Sandy IPS duty alone which we have seen already... So i guess we shld go with the flow i guess..

Compared to BS and Re-HJ, this separation track was far good except for this KD..
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Thanks for your replies, and I get that the frustrations is with the CVS but if it happened it happened so we cannot blame the character. With this track happening the character did the right thing.
And about her not telling Suraj, yes that is not fair on her part because he deserves to know as her life partner.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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I respect your opinion, but this are the reasons I'm against KD...

1. Sandy ruined her career, the career which involves so many sacrifices of her dear husband. It went to the drain. She didn't think about it. Now I feel bad for Zak too, better let him win BCT isnt it...

2. More than the KD, it's her hiding which is getting on my nerves.

3. Putting family above career is fine, but DABH is about a dream of a girl as Maha pointed out; the show is meaningless now if sandy cant be an IPS anymore. Here the question is not about priority but sensibility.

TM, Im so sorry to disagree, I feel it's unfair to compare Sandy donating kidney to bhabo and with suraj in the same context... this is something we fans were protesting all this while , too much highlight of saas greatness & bahu sacrifices until it undermines husband wife -soul mate relationship...suraj's contributions to sandy as a husband is incomparable, bhabo cant come close to that...

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Main problem about the theme of the story! This KD changed all the theme of the show ! I'm in favor of donation and it is generous to donate an organ to the person in need! But DABH concept is not about that. CVs ruined the concept! Sandya donated her kidney out of love..I'm ok with that! But now this deception game she is playing with her husband and depriving him is way too much to digest!
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@TM
I don't say she shouldnt have be KD.but problem is it seems much more forced.
Bb is old enough.she married ,got children and grandchildren too. What else she need.but sandy is young and who didnt become Maa.ok ,if it was meant to be last strike.but why it used primary one.while dialysis is there,what's the need to KD first day itself.i don't know about medical much but i heard somewhere very few cases only gets negative result in dialysis.but here no discussion about dialysis. KD on first day itself when bb got sick.
Bb blood group mismatched with many.may be she hhaving AB- group.but what about sandy blood group.there is no mention about how her blood group matched with bbs.

My problem isnt sandy is KD but my problem is sandy is only possible KD.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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I don' t have any problem sandy donating Kidney but hiding it with her husband is really annoying ..if she didn't want her husband to know then why she came back immediately ..suraj said he will wait for 9 months,9 years or 9 birth ..and now she is playing childish game ..now it's all done ..suraj can't take that kidney back so she can explain him nicely and ask him to keep secret so at least he can take care of her ..now he will feel disgusted about his desire ..it's not right.
more than that Cvs shouldn't bring this kd track .
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Again thanks for all your replies, and I understand that the story is not about the saas-bahu rishta, but my argument is that if such a scenario has occurred, then it would be against Sandhya and Suraj's characters to choose career or dreams over their mother.
And saying that Bhabho has lived a good life does not mean that she should die.There is not a scale that says that one life is more important or valuable than another. Every life matters and every person matters no matter how young or old they are.

Why can't I compare Sandhya donating to Suraj with Sandhya's donation to Bhabho? Donating an organ or saving a life is not a bargain or deal that is supposed to see benefits and losses. If your point is that Suraj has done way more for Sandhya than Bhabho, then let me ask is Sandhya trying to repay her husband for his favors. Saving a life is supposed to be a selfless act not for your own benefit or saving yourself from problems.

In this case the only reason that I can agree with is Sandhya not telling Suraj the truth because as her life partner he deserves to know.

Anyway everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Maybe I am just looking at the situation from a deeper perspective than others so I can't believe the claims of career being greater than a life, the comparison of who deserves to live and who doesn't, and the way it is believed that one should only donate an organ if it doesn't harm their life in any way.

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