Aarti - THank you soooo much for obliging and putting up this post! Means a lot! I really wanted you to pen down on that thought, coz I knew , no one else could do justice better than you!!!
You and Gina together have really said it all , all that I felt and was finding it tad difficult to express in my usual style .... but may I dare to add a thought in here to all that you and Gina have already conveyed...
In the situations Aarti, which you have cited in your post, I understand that one is aware of another's pain and has been witness to it and also the attempt on the other's part to mask it under the shadow of humor and jest...
Gina has so well , added to your point that sublimation is a defense mechanism to prevent oneself from surrending to the burden of the intense pain... the only weighs down a sorrowful heart , ever so strongly with each passing moment....
But may I dare say , that much as my intent of the vid mix was to bring out this paradox of how the two emotions of pain and laughter are interlinked and are always not ignorable given the sensibilities of the one perceiving them....I also did wonder , how often was it , that we are able to sense the undercurrent of pain , in the humor and seemingly witty and comical statements of strangers we meet...
I guess... what I am getting at is that when we do interact with strangers as well and enjoy some good fun filled moments with them... and comment saying they have a sense of humor... that an undercurrent of painful tone that accompanies their sense of humor is palpable ... and it perhaps makes us appreciate their sense of humor all the more and also , get us thinking on the fact at times... that if the matters at hand , that we laughed at only moments ago , are really a matter to be laughed at ...?
I dare say, I spoke there from personal experience , in the sense that I have always been able to unknowingly ... and not really realizing, been able to sense a painful undertone to seemingly comic situations be it with strangers ... or even friends... and hence this sudden urge to share this thought , that has always been with me... for several years...
I guess as a child, I refused to laugh at things, that others found funny and never realized it ... but I jus thought it was not ok and something jus stopped me from laughing... and when I asked... I jus didnt have a reason... but knew... I was never gonna laugh at that...... and as I grew up... my desperation to understand this behavior has got me thinking... although this is the first ever time I shared it with someone and requested to write about it...
Thank you Aarti and Gina... for making it all so clear to me...!!!
I hope I made some sense there! If not ... my apologies for confusing all the more...
Like the wise say... Confusion of mind , spread on to many others is what leads to a perfect discussion! 😉
Edited by sareeta - 17 years ago