Riddhima and issue of Infidelity - Page 4

Originally posted by: lighteningbuzz

😲Are CRV's completely out of their mind or what?!? After watching the promos of AR's romantic moments I shut my TV disgusted with disbelief of what they're actually showing.

Now, I don't know if those promos are someone's imagination or what? But, if they're shown as actual incidents taking place then I have lost all respect for the character of Riddhima. I don't support the fact that Riddhima is not at fault here even though she's not "officially" having an affair with Armaan and is actually trying to stay away from both Sid and Armaan. Becuz, She is at FAULT! Here are my reasons I believe so:

Riddhima's Faults

1.) First of all when Ridzy collides with Armaan she seems to eye-lock with him in such a passionate way. Isn't that giving him an idea that she's into him? Really, if someone looks at someone like that?? What is it implying here? But, yet when he is trying to get close to her she gives him a stern look or acts hard to get. If she loves Armaan then this is unfair to her husband, Sid because she is in a way keeping him in the dark. If she still has feelings for Armaan she should just straight up tell her husband instead of giving Sid all these misunderstandings, hope, and letting him wait for her. In today's episode when Armaan tried to get close to her, she acted all stern about it. She knows clearly well why Armaan is acting this way becuz, her husband, Sid told him that she still loves him. I mean if she doesn't like him trying to get close to her again then she should just straight up tell Armaan that she doesn't like it and doesn't love him anymore instead letting him weave dreams and hopes of them together! Her silence and failure to clarify her feelings lets both men assume whatever they want. So, she shouldn't be surprised when she feels no one understands her!

Good point here Buzzy...i completely agree with you...this is not fair to either sid or armaan...giving both of them hopes...she has to talk...she cant go on running forever like this...The point is, even if he is carrying u coz u ve hurt urself or watever the justification, i d ve liked it if ridhhima wud be uncomfortable! but we see her gazing into armaan's eyes like a pup n there s no sign of awkwardness...n i dun wanna get into armaan n his actions...the butchering of his character has started as well...

2.) What's more disgusting is that she does the same thing to Sid. Whenever they collide she manages to eye-lock with him in the same intensive way and they're shown looking into each other's eyes passionately. I mean what is wrong with this woman? Is she interested in both of them? Cuz, she is clearly giving both guys the wrong signals instead of just being clear about her feelings to both of them and eye-locking with just one person whom she truly loves.

Exactly! She seems to melt under Sid's gaze as well...wats going on here...i think the CVs, in order to please a certain section of the fans have incorporated these lovey dovey scenes for AR but wat they are forgetting is this show is watched by young impressionable minds n ppl really are exceptionally attached to this show..its a very wrong message they are sending out here tht its alright to romance ur ex even if u r married..am sorry but thts not acceptable..

3.)I understand that the examples I am stating aren't adultry but, it is still not being loyal to the person you love and giving the wrong signals to both guys! If people say there's nothing wrong with eye-locking scenes between the three of them then how would you feel if you found your own gf/bf or husband/wife eye-locking in such a passionate way with someone else. I think AR fans would agree with me on how she stares at Armaan and SR fans would agree with me on how she stares at Sid!

We know in real life how enraged women get when their husband/bf even stare at another girl and how hyper men get if they find their women looking at other men. (And I don't mean it in a sense where they're staring at celebrities here I am talking in a sense that they are actually staring at someone they know or their ex)

I'd like to state my view on infidelity and cheating so to speak. For me cheating on ur partner is not just about getting intimate with someone physically...for me even if you are emotionally and mentally thinking bout someone else while u r still committed to ur partner, its cheating for me! Wat differentiates love n marriage is the word 'Commitment' - a legal, moral, ethical, spiritual and emotional commitment n this is a big step...y else wud ppl think n no. of times before getting married..coz it means something...Its a Commitment!
The problem is ppl r taking this too lightly...in real life if something like this happens wit them, they d be devastated...but in the name of fiction they think its alright..am sorry its not...coz as i said ppl do take these things seriously n it affects them!

