can A & R really go back to being AR once again..? - Page 7

Originally posted by: *Reemz*

Ofcourse they can be together again. Its an Indian Drama at the end of the day! You don't need to tax your brains over these kind of shows... 🤣

simple answer: yes they can! AR have matured from three years now, so it would be a def different angle to a love story :) Love is all about working with changes!

Originally posted by: CZ..

I don't get why AR fans have to put SR down to glorify AR in every arguement/discussion? is it so difficult to explain the POV without an indirect comparison?

okay. let's get to your arguement anyway. did SR marriage happen out of love? no. out of mutual consent? no. were they friends prior to the marriage? no. hence, notwithstanding the circumstances under which they got married (because that's a different debate altogether), factors like trust, love, care, compatibility develop over time. they don't come overnight just because two people happened to be married. SR will develop that kind of level of comfort and trust over time, and slowly, will fall in love too.

coming to AR, they fell in love, right? and even after being together for 3 years, there was no understanding, no trust, no compability. sparks flew when they were together, but that's pretty much about it. one would think that after being in a relationship for so long, all these factors would follow. there was too much friction, too much clash. besides, have SR spent 3 years together? no.

@bold - why so? why is it not easy to move on? why is it hard for sid to accept a wife who took a bullet for someone else? meaning tomorrow, if a take a bullet for a person but later break up with him, I wouldn't be able to get married in my life?

CZ you've captured my thoughts beautifully....it's true what you say.

Sid and Riddhima haven't had 3 years of being IN love but they do love each other and i think their love will be stronger because they've had the trust, companionship, loyalty, understanding, friendship and devotion happen first therefore when the love comes it'll be much stronger.

Not to take anything away from AR love and devotion, i agree that their love was strong too but i think there was more emphasis on the fact that they had that attraction and chemistry to each other and that made it strong for them, but in the long term a marriage or union of two people needs more. How many times did we see AR trying to pacify and make up after a while that gets tiring in a marriage.

I would really love to see AR move on and embrace the change that is being dealt to them.

Originally posted by: anitamalik

simple answer: yes they can! AR have matured from three years now, so it would be a def different angle to a love story :) Love is all about working with changes!

Originally posted by: CZ..

hmm, I wonder whether I should copy/paste that on the countless number of 'ridhima analysis' 'her looks/eys analysis', 'AR will get together because of reason # 1, 2, 3......n' topics too?

^ seriously anku, I don't understand why people have a problem with a simple and clean discussion too. 😕

Neetz fabulous post. 🤗

Can A & R get back together, frankly the answer is a big fat NO, they can't. Like many before me have mentioned, that too much has changed in both their lives for them to go back to being the same old AR.

The AR that were together at one point were naive, young, inexperienced and immature. It was their first encounter in the matters of the heart. Yes, they had however many years long relationship, but neither of them in that time grew, their relationship was just an element of immature make ups and break ups, and if not that then just playing corner-corner somewhere. Petty arguments are part of a relationship as it helps you grow and understand the other person better, but in their case after they made up, their next argument again was to do with the same issue they argued over the last one. This I am talking about from when Shilpa was R, but I am sure there was no difference even when the other two actresses played R. A relationship helps you grow, it teaches you things, values that you never thought you had. You get to know and understand each other, it helps unleash traits that you never knew you possessed. With A and R, even when they were in a relationship, it only gave them insecurity. They never had the blind trust or understanding that couples in a relationship share. Neither of them ever trusted each other enough to share there inner fears or thoughts with each other. Which I have noticed that R seems to share with S, because if she didn't she wouldn't have been openly discussing A, who is her ex, with her husband. That bond was missing in A and R. So even if they did get back to each other in some insane illogical way, then frankly it will just be an excess to the emotional baggage they're already carrying, the distance that has come between the two.

Regards to, if she can be basket any more, no I don't think she can be. We change over a period of time, we evolve and adapt to our experiences and surroundings, she's not the same bright eyed girl she was when she fell in love with A. Do I think she can ever be his basket if she was to go back to him? No, she won't be, because she's no more the girl he fell in love with or had known when they were together. Had this transition happened in her when they were together, it would have been a complete different ball game. He's still in love with the basket that he knew, he's still trying to find the R that he fell in love with, which is not there. Would their realtionship work now, with the way they both are? No, I have my doubts, she wouldn't not be able to give anything to their relationship, because she's been through too much with Sid, and she has grown to accept him, understand him and eventually she will fall in love with him, if she hasn't already. There is a huge difference in the relationship that she shared with A to the one she shares with S. With A, it was young first love, it was the first feelings that aroused in her, it was a bud, which never got the chance to bloom. With S, their love is what I would call mature love, the one which has mutual understanding, as its both S and R's second chance in life. It started of as a caterpillar which will eventually grow in to a butterfly.

A thought that occurred to me, would A and R want to get back together? Lets say for argument sake, I agree with the people that are saying that she still wants him or he is still pinning for her. But wanting to get back together and actually getting back with each other are two completely different things.

Originally posted by: -Edelweiss-

A thought that occurred to me, would A and R want to get back together? Lets say for argument sake, I agree with the people that are saying that she still wants him or he is still pinning for her. But wanting to get back together and actually getting back with each other are two completely different things.

Originally posted by: CZ..

why can't they be a part of the 99%? isn't the probability more? I don't know which 'success' cases you're talking about, but I personally think two damaged (and changed drastically) people cannot get back together and be normal again. ofcourse, exceptions are always there, but what's the probablity of defying gravity and flying in the sky without wings? (unless you're debating on exceptions, ofcourse)

hmm. okay. if she's not happy in her marriage, then she has all the right to break away. she doesn't have to live in a hollow relationship and hurt herself and her spouse. but where's the need to go back to your ex? 😕 just because your single again?

'hey I just got divorced from my husband, let's become GF-BF again!' - is that how it works?

Well.. I bellieve in that 1% 😊 and in the case of AR I think the chances are more than 1% and they r def not exceptions. The reason being both A and R have grown up and became more matured. They will be able to see their changed equation with more maturity once they back!!

On the personality change front our POVs are completely diff... I believe A and R were shown as their original self whenever they were together in their lighter moments. So AR will be AR again if they r together..

I want to give a second chance to AR (if and only if R cant do justice to SR marriage!!!)
Why she should go back to her ex...Coz the whole reason for her hollow marriage is her feelings for Ex!! So why should she remain single???

Anyways a nice, thought provoking post 👏