4.)I say to all girls who are supporting AR's loving scenes even though she's married that how would you feel as a woman if you had a husband and he was in the same situation as Riddhima! How would you feel if your husband's past love flame comes back and he gets all confused! And he's not telling you or his past flame what he wants but, yet he manages to have eye-locks with both of you in subtle affectionate manner thus confusing both of you who he really likes and at last you see him in Lonavala picking up his ex-flame.......you guys would be enraged at him for playing with your feelings like that so, how do you think Sid feels? 😔

The irony of the situation is tht if these roles were reversed...as in if it was sid in armaan's place n vice versa, the same ppl who are going ga ga over these scenes wud be abusing sid left right n center...so dun even ask this question! I really wonder if this were to happen to them in real life wud they turn around n say its alright hubby darling i know u r in love wit ur ex. Its totally acceptable!

4.) And as for the circumstances of her marriage I don't even want to go there. As she was clearly not forced to get married and Sid practically refused to marry her but, she cried and begged him to marry her. It's not like her dad and Sid were holding a gun on her head to sit on the mandap! I know it was done under society's pressures but, she was given a choice. Now if people tell you to go jump of the bridge because that's the conventional thing to do are you actually going to do it just becuz, others say so? People are basically telling you but, in the end its you who has to think for yourself.

5.) I find her selfish because she seems to always think about herself and her feelings but, not even consider what both the guys are going through and looking at the situation from both of their point of view! She seems to blame both guys but, doesn't even find faults in herself at why she has still failed to express her feelings about what she wants to both men in her life and why is it taking her so long to figure out who she truly loves. Both men want answers from her and she's clearly not giving it to them!

Someone said that even if you are married its okay to cheat if you love someone else because love is greater than any morals of infidelity.

First of all is love selfish? What I mean by that is that is it okay for someone to cheat on their husband/wife if they are in love with someone else? I mean is it really love when its at the cost of "cheating" behind someone's back and hurting so many people! And how is it love which has to be done in a secretive manner and which can't even stand up for itself. I call it cowardly love. If you don't love your husband/wife you shouldn't even be with them in first place becuz, not are you lying to yourself but, you are not at the same time allowing them to be in a meaningful relationship and find true love. If you tell your spouse that the relationship isn't working out then that's another thing but, if you are cheating behind your spouse's back then you are taking away their right to even believe in love and trust again. 🥱

It's easy to talk about doing things when it comes to another person. But, when it comes to ourselves we hold a complete different opinion. For those of you who say that love is more stronger and its okay to cheat if its for the sake of love. Then I guess you will have no problem if your husband/bf who you love cheats on you and tells you that its becuz, he "fell in love" or was "already in love with someone else" before you came. 💔

Very well said...the meaning and definition of love has often been twisted to suit our own interpretations of it...yes it is a term tht means different things to different ppl but there are certain things tht r universal about it...For me commitment is the most powerful thing...simply because i have seen ppl truly madly deeply in love...but they dont get married easily coz commitment for seven lives is a bigger thing...had it not been like tht everyone who s in love or thinks he s in love wud get married n then walk out of it if it dint work out...but it doesnt work like tht coz once u commit, u r basically saying tht u wud do everything in ur capacity to fulfill this commitment..Mind u am not talking bout cases of domestic violence, sexual abuse or any such circumstances. These r completely extraordinary ones. Am talking purely based on a situation like Sid n Riddhima's...breaking a marriage coz ur ex turns up is not a reason! n for all those who say this marriage was forced or it is loveless...they can watch the episodes from 1st Jan 2010 onwards again...

Originally posted by: lnmdjrocksss

@What's the right of this man to get upset?

I felt like laughing at this😆....lol he doesnot even have the right to get upset?these r human emotions and deffinitely not under anyones control

The same opportunistic Armaan did tell Mrs Riddhima Modi that if she wasn't comfortable wid him around she can tell Dr Keerti

@Armaan ko toh Sharam hi nahi hain and Armaan's behaviour is like "A Dog Wagging it's Tail".

Your opinion accepted😃

very well written n completely agree with evrything u have said! 👍🏼 👏

Originally posted by: uppaas

TM ...fantastic post as thodi hum na uska naam CHUDAIL raka hai..She is a 2 timing idio tI am married 4 a long time and have had nasty fights with my hubby but I dont want 2 EVER GO BK 2 MY EX .NEVER.

As A woman if my ex cum in front of me i will not acknowlege him .

Ridz is a 2 timing idiot who is the cause of misery to the guys.

I dont know what a and S love her 4????

And the viewers bigger idiots to want their So called eternal lover to go 2 a weirdo.........

Originally posted by: Sue101

ok now my two cents..i did not read the full content of the topic..one because im not for it..but wanted to read and comment because i know u are a AR fan and i will be hurt to see you turning anti AR buzzy is an AR fan? I dint know this 😲

now the scenes of AR..i think you have seen the show earlier even if not from day 1 but definitely before marraige of ridhimma..see the eyelocks how ridhimma would contribute equally in par with ammy on the lovescenes... i can bet you except for the first time in the pune incident where she was very happy to know that armaan is hale and healthy and went hugged him 4th time with all love but realized the truth in seconds and ran away..and from then on due to confusions the men are tryin to get closer to her with all true love..even if she has love for one and liking for the other..she did not not show that in her eyes ..but she does tend to melt under the gaze of both the men...

ridhimma was unable to avoid some closeness with both of the guys immediately when they reacted probably because men being stronger but she did after some time but all the time her eyes did not have a bit of love or liking being expressed to men even if wshe had that inside her after all she is the weaker sex on the emotional side even if she tried the best to show up strong mentally. well we are talking specifically about yesterday's episode n the precap...on both the occasions, she s having intense eye locks wit armaan...n she did the same wit sid after the operation wen he asks her to lissen to him just once

i dont agree that she is giving hope to either of the men and definitely trying at all possible incidents to make them go away from her for they not getting to be hurt anymore because of her..because the guys atleast ammy thinks that he is the reason for her pain which he says and we all know that..sid has never said that..he believes in actions speak louder than words n thts y he wanted to set her free by sending the DP! and ridhimma i can understand that is what she is feeling even without telling it out.

i for one even if she is going to show love to ammy in the coming scenes, can understand her not being wrong asit is very human and if such incindents of loosing on to ammy is going to continue more then she has to talk to the guyz to take a decision to go with love or with societal obligations..and the person who is not getting her should walk away from her making sure that she does not gets wounded because of not choosing the guy, and that proves the real love of him to her??
sorry...no amount of explanation n nothing can justify her getting all lovey dovey wit her ex till the time she s married to sid...keep urself in sid's position n then tell me if u wud be ok to see ur husband have intense eye locks n get intimate wit ur ex under wat ever circumstances...had i seen some awkwardness or any sign of her feeling uncomfortable, i d have given her the benefit of doubt tht mayb there was no other option but for armaan to pick her up but no thts not the case n hence its not acceptable for me...

Originally posted by: rapunzel84

First of all, Sid didn't even want to marry her and why the heck did she put him through the marriage in first place if it was just a compromise for her! Marriage is a responsibility you take with a lot of thought and consideration which is why marriage is taken so seriously. It's just not fair that she herself emotionally forced Sid into marrying her and now that her ex is back she should be like "Oh yeah thanks for marrying me and saving me from the society but, hey my ex came back I gotta go now bye as I don't need you anymore!"

Originally posted by: Sue101

ok now my two cents..i did not read the full content of the topic..one because im not for it..but wanted to read and comment because i know u are a AR fan and i will be hurt to see you turning anti AR

now the scenes of AR..i think you have seen the show earlier even if not from day 1 but definitely before marraige of ridhimma..see the eyelocks how ridhimma would contribute equally in par with ammy on the lovescenes... i can bet you except for the first time in the pune incident where she was very happy to know that armaan is hale and healthy and went hugged him 4th time with all love but realized the truth in seconds and ran away..and from then on due to confusions the men are tryin to get closer to her with all true love..even if she has love for one and liking for the other..she did not not show that in her eyes ..

ridhimma was unable to avoid some closeness with both of the guys immediately when they reacted probably because men being stronger but she did after some time but all the time her eyes did not have a bit of love or liking being expressed to men even if wshe had that inside her after all she is the weaker sex on the emotional side even if she tried the best to show up strong mentally.

i dont agree that she is giving hope to either of the men and definitely trying at all possible incidents to make them go away from her for they not getting to be hurt anymore because of her..because the guys atleast ammy thinks that he is the reason for her pain which he says and we all know that..sid has never said that..and ridhimma i can understand that is what she is feeling even without telling it out.

i for one even if she is going to show love to ammy in the coming scenes, can understand her not being wrong asit is very human and if such incindents of loosing on to ammy is going to continue more then she has to talk to the guyz to take a decision to go with love or with societal obligations..and the person who is not getting her should walk away from her making sure that she does not gets wounded because of not choosing the guy, and that proves the real love of him to her